Why would he reject me then follow up again with inside joke? Just to be friendly?

[Anonymous]

2 months ago, we went out to dinner and talked for 3 hrs on first meet up. We were in contact via Instagram messages. Then we talked on the phone to buy tickets & see a movie. The day before movie I asked if he could stop sending those IG video reels politely, it was a bit overboard. On day of movie, he said good morning and I replied with a wave emoji. He normally would continue the conversation via Instagram but doesn’t message again until he said he was waiting at the theater. I was not as bubbly as I was on first meet up , I was very quiet (not against him). He was annoying me during the movie, he’s the type to laugh and make noises when something exciting came on (there’s nothing wrong with that but he was obnoxious in my opinion). He nudged me during the movie and asked if I was ok because I was quiet and I said yes. At the end I told him thanks, he said you’re welcome and he said drive safe. When I spoke with him on the phone the day before movie, he told me that he talked about me with his friends but right after movie he sent a message saying that he “wasn’t really feeling it from me and it’s not going to work for him”. Tbh I was planning on letting him know I wasn’t interested whenever he would’ve reached out to me again. Flash fwd to a month ago, he sends me a dm with an inside joke, I just left him on read again. He continued to follow me on social media but unmatched with me from the dating app we met through, I unfollowed him from IG. And then after a while he finally unfollows on IG

To be friends

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[Oliverlogan263]

Oh man, that is super weird and confusing behavior from him. A few thoughts:

- It sounds like he wasn't really that into you from the start but wanted to keep his options open. Going on a date then immediately saying it's not a match is bogus.

- He could be one of those "attention" type guys who just likes talking to different girls but has no interest in actually dating. The constant engaging on social media then dropping you is suspicious.

- Sending a random inside joke months later is weirdly trying to insert himself back into your life when you clearly moved on. Maybe he was bored?

- I wouldn't read too much into his actions at this point. He sounds wishy-washy and like he isn't sure what he wants. You don't need that drama!

If I were you, I'd just block/delete him fully and move on. You don't need the intermittent confusing messages. Hold out for a guy who is very clearly enthusiastic about you from the start! Any future interaction from this dude isn't worth your time or mental energy. On to better guys!

[strateguy632]

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