I am used to chasing affection from girls. Why do I feel that something is wrong with my current girlfriend because she wants me more than I want her?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Ah man, I feel you on that. It can definitely throw you for a loop when the roles are reversed and the girl is more into you than you're used to being into them.

For one thing, us guys are conditioned to be the chasers, so it's out of our comfort zone when they're chasing us instead. We want to feel like we "won" them over, you know?

But there's nothing really wrong with your girl wanting you a lot. She probably just really likes you! Be flattered, my man. It's actually kind of dope to have someone treating you like you're a big deal for once.

I think what's bugging you deep down is that you're scared of hurting her feelings or not being able to live up to that level of attention. Which is normal to worry about - relationships are a two-way street.

My advice would be to keep communicating with her openly. Let her know you need some space sometimes but that you really care about her too. Compromise is key so you both feel comfortable.

And hey, give it time. Let those feelings grow instead of running away just cuz it's different than what you're used to. She could end up being the best thing that ever happened to you. Keep an open mind, my guy!

[summertime98]

I guess the real question is, is she your person? Because if she was, I don’t think you’d be asking this question.