As a single mom is it bad to turn down a guy because he is 6 inches shorter?

[Anonymous]

[Summeroflove]

Is that really the only reason? I mean if you aren’t super skinny anymore is it okay for a dude to turn you down over that?

At the end of the day you can turn down anybody you want to turn down, but at the same time anybody can turn you down for any even no reason at all as well.

If you’re not attracted to someone you’re not attracted just be kind and be direct. It’s not that that person cannot find someone whose genuinely interested it’s just not you.

As for me who someone is on the inside matters a lot more then something that cannot be controlled, such as height as well as other things. Someone cannot control how short/tall they are. But they can control if they’re a good person, decent person, bad person, or a straight up shitbag.

[ohsheeT]

Well I don't know if it's bad but I mean it's your choice.

I mean you can always introduce him as your older son.

Or for Christmas you could buy them a pair of shoes that have 6 inch lifts.

Would you have to ask yourself is who he is on the inside is he kind is he smart is he happy does he make his life just about him or does he put you and your kids it's not always what they look like is who they are on the inside.

I'm not going to say it's better if it's good I mean because it's only your choice nobody else's

[natured]

As a human being, it's shallow, yes, but if it's your preference then why do you have to justify it?
As a matter of fact, just because you have kids, doesn't mean you don't deserve something of your preference... just be happy

[MemeSupreme]

no bc if it bothers ya then it bothers ya

can't control that but it's definitely superficial lol

[Asker]

Why is it superficial? It's perfectly normal for any woman to want a guy that is taller than them for obvious reasons.

[MemeSupreme]

bc saying no to someone bc of their looks or height is superficial when they can't control it

not insulting you by the way. everyone is superficial when it comes to dating in some way lol

[Asker]

You have to be attracted to the person you're dating otherwise it won't work. I think you have to be superficial in that regard

[MemeSupreme]

yeah it's normal

[Finchie40]

Not if that’s your preference, if you prefer a taller guy than you prefer a taller guy , so your preferences are your preferences. Of what you like and don’t like

[RebelinSteel]

It’s your preference, your choice so it’s not wrong, people have all sorts of expectations, standards, wants etc from a prospective partner. For me my main thing is how we get on, compatibility, how much fun, laughs, how well we gel together, that for me is important, I’m not going to reject someone that does all of that for not having blonde hair, or being 5’6 or not having blue eyes etc.

Others can do what they want, reject because she has a tattoo they find after 3 months, she’s not exactly 3 inches shorter, she’s got a kid or kids, she’s 2 months outside of their +- 2 year requirement.

[lightbulb27]

you can have your criteria. Other taller girls don't seem to mind, go figure. You are the one that has to be happy, so ask yourself what you are thinking and why.

But a lot of girls are competing for those tall guys. I've seen a tall girl score her tall guy... by getting preganant. A crafty strategy.

[Makeushiver]

Why should there be any value judgement to a decision based on what you like. I don't think her taste in men has an answer that can be qualified as "bad" or "good". It could be smart or stupid but even that is a stretch. I prefer the way Buddhists refer to things in life and our responses. The terms they use are "skillful" and "unskillful"

[Anonymous]

I’m not taking a girl who’s 6” taller than me. Especially if she’s a single mother. But no if he isn’t what you want height wise there’s nothing wrong w that. That’s a preference. Just don’t get mad if someone doesn’t want you based on their preference, like you being a single mother.

[Asker]

I don't think guys will reject me for being a single mother

[Opinion Owner]

Not all, but a lot will. It’s not really in a man’s best interest to date a single mom. Again would you let him discipline your child if it meant spanking?

[Asker]

I actually would let them discipline my child. Why isn't it in the best interest to date a single mom for a man?

[Opinion Owner]

Because it’s a lot of baggage. Especially if you’re still dealing w the ex. Your finances go up significantly if he’s taking care of you plus your child. I’m sure you want a man who is going to provide. Everything revolves around said child. So she’s not as free to go out on dates, random trips, etc. A lot of single mother’s are usually an emotional wreck because many of them can’t handle being a single mother.

