Have you ever given a great break up kiss just so you’d be remembered with passion and desire whenever he thinks of you?

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So I went on a date with the man I’ve been seen for a while and which I know would be the last date, because I felt nothing other than physical attraction to this guy, he’s just good looking, no depth or anything… And I am not interested in just that. So I was sure, I wouldn’t meet up again, but I was very attracted to him, so I kissed him really memorably and left right as I realized he was madly into me.

BCRanger10 · Accepted Answer

No.  What?  No. Just... no. That's a terrible idea. I'm sorry, but that is a really,  really  bad idea. You're not giving foreign invaders the fight of their lives so that they remember what it took to conquer your land, or an opposing sports team in a championship game or something like that.  You're ending a relationship.  Most people, when they break up, don't want to remember or miss their former partner. They want to get on with their lives, find someone new, and hopefully get married and start a family with them. They don't want it to be interrupted by  "hey, remember me?" If you ask me, "break-up anything", whether it's a kiss or sex (my absolute opposition to sex outside marriage notwithstanding) or anything else like that, on principle, is wrong. These are intimate expressions of yourself that you don't give to a friend or some rando you met somewhere. This is someone to whom you opened your heart, mind, and soul. Plus, you're basically saying that they need to hold on to you.  And for what reason?  And you're also holding on to  them , which will not be fair to your future partner. And lastly, this also just seems to me like a rom-com plot device. Real relationships don't work like that. If you're going to break up with someone, just do the mature and realistic thing and tell them you want to break up because x, y, and z, you wish them well, you hope they find someone great, have a great life, and good-bye. Don't overestimate your own importance to them.

Summeroflove · Accepted Answer

If possible it’s good to know when things aren’t working out and end things on the best terms possible, but I’ve never kissed someone I knew I was breaking up with.

That’s kind of the problem with giving a goodbye kiss is that you could be sending the wrong message you need to give him closure if you haven’t already so that he knows to move on. That’s one good reason why I wouldn’t do it.

If I didn’t feel any genuine connection with somebody and didn’t feel like it was going anywhere, I would just be direct as well as honest. So that we both can just move on to find someone whose a better fit.

natured · Accepted Answer

YES, and it was not really a breakup, we both knew we had to go separate ways because he was in my town just for a couple of months for work. But we both agreed that we just want to enjoy each other's company, and when the day came, well, we both where kind of heartbroken, because we bonded a lot. That kiss was amazing, well, to this day we still stay in contact and are great virtual buddies, although he misses me often while I kind of moved on.

GlitteringWorld · Accepted Answer

Honestly, my answer would be no. I can't just kiss someone I don't have a relationship with. If I'm meeting someone for the first time and already know it'll be my last date with them, there's no way I'd feel comfortable doing that. It just doesn't feel right to me to have that kind of physical connection without a deeper bond or commitment.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not a kiss , but break up sex a few times , it’s basically one last bang before we go our separate ways for good , Girls’ usually do this when she doesn’t want the relationship to end thinking sex will fix things between us. And sometimes it can and sometimes it doesn’t , just depends on what occurred for us to be breaking up in the first place

AviatorTom · Answer

No. There was one woman I really liked,. She invoked the 3 dates no chemistry rule. I kissed her on our breakup date, to let her know I cared.

Avicenna · Answer

lol, no- at that point I didn’t really want to be intimate with her anymore.

784456 · Answer

Uuuh, you’re a naughty one!… 😏

Karma will come back and get your ass, girl!

I don’t discriminate: all my kisses are breathtaking and I take pride in being a good decision maker, such that I don’t f around with shallow people in the first place.

So get better at picking! Sure I am also attracted to looks first, but having a working brain, I can figure out (rather quickly) if the other person also has a working brain: you don’t want to be with stupid people that are stupid enough to maybe not using protection and if you are stupid enough not to use protection either, congratulations for all the STD’s that you got from a very atractive man (a sign he had lots of action) and a very stupid man (a sign that the given and taken action was not protected).

razelove · Answer

If it was a breakup BJ or sex I might think about it for a while. What's a kiss supposed to do though?

Also if it was just hooking up, there can't be any break-up. I've had experiences with ONS and friends with benefits, if that's the boundary, there's no feeling on my end when it ends.(literally) The only time I can remember feeling different was seeing a girl for about half a year and she suddenly decided she wanted to be friends with benefits after like meeting her parents and stuff. I just never talked to her again after that change in status.

ManInChains · Answer

No. I think that is probably the worst thing anyone can do. Why would anyone be so hateful as to want their ex to think of them after everything they had been through together up to that point? It's sickening and makes me want to remain single just the thought of that being a thing.

MittParekh15 · Answer

Wow lucky guy to get a kiss from a girl

Break up kiss aren't that common in my country, but surely it would be a pleasure to get kissed by a girl on a date ( it will be remembered by a guy)

Still waiting for my first kiss , hope fully I will find one

exitseven · Answer

Never, I usually just rode off into the sunset.

Likes2drive · Answer

Never did that but you probably made him kept thinking about you afterwards for a long time which is probably not really a good thing to do if you’re breaking up with him

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Hahaha, from afar, I find this dramatised way quite fun, quite atypical. From afar only, cause I'm not entirely sure I would like to live this experience lol

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

ha no I mean it sounds sweet, but that sounds like a movie thing. With a break up, the sooner I'm finished with it the better. No kiss, not even a hug. Just Bye! Respectfully, but just a 'Goodbye'

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

Not a kiss but I thought that was the reason for breakup sex. You know make them remember why you got together.

Nirmroth · Answer

I don't know you but it just seems like you get a kick out of playing with guys eh?

DanicaPhoenix · Answer

Nope, the last break up I had; I believe I did tell him where he could kiss but not my lips.

Eleni06 · Answer

No that’s false advertising might make it more dangerous.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

Hahaha no. But ex sex many times

loveslongnails · Answer

No. If I still want to kiss her, I probably don't want to break up with her!

spartan55 · Answer

Wow, you definitely leave em wanting.

SunnyRS · Answer

I would definitely love a post break up ritual like that dear, but I don't think it is a smart idea.

BetaBucks · Answer

I prefer break-up anal. Unforgettable

Unap0logetic_ · Answer

Yes I’ve done that before.

In_Trance · Answer

Never. That's a pathetic act for a worthless cause

DemocratsRDumb · Answer

Nice humblebrag.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

I did not kiss as she was rude girl

justabuddy · Answer

Hug= yes.. kiss=no.

eagle1951 · Answer

hell yeah

Anonymous · Answer

That's bullshit

Have you ever given a great break up kiss just so you’d be remembered with passion and desire whenever he thinks of you?

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