Would you date a woman that is socially awkward or would that be a dealbreaker?

[Anonymous]

“Socially awkward” in this case means a bit on the shy side (not can’t read social cues or does weird/off the wall things in social situations).

[sawno]

Can be a deal breaker because the biggest turn off for me tends to be when I am the one making all the effort to keep a conversation going. I seek a partner who can have lengthy deep conversations with me since I love those so much and one of the best moments in my last relationship where those moments where we'd just talk for hours every day about whatever we were in the mood to talk about.

So, is missing social cues or doing weird of the wall things a deal breaker for me. No, I don't mind that at all. But shyness will be if you don't have the ability to hold a conversation. I am very easy to talk to so I know for a fact that if the conversation isn't flowing that it isn't my fault and I will know exactly which replies made it that way. I always make sure there are plenty of chances and openings for her to add to the conversation and ill be waiting for the moment where the boring small talk escalates into an interesting rabbit hole that flows so naturally that by the end of it we wonder how we even got on to that subject. Want to know when that doesn't happen? Basic boring replies to my attempts to get it going.

So ill name an example, lets say I ask what you enjoy and you respond with something such as "I like gaming". That's a bad answer since its so limiting (I love gaming to, its the way it was answered) but ill tolerate it. Ill try again, "Oh me to! What kind of games do you enjoy?" *Hopes for something in common so we can dive deeper*. If you then respond with something like "I like RPG's" that's a bad sign. At this point I am probably tired of fishing an in depth answer out of you and switch tactics, ill let you know the kind of games I enjoy and I happen to have a favorite RPG game so I might begin to talk about that one in depth to give you plenty of things to hook in to. If you don't that's again me carrying the entire conversation.

By the end of if I am left feeling like I carried that whole conversation and it was a chore of getting anything out of you then you will never talk to me again since I have no reason to talk to you since I got nothing from it. And the above is one of the good scenarios where at least we have something in common. Had you said "Horses" that's even worse since then I can't deep dive either since I don't relate to that I could only ask you for basic questions, it will probably go nowhere and then the best chance of diving deep is one of my topics if you take the bait.

Now if you recognize yourself in the above luckily this is an easy fix, because if you are the "I don't really know how to do this" kind of overthinker you are probably logical enough to where I can explain it to you very logically.

The trick to escalate from a boring conversation to something fun is to maximize the amount of things the other person can respond to. So when someone asks you what you like, don't just say one thing say a few to maximize your chances of your talking partner to relate to something. If one topic is chosen then make sure to be in depth but in a way the other can probably relate.

So instead of answering it closed such as "I like RPG's" you could do something such as "I love games where they give me interesting choices, for example there is this one game called Witcher 3 where there is a moment where you have to either kill an evil spirit or set it free so that it can rescue children you encountered earlier from some evil witches. Its stuff like that I really like to explore and then see the impact of my actions". Now I don't just know you like RPG's, I know why you like RPG's, I am interested in what choice you made in that one, why you made it and what the outcome was. Even if I never played an RPG myself I could now ask you about the reasoning behind your choice, what I would have done if I had to make it, the outcome I would have expected instead, etc. Basically answering that one question in a more detailed way opens up a lot of opportunities for a natural conversation. Do that throughout and its easy talking.

I hope that helps!

[HawkPerception]

Hmm... it depends on how socially awkward we're talking about. I consider myself somewhat socially awkward. I don't know what to say in certain scenarios and sometimes read the room incorrectly and say something I shouldn't, but I don't think it's to the point of being hopeless. I would date someone around that level.

But if they're on the border of being mentally ill in terms of social awkwardness and embarrassing to be with because of the way they act and what they say, then that's where my line is.

I'm completely fine with shy, although I'd prefer a more outgoing girl that has a lot to say on topics.

[WhitneySnow]

A lot of guys love shy girls. I’ve seen it happen a lot.

[Alexandria84]

I’ve dated socially awkward women not a deal breaker.

[Alexandria84]

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[Summeroflove]

It’s not a dealbreaker no as long as she’s got a good heart that’s the most important thing really

[Sharkstealth]

What is socially awkward? I saw this woman the other day probably 40s in tight female gym shorts. I was on the second story looking on to the gym floor and she was doing standing leg presses. She was doing them backwards so that her butt and crotch were exposed bending over in front of me. Of course i was distracted because its perfect doggy position with her camel toe on display.

Is this socially awkward? I think many things can be and its not necesarily shyness that causes it. It can also be the opposite of shyness. I think that she wanted my dick though but im plenty accustomed to this behavior.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

It depends. Like I can talk for days so sometimes it's actually not the end of the world. I think my ex got good at talking because she was sick of listening to me all the time.

If I can't take her anywhere then it's a problem. As I get older a woman isn't just a romantic partner to me I want her to at least have the capacity to be a social partner with me when needed.

