3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. I don’t think single guys’ think it’s better, they probably just think it’s easier to get a single mom, compared to getting a childless girl , a single mom is pretty much looking for a man to help raise her kid. Most single guys’ I know that date single mom’s are just in it for the sex for the most part , because she is desperate for attention and desperate for love, so sex isn’t an issue to her , because she is hoping that guy will love her and take care of her. I’m not saying all single guys’ do this , but a majority of them do. A single mom’s best bet is to find herself a single Dad, so they are both on the same page with things , and can work as a team. Most single mom’s I know have been used for sex from multiple guys’ and sadly they been around the block a few times because she is desperate for love, not realizing she is being played by horny men that just like having sex with her. She will be better off finding herself a single Dad . Most childless guy’s don’t want to be with a girl that has kids’ already , he might fuck her , but he probably won’t commit to her , if he does commit to her? she better treat his ass like he is a King. If she wants to keep him by her side. When I was childless , I dated some single mom’s ’ and they were great in the beginning they were very attentive to me , made me her top priority pretty much right away , because she knew I was a hard worker and a gentleman, Sex was not an issue whatsoever , she would cater to me and kiss my ass completely , but she also became very jealous and insecure over me as well , to the point she had to keep tabs on every where I went , if I didn’t call her back within a few minutes , I was cheating on her and being up to no good , or I was lying about something , she got very controlling to the point I had no other choice but to throw in the towel on her insecure ass. So most single Mom’s are damaged girls’ that have a hard time trusting a man especially if her BD walked out on her and the kid , she has a very hard time trusting and accepting the fact that I didn’t have kids and wasn’t tied down like she was , So I stopped dating single Mom’s all together and went back to dating childless girls’ that didn’t have a baby holding them back from anything , that were able to go out and do things on a regular basis that weren’t making my life a living hell by her insecurities. So a single Mom is better off dating a single Dad so they are both on the same page as things.
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Asker1 yDoes this apply to single moms with 1 kid or multiple kids?
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All single moms with kids , the more she has the worse off she is , she is better to find herself a single Dad if she has 3 kids , find a single dad with 3 kids or more , like the Brady Bunch lol other than that she is playing with fire if she thinks a childless Dad is going to stay in the picture for the long haul. She better rock his world every day so he doesn’t stray
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3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Because most guys are stupi
And they think by dating a single woman that he could be smarter than her
Where if he was to date a single mother she's going to show him exactly who she is just by the way she treats her children'
And then there's the competition which is only right her children should always come first and not the guy and he doesn't like that and I would say too bad too sad you don't want to be with a guy like that anyway
The plus side about dating somebody that has children is they usually have it together because it's been a struggle but they are managing it and they're doing great..
Plus the guy doesn't know how to be responsible and show any kind of acceptance. Towards kids he wants it all about him but you don't want those guys anyway00 Reply
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1 yIf a guy is just looking for a family, then he might pick a single mother. But some guys might find it hard if later on the relationship doesn't work out, especially if the guy has created a bond with the child/children of the mother. Other guys would rather find a woman that they'd want to be with & be sure she's the one before they decide to have babies with them. And then there's the guys who don't want babies at all, just a romantic partner.
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I don't know if it's "better". I think dating a women with a baby would be better than a woman who flat out refuses to have children because she wants to live her "child free life". But I don't think dating a single mom vs a woman who wants to be a mom is any better or worse.
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1 yI don’t know it depends on what the individual man is looking for. Everyone’s looking for something different but nobody is entitled to another person. If you feel like a man owes you something I’m sorry men don’t owe you shit. That could be the reason you’re repulsing decent men is that…. You’re acting this way.
It depends on the single moms situation as to why she’s a single mother.
10 Reply16.6K opinions shared on Dating topic. Now that is some serious gaslighting. There is no way that's true. But why do you claim is better?
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She probably is a single mother and wants a man to take care of her children so that she doesn't have to
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I bet it's something Misandristic
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Exactly. They want a man who isn't the kid's father to pay her child support she won't even use on the kid! That's a major reason why men won't and shouldn't get with single mothers. Single father's on the other hand.. Now that's a different story entirely
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I doubt that's true. Women thee days don't want men to be th breadwinners.
