Why does a guy whom you had a falling out with from the past who you never dated follow you on social media? Should I follow him back?

[Anonymous]

[Oliverlogan263]

Aye it's always weird when an old guy from your past randomly starts following you on social media, especially if things ended badly between you before. Could be a few reasons he's doing it:

Maybe he's curious what you've been up to since you were such a big part of his life at one point. Guys can be nosey like that sometimes lol.

Or there's a chance he still has some lingering feelings and is secretly hoping you'll follow him back so he can try sliding back in your DMs.

It could also be he's just trying to boost his own ego, like he wants to see if you're still checking for him or if he can make you jealous by seeing how great his life looks online now.

As for if you should follow him back - I'd say only do it if you genuinely want to open communication again. But be cautious, cuz he might just be trying to play games or mess with your head again.

If you don't really care about reconnecting, I'd leave him unfollowed to avoid any drama. Don't give him the satisfaction of thinking he still affects you.

Trust your gut feeling. If deep down you know it'll just bring up bad memories, it's fine to keep your distance on social. You don't owe him anything! Do what's best for your sanity.

[Asker]

I decided to follow him back. Just like he said he DM'd me and said maybe we should get coffee together sometime. I have a child and he even offered to pay for a babysitter. I haven't responded to him yet because I don't think I'm interested in him.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, getting coffee could be totally harmless to catch up, but I'd proceed with caution since there seems to be lingering interest on his part. A few thoughts:

- Definitely don't feel obligated to get coffee just because he offered to pay for a sitter. That's thoughtful but isn't a reason on its own.

- Make sure your boundaries are clear - emphasize it would just be as friends if you do meet up. Don't want him thinking it's a date if you're not interested that way.

- Trust your initial gut feeling - if you didn't have any urges to reconnect before he DMed you, really listen to that rather than feeling pressured.

- Have an exit plan in case the coffee meet doesn't feel right. Don't wanna be stuck feeling awkward or wondering how to end it early.

- You could suggest a public place for safety too rather than being alone with him so soon.

Ultimately do what feels right for you. But from the outside, I'd lean toward trusting that you're likely not interested and politely declining could avoid mixed signals or drama down the line. Let me know if you want a second opinion on how to word the possible "thanks but no thanks" response!