For a guy having a woman who can do this is a game changer, the kind that changes your tax bracket.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

I'd say drop the term socially awkward here, because, even in double quotes, that label contradicts the "a bit on the shy side". So many people can be qualified as "a bit on the shy side" which puts you right in the range of normality, of standard personality, in my opinion

[ProbablyClueless]

That could easily be a dealbreaker for me. I've seen women act like such spazzes and that behavior can easily throw social interactions sideways.

I'm a pretty socially adept person, so I definitely want a woman who can handle herself in social situations.

[magiusX26]

i dont date period. as to your description, part of whst makes "socially awkward" is the shiness causes some sort of social mess up into those "weird" or "off the wall" things at least some of the times. seems like what you are calling socially awkward shiness is more a lack of self confidence shiness. subtlely different from each other but also can be both in one person.

[Berethor]

Girls tend to be passive anyway, she virgin? then good, but it be hard to talk to her at first.

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[Factualobserver]

Socially awkward is fine. I like reserved and modest.. much better to be socially awkward than post half naked pictures of yourself to instagram. It's attractive to be modest and a bit reserved but it depends how awkward ya know? You have to be able to talk to people and hold a good conversation at least.

[morganherrel]

I personally don't mind because I am comfortable with silence and can enjoy another's presence without talking. It helps if at least one in the relationship has the social grace to reset any awkwardness that arises.

[TDDMS]

In my experience, no. Socially awkward women are charming at first, but after interacting with them it can become quite tiresome.

[Asker]

How so?

[TDDMS]

Female social awkwardness is mistaken for her crushing on a man. So it appears cute at first, but once a man dates her it becomes tiresome. How it becomes tiresome is that the man has to constantly give her assurance that she is fine or great. And not only does that apply in social situations, but also during and after sex.

[EnjoytheDay777]

That's totally fine. Shy is cool. I think it's a matter of finding something that interests you (this coming from a shy person who never stops talking when I start talking about things I'm passionate about with someone).

[ArrowheadSW]

A bit on the shy side is fine. It can actually be a bit attractive.

[paledreams]

I'd like a socially awkward 24 year old pale woman as my girlfriend 😋 fit and doesn't even need sports or the gym to stay fit

[paledreams]

Yet obviously I for one am not a nerd, so respectfully if the woman is brighter than me or needs glasses or contacts, I'm not her nerd 🤓

[LiamJHayden]

I am really extroverted, so I would just have to be especially aware that the crowds that energizeme might completely drain her and plan accordingly.

[jshm2]

Depends. If she's ditzy and/or autistic, then yes. We don't need more retards reproducing.

[Huntingnfishin]

Depends on if our personalities meshed. If we get connect with eachother who cares how she is around other people

[Jersey2]

Not a problem unless she wouldn’t go out with me to friends, restaurants, movies, plays, travel, family events etc.

[EmotionOfFear]

Shy? I can do that. It's cute in some situations, even. But being unable to read social cues/read a room/doing weird and wild things in social situations? Absolute dealbreaker.

[bowenw]

It would depend on what exactly she did in social situations.

[Tim2nice]

I would. That wouldn’t bother me. If I like her enough I don’t care

[Easy1134]

Yes, I would. It might present some challenges but if I liked her it wouldn't matter.

[art84]

I am socially awkward though can make small talk. I don't know what you mean about weird things.

[MyBrainsInsaneReign]

A certain amount of social awkwardness can be cute. It can even be a turn-on. Just as long as she's not so awkward that she seems like she's mentally impaired.

[dragoblack]

I would date a socially awkward woman. It's her personality & morality that really matters.

[TurboAnon]

I find social awkwardness to be quite cute, so I totally would.

[Inthelines]

It's a good thing that women have poor social skills

[hotplan007]

Not at all! I think as long as she is into. the guy and the guy likes her, then that's all that matters

[Anonymous]

Probably not. But not because she's socially awkward.

[exitseven]

It's okay with me. I am pretty awkward myself

[slatyb]

I totally would. I find it a bit endearing.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It would be fine with me

[ohmyguy]

Yes im sure it would be a good opportunity

[KostasKouvalis]

I'd prefer it, honestly

[DextroShade]

I prefer shy women.

[scott04sa22]

Everything seems fine

[Jpie555]

Dealbreaker… unless she’s super hot!😛

[Asker]

Why?

[Jpie555]

Because it’s awkward to be around awkward people- men or women!

[justabuddy]

Nah... we can over come that together.

[robocop666]

if she's hot I dont care

[Anonymous]

No, because I'm also socially awkward.

[dudeinohio]

No problem

[Walksbehindtherows]

Exactly

[shortster]

I would

[impalabill77]

I would date her.