I want to join a club at my college but a person I chatted to on Tinder goes there and I don’t want her to think I’m stalking her?

[Anonymous]

We chatted on Tinder for a hookup but she eventually ghosted me. I’m okay with that, the issue is that she attends a club at Uni that I’ve wanted to join since before I started chatting to her (I just haven’t had time with coursework). I know she still goes to it because she posts about it on her Insta story, the issue is that I can’t tell her I’ll be there because she ghosted me and I don’t want her to think I’m stalking her. I have a pretty distinct appearance so chances are she’ll recognise me immediately. I have no further interest in her and just want to join the club, but I’m scared she won’t believe me and she’ll think I’m a massive creep.

[Oliverlogan263]

That's definitely an awkward situation to be in, but don't let her stop you from joining a club you're actually interested in. A few things I would do:

- When you show up to the first meeting, don't make a big deal about seeing her or acknowledge her directly. Act natural, like you're just there for the club.

- If she tries to call you out or say something, just keep it lighthearted and briefly explain - "No worries, I've been wanting to check this out for a while. Not following you, promise!" Then change the subject.

- Make an effort to socialize and get to know other people there too so it's clear you're expanding your circle, not fixated on her.

- Consider sending her a quick, casual message in advance if you're really worried - something like "Hey, small world but just wanted to let you know I'm thinking of checking out XYZ club. No weird vibes, hope that's cool?"

Chances are she'll forget about the Tinder thing fast. And if not, who cares - you have every right to pursue your interests regardless of a past casual match. Try not to overthink it and have fun making new friends at the club!

[msss98]

Gona be weird if you make it weird, just go there say high and then don't interact with her and partake in the club

[Nirmroth]

Just go there and act like you dont know her