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Ever heard of feminism? The movement that claims to be about equality yet is actually about female empowerment? Yeah, women and men fall for it. Are you one of them?
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Not all, sure. But a god damned good size majority of them either do or at the very least tend to agree with it.
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Feminists want men to benefit them. To give her whatever she wants with nothing in return.
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You'd be surprised. They want a man who lives under her boot who their sons would idolize and become
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What do you think? My answer is yes.
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Well then that is your problem
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I don't see mine as posing one either
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u 1 yWhy does a woman having a child make her a better girlfriend? I dated several single moms in the past and I never saw it as an advantage.
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1 yReally? Do you give reasons for this betterment of a man that could and possibly want kids of his own or still have some fun?
10 Reply2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. The only guys who date single mothers are the one’s that no childless woman wants.
There are 0 advantages to having some other guy’s kid be an active part of one’s relationship.
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(Assuming the kid is a self sufficient adult the equation changes a bit and becomes less of a problem)16 Reply
Asker1 ySo if she has 1 child there still are no advantages?
Asker1 yWhy does it have to be about advantages and disadvantages? What if a guy meets a woman and he really likes her but she has a kid? He is supposed to reject her because she has a kid?
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That wasn’t the question though.
You asked why men don’t recognize that single moms are better than childless women. You made it about advantages by using the word “better”
I disagree with the premise entirely so if you’re certain that single moms are so much better I wanna know why that is
Asker1 yThat is true
I think single mothers are a better option because they're independent, mature and stable. They date with intention. They're nurturing. You get to see how they parent.- 1 y
Thanks, those are some valid reasons.
Now I can give an insightful response by saying 2 things:
1- many childless women are independent and mature and date with purpose.
2- these are not the only qualities men look for in a woman.
So sure, a single mom who’s a good woman is better than a childless woman who’s a shitty person.
But it’s not true for the majority of the population. You still have to go case by case.
And the presence of a child remains an undeniable attention point that will shape the whole relationship
2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Because they genuinely don't think it is. They have the reponsibility to raise a child thats not theirs and thats a hard no for many especially younger guys. I'm ok with it if she's truly special but childless is preferable of course, makes things a lot less complicated in the relationship.
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1 yA lot of guys look at it from the perspective of needing to accommodate the child's needs; any time and financial costs associated with that. And the potential on-going involvement of the father in the child's and mother's life.
What makes you say that dating a single mother would be better than dating a woman without those concerns?
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Asker1 yJust because you're dating a single mom doesn't mean you have to provide for the child. Most single mothers aren't looking for another dad for their kids because they already have a dad.
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Even if a replacement father isn't what the women are looking for, it's sort of what happens by default because you become a prominent man in the child's life.
Asker1 yI think that is a desirable thing for a lot of men to be a father figure.
Anonymous(30-35)1 yAs a woman i don’t think so.
My sister is single mom and dating her means have to be nice to her daugther the same way like you are nice to your own daugther. Why would you have to raise someone kid, if you can get your own blood? And get some problem because the child doesn't like you or trust you. It’s different when u just want to date for sex, but for having a good family it’s always better to date single man/woman has no kid.10 ReplyWhat is better? Unless a guy is pedophile, I don't see what the advantage is for him. And if he is, then what an awful situation for a careless mother to put her children into.
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Asker1 yWhy does it have to be about advantages and disadvantages? If the guy likes the woman why not date her?
Single mothers are more mature and stable. They're not out partying so it is a better situation- 1 y
Replying to these hateful people isn't worth your time. And yes, I agree with you.
Asker1 yWhy does the guy have to be a fuckboy? I think you're making assumptions
1 yGaslight you into the ether won’t change male biology. Thats not his kid and a reminder of your mistake, and whether it was your plan the whole time…we are best to never know or need to know and/or become a part of this drama by adding a new future mostly fatherless kid into her equation
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1 yIts not better. Why should a man provide for children that aren't his? It's not his fault she couldn't keep the relationship with the children's father going. She made her choice. Men don't gain anything from being with a woman who already has kids.
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Asker1 yIf they don't "gain" anything by being with a woman with kids then why do a lot of guys do it?
