Girls, how do I ask a woman out on a dating app?

[Matt_M]

I've been talking to a woman on Hinge for a few days now and we seem to be really hitting it off. We've had some really open and honest conversations about our mutual interest in kink and seem to be on a wavelength about what we each want from a relationship. I'm wondering how long we should continue chatting over the app before I suggest getting together in person. The conversation seems to flow really naturally but I always the transition between idle chit-chat and actually asking someone out to be a bit challenging. Should I just abruptly switch gears and ask her out directly or should I ease into it somehow? And what would "easing into it" even look like if I was to take this approach?

[MemeSupreme]

everyone's different

like i just wanna see if the dude is fun to text to and then i wanna see him in-person SOMEWHERE PUBLIC bc you don't know what he's like until you do. so idc for texting long, BUT some girls wanna text a while

[Abbycado]

Sure sounds like things are going well. Just ask her out. I don't see any issue with going for it.

[Matt_M]

Thanks, I appreciate the input. I feel like I should think a little bit about how to word my next message, but I don't want to *over*think it either. However, she seems interesting enough that I'd at least like to meet in person just to get to know her a bit better and assess our compatibility.

[Abbycado]

I agree. Sounds like you are at the point where it makes sense to meet since everything is gelling so well. Maybe just keep it simple "Hey, want to meet up for a drink, coffee, etc, etc?".

I bet she says yes.

[Matt_M]

Done and done! Thank you both for the encouragement. *Fingers crossed.*

[Abbycado]

I’m rooting for you!!!

[Matt_M]

She said yes! With no hesitation whatsoever. :D

[Abbycado]

Awesome!!

[Abbycado]

Ty for mho. Do you have the date set up?

[Nikki1989]

Life can't be that bad you need a dating app. Just ask her out already.

[Matt_M]

I'm guessing you've never visited a small town in Nova Scotia, Canada, huh? This place is geographically larger than the States with only a tenth of the population. Meeting people here isn't exactly easy.

In any case, I've thrown caution to the wind and asked her out. What happens from here is beyond my control. Thanks for verbal cattle prod to my rear end. I think I needed it. ;)

[Kayla45]

Start with an introduction and your interests.