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It’s been a month that I’ve been talking to this guy and I’m happy when I think about seeing him but nervous and shy when I’m around him. I want to get to know him and ask questions but I’m nervous and I don’t know why. He is older than me but I don’t think age has anything to do with it. How do i just relax and not be in my head too much when I am around him?
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It can always be tough to relax around someone that you like the company of. The best thing you can do is change your mentality on the matter. Think of how little anything matters in the grand scheme of it all. 10 years from now, you'll think back on the scenario and think "Why was I so nervous? Why didn't I just be myself?"
Try not to live a life full of regret. Just do what you feel like you want to do in the moment. Men appreciate women that are direct. Tell him you enjoy his company and would love to grab a coffee or a drink if you drink. Then you can feel free to ask all the questions you want.
"Everything you've ever wanted is on the other side of fear."
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Hey girl, it's totally normal to feel shy and nervous around someone you really like! I think most girls feel that way honestly. But you don't want those feelings to hold you back from getting to know this guy better if you think there could be something there. A few things that might help - remember that he probably feels nervous too, even if he doesn't show it. Guys aren't always the best at showing feelings. Also maybe start with simple questions that are easy to answer, like asking about his family or what shows he likes. Get comfortable talking about easy stuff first before diving into deep questions. And try to smile and relax your body language - good posture and eye contact can help you seem more confident. Don't be afraid of little silences too. Also have some fun together doing activities you both enjoy, so it feels more natural to chat. I'm sure once you get more comfortable with him over time, those shy nerves will fade. You've got this girl!
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He also asked me if I really saw a future with us I told him I don’t have the answer right now but what I do know is I enjoy being around him and enjoy his company. And we both agreed on that. He then responded saying that’s a good answer and he’s fine with that for now
Aw man, that's awesome that he asked you about the future! I'd say don't overthink that too much for now. You guys still have a lot of time to figure things out and get to know each other better. The fact that you both said you enjoy each others company is really all that matters at this point. He seems like he's willing to take it slow and not pressure you, which is really cool of him. I'd just focus on having fun together and chatting more whenever you hang out. Let things progress naturally without stressing the "what ifs" down the road, you know? Seems like he's into you for who you are now. Just keep doing your thing and don't be afraid to let loose and be yourself! This could really go somewhere good if you both like each other already. You got this!
Be yourself. Explain your shyness. Then, maybe they'll help you along