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They shouldn't be doing it. If they do they're stupid and only putting themselves in a shitty situationship
Asker1 yWho's to say that it is a shitty situation for that person? You are generalizing single mothers. Just because a woman has 1 kid it is automatically a bad situation?
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Yes, it is because she won't care about him she'll only care about the kid if the kid and the guy argue she'll side with the kid every time. Just wait till that kid is a teenager. They man is going to be gone
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Besides if the woman already as a kid why does she need another man?
2.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Some men do. I just scrolled across a tiktok live of a man in search of a single mother to date lol
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Asker1 yOn the internet guys like yourself say guys don't prefer single moms but in real life guys date them all the time.
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There are people doing everything imaginable all the time. And if you conducted a study, the vast majority of men wouldn't prefer single moms. Sure, some settle, some are pedos, and some genuinely prefer it. But you're making the claim that single moms are better, when most men don't feel that way.
Asker1 yI disagree. If you go outside and ask 10 guys would they date single mothers 8 of them would say yes. I think guys saying they won't date single mothers is the popular thing to say but it isn't reality
@BetaBucks I agree with you. Seeing lots of cases like that, single mothers should be more aware and concerned about their child's safety first.
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And many single moms have little kids around so it's completely relevant. Unless you think there is some acceptable level of pedophilia we should just ignore? That seems to be what you're suggesting here. Pretty aggressively too. That's not like you. I know you like to lie to try to manipulate me, and I low-key enjoy the funny convos, but this is crossing the line a bit.
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Those other "family members" are step parents and live-in boyfriends. Which is my point.
Statically the uncle comment isn't true. I'm leaving out the "creepy" part because that's adding a modifier that can be added to the stepdad too. Both for physical and sexual abuse, a stepdad or live-in boyfriend are the single highest risk factors for children. Exponentially above everything else. - 1 y
Apple, are you deliberately trying to be wrong about everything?
www.phillyvoice.com/.../
"Child abuse is 40 times more likely when single parents find new partners"
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Yes they are, apple. Quit lying. 99% are trying to get somewhere serious.
I can't tell what you are because you're a fake account. I've followed you across three of my accounts and countless contradictions on your side. It doesn't matter either way. You're legit my favorite account on this site. I look forward to these interactions. Especially cuz you never get angry. - 1 y
At which point the guy decides he isn't interested because you deceived him and/or he doesn't want to date someone with kids.
Exactly what "safety reasons" would you have for pretending you aren't a parent? You need to do a background check on a guy before he meets your kid (s) anyway, and that's not something that happens on a first or even fifth date. - 1 y
Actually, it seems to me that the pedo would want your guard down and want easier access to the kid than following you (which would mean the police being called on them or them being shot in self-defense). If you're worried a guy could be that, why go on a date with a stranger in the first place? that's already a huge risk you're taking.
Most dates don't make it to the fifth, that's true, but if it does and you really like the guy, you're SOL when he finds out you deceived him about something as important as whether you have kids. A lot is at stake if you really meet someone you like. - 1 y
There are some things that will not only decide whether someone will go on a date with you in the first place and also have a great effect on whether you vibe with them or not. Having kids is one of them.
Sounds to me like it really is too dangerous for single moms to date at all. If I had kids at home, I wouldn't date. - 1 y
But let's see what people think about finding out on the fifth date that the person you're really into has kids.
Anonymous(25-29)1 yyeah dating a woman who’s been blown out and busted in, with loose ass nasty saggy belly skin and stretch marks, and a blown out vagina and entire human came out of, ANOTHER MANS child, that will HAVE to be around, forever, yeah that sounds way better than dating a girl that didn’t ruin her life spreading her legs for any low life that would deposit his load into. Get real lady, no one wants you or your baggage.
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1 yWhy dont guys recognize that? Well, because it’s just not the truth. Well, I guess if the guy is also a single parent and you guys get a Brady Bunch situation going. You might be correct with that scenario. Otherwise it’s just not the case
00 ReplyOthers dont have to pay for your mistake. You chose to have kid with a man you did not know that well. Now you try to shame them for not being their first choise...
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Asker1 yWhy do you assume that i didn't know the guy well? We were in a serious relationship and he wanted the baby just like I did. Once the baby arrived he switched up
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@JesseP1nk agreed man
Asker1 yThe biological father is involved he just isn't in a relationship with the mom anymore.