[BadApple69]

We can turn down anyone for any reason. Height is as good a reason as anything. Personally I wouldn’t want a girl taller then me… so I could understand.

[Asker]

Why wouldn't you want a woman taller than you?

[BadApple69]

I’m 6’2” tall…. I am very used to kissing down, not up.

[DannyUk2017]

You're a "single mom" that explains it! You start the "search" but Search is Time! And Time is Not Your Friend! By the time you'll realise/find "the one" it could be too Late! 🤷‍♂️

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I mean, if 6 inches is what it takes to ruin a decision that could change you and your child's life forever then that's your decision.

[thearchjoker]

You have a right to your preferences though if it is your only reason it does sound a little vain. nevertheless each to their own.

[Fireguy17]

nope, just like guys will turn down a woman for being too tall, or her boobies are too small, or her hair color is wrong, or too short or too long...

[chrissykerdock]

idated guys 5 3 and i'm 5 10 i you don't like short guys that's up to you

[Berethor]

Short male are low quality men, single moms are low quality women, didn't it fitting?

[Twalli]

Pretty shallow. I mean if he's perfect in every other way, it's shallow that you are turning down a guy that is what you want but is a lot shorter.

[Asker]

If I'm 6'0, wouldn't it be weird dating someone that much shorter?

[Twalli]

Not unless you make it weird. Is it weird that my mom made a lot more than my dad? Is it weird that Taylor Swift is far richer than Travis Kelce? It's not to them, so it isn't weird.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Not to be mean, but unless you're a buxom chick, being a single mom limits your options, girlie !!!

[Asker]

How does being a single mom limit my options?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Not many lads want a single mom because ideally, your children should be your most important people, with a lad being a FAR LESS pressing issue.

[LiamJHayden]

You are still entitled to your preferences. Of course if you are like 6'6, you might want to settle for 6" shorter.

[morganherrel]

Well... height might not be your highest priority
May I ask how tall you are?

[Asker]

I am 6'0

[EnjoytheDay777]

If you're not attracted to him, you're not attracted to him.

[Jmmmfi4]

YOU GIRLS ARE SO FUCKING SUPERFICIAL ITS RIDICULOUS

y'all BITCH YOU can't FIND A GUY THEN YOU TURN ONE DOWN OVER 6 INCHES GTFOH

[Anonymous]

Is it bad he turns you down because you're a single mom with an over inflated ego?

[Asker]

Why do I have an over inflated ego? I'm 6'0, don't you think it will be weird dating someone that much shorter?

[Opinion Owner]

No not at all

[Opinion Owner]

Why should you care what other people think. Do you like the guy yes or no? That should be all that matters

[Asker]

It's not so much what other people think. If a man is supposed to be a protector, how can he protect me being that short?

[Opinion Owner]

By knowing how to defend himself in a fight and knowing when to walk away. Listen I used to get into confrontations with people who were 6'4 400+lbs and I walked away just fine while they were scared out of their minds and calling for backup who were also scared. Wits brains over height strategy over height.

[slatyb]

If you aren't attracted, then you just aren't.

[CubaPirate]

Not if you're only 5ft 4in lol

[Asker]

I'm 6'0

[CubaPirate]

Nah not bad of you

[Ladsin2]

Seems like a non sequitur to me.

[Drewtate]

Yes. And unrealistic

[Asker]

How is it unrealistic?

[Drewtate]

Expecting to be able to date the same kind of guys you did before you had a kid. If he's a good guy you should look past such minor faults as height

[Asker]

More guys are interested in me since I became a single mom

[Drewtate]

Yes because you an easy lay.

[Asker]

Not true. Multiple guys have wanted to marry me but I turned them down. They want serious relationships.

[Drewtate]

Denial not just a river in Egypt

[noohair]

In what way?

[Maybeyoutoo]

Nope

[Anonymous]

Bad for who?

[Jpie555]

Not necessarily