Asker1 yThis doesn't just apply to guys in their early 20s. I'm also talking about guys in their late 20s & 30s
3K opinions shared on Dating topic. I wanna be her ABSOLUTE #1 eventually and that's kind of hard to do when you're competing with a pre-existent child that will probably always come before you.
11 ReplyI absolutely agree. #MILFS 🤙👏 they just hit Different👌
10 Reply565 opinions shared on Dating topic. Lmao... And how exactly is it better? I'm sure this is just a troll post anyway.
20 Reply18.5K opinions shared on Dating topic. You don't expect men to have common sense, do you?
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She just needs one that doesn't
1 ywrong on so many levels. To clarify, tried it a few times. Was some of the most horrible experiences of my life.
00 ReplyWho told you that? Or where did you get the belief from?
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Asker1 yReal life. Guys date single mothers in real life and they say they prefer it
Comparing yourself to a childless chick is unbelievable.
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Asker1 yHow is that unbelievable? I could still get a great guy just like a childless woman can
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1 yIs it really? I guess it depends if the guy likes kids.
10 Reply Most of the guys including myself don't want to have child in the beginning of the relationship. They want it when they are serious in the relationship or after marriage
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Asker1 yIf you're just dating you don't necessarily have to be involved in the child's life
Childless woman who don't want children? anyway single moms are damaged goods.
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Anonymous(30-35)1 yover 30 childless > single mom > under 30 childless
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Asker1 ySingle moms are better options than under 30 childless?
Opinion Owner1 yif a man wants kids of his own, a childless woman who's still fertile would be his best bet
now if she don't want kids, that's a whole different story
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1 yHow exactly? I am not being snide. I am genuinely curious as to your reasoning.
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Asker1 ySingle mothers are more mature, stable, and selfless than childless. You are less likely to see a single mother out partying and more than likely she is at home being a mother.
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Okay, I can see how that can be possible and suspect it is true in your case, but I do not see that as necessarily so.
455 opinions shared on Dating topic. That's a matter of opinion. But why do you think single moms are better?
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1 yBecause dating a childless woman is better than dating a single mom.(OK, JD Vance, when did YOU become a G@Gger?)
00 Reply 5.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. No. I don't want to end up paying for another man's child.
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1 yI think the woman is the woman. If you like her that's all that matters.
10 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. What makes you say it’s better?
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1 yI'd rather make my own.
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@Avicenna There's also the fact that you don't know what kind of genes the kid ended up with and you'll have to deal with that at some point in the future. Maybe their dad was a psycho and they'll eventually become one, too. My best friend married a psycho and had 2 kids with him. Because of his psychosis, they've been in therapy for years! One's 18 and the other's 17. Their mom's been having kind of a rough time with them. Dad's been in jail for a decade or so after she divorced him.
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Anonymous(36-45)1 yMy guess is that you are a single mother right?
From our perspective that you just wanted free babysitter.
00 Reply4.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. In what bizarro universe is that?
12 Reply4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Because it's not what they want
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1 yNow what makes you think that?
00 Reply 3.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. Pink Anonymous is not serious
00 Reply798 opinions shared on Dating topic. By what logic?
10 ReplyYou’re going to have to explain that logic
00 Reply1.2K opinions shared on Dating topic. No it isn’t because the child will always be #1
00 ReplyI gotta hear the logic behind this.
00 Reply15.1K opinions shared on Dating topic. Depends what you mean by better
00 Reply708 opinions shared on Dating topic. Single mothers are the easiest one!
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Asker1 yOnly if they like you just like any other women.
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1 yI recognize but how to get once?
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1 yWhy to take responsibility of feeding her? child,
00 Reply 3.7K opinions shared on Dating topic. Nice ragebait post.
00 Reply13.4K opinions shared on Dating topic. Because it's not.
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Anonymous(18-24)1 yHow exactly is it better?
00 Reply6.5K opinions shared on Dating topic. Troll
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Anonymous(45 Plus)1 y😆😆😆
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Asker1 yWhat's funny?
10.9K opinions shared on Dating topic. How so?
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1 yIt's not
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1 yWe just don't.
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