Why are some guys so enamored with chicks that are obviously playing them, and allow them to control their dating lives?

[Anonymous]

This is something I've always wondered. I was hoping it ends after high school, but nope.

Exhibit A:

A guy, let's call him P, is longtime friends with a girl. Let's call her R. It's very clear that P is enamored by R, and R absolutely loves the attention she gets from P, but is not romantically interested in him. Still, she eats up his attention and strings him along for years while she dates other men, and he somehow thinks he still has a chance. Any time P gets into a relationship with someone else or has another girl interested in him, R becomes very insecure and admits outright to P that she doesn't like these girls, trying to sway his decision. She clearly doesn't want him, but doesn't want anyone else to have him, either. Now, P also has an ex who is a lot like R, let's call her C. They broke up because she cheated and decided to dump him because she thought the grass was greener on the other side, so she is also clearly no longer interested in him, but is obsessed with the attention she still gets from him. She also blatantly dislikes anyone who is interested in him, but is much more two-faced about it. Somehow, P is absolutely enamored with these girls' opinions of him, and allows them to dictate his dating life by giving the cold shoulder to anyone these girls decide they don't like (a. k. a. everyone who is interested in him who they feel threatened by because the attention that is currently going to them might start going to them instead) and continuing to chase them, believing there is hope he will get laid by them, even the ex that chose to have sex with someone else instead and leave him. 😂 It's honestly pathetic AF.

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1 y

What on Earth are these beta orbiters and cucks thinking? The only one who will be hurt by this situation is P. He is sabotaging his own dating life by allowing these chicks who continue to play him to control it for him. Like seriously dude, grow a pair and quit letting a couple of chicks who are using you to boost their own sad egos dominate you. Why on Earth do guys like him think so highly of girls like these anyway?

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They treat them like shit, clearly don't care about what's in their best interest and instead want to use them, and TBH, most of the time they are not special in any way and are just easy. Is it just the hope of getting in their pants, even though that ship has clearly sailed? Like dude, they are clearly not interested and are preventing you from getting it anywhere else. 😂

[Finchie40]

First off they are both idiots , The girl is a selfish POS person , and the guy is a desperate moron by chasing after a girl that clearly doesn’t want him that thinks he actually has a chance with her , she is just loving the attention she gets from him. and she loves the control she has over him , because she knows he is a desperate fool. No matter what you do or say , it’s going to go on one ear out the other. He has no respect for himself , he just gets off on allowing this girl to control him for whatever reason , he probably just wants to fuck her and hoping he gets’ a chance to do so , that’s why he is allowing her to do this to him , he is pretty much a Simp to her because he is head over heels for her. Not realizing she put him in the friend zone while she is out spreading her legs for other guys’ She isn’t attracted to him because she feels he is weak , Most females are attracted to masculine men , a man that she chases not the other way around , by him chasing her and listening to her he is just digging his own grave wasting his time on a girl like this. He is probably a nice guy but he isn’t a challenge to her because he constantly gives into her and he is allowing her to walk over him. That’s why these other girls’ he is dating are leaving him as well because he is weak. If he wants to fuck that girl , he needs to no longer listen to her and put her in her place , distance himself from her and make her chase him instead , he then might have a chance on fucking her

[jshm2]

Because some guys/girls love to be controlled by their family or friends. They don't know any better.

But others just stick around for the craziness. I had one friend a while back who would get into a fight everyday. He had no mental issues, but he just loved seeing an angry person give him a "rush," and cause to react.

Bottom line is that people can be crazy, but they are not your problem to understand in every case.

Some people are like armour, they make you stronger and safer and you keep them close. Others are like weapons, you point their "right" end at others, and keep them away from you until you need them.

[Anonymous]

Gets worse after childhood and highschool. Just look at the presidential candidate! Think she got there working hard? Nope she needs that gross old vice president to make all the choices!

If not she would easily have beaten Trump but she has her party and him make her choices and what to say!

It's all old promises and political speeches! If she spoke to the younger generations then she would easily win!

But nope it's all best trump or ruin America give me money and I'll promise your feminist wants. That she can't do.

[jojouzumaki]

Men who does that hasn’t learned their worth yet. Give it some time it will come to him sooner or later, he will change and would definitely learn his Values.

[Benedict234]

Gosh, I'm amazed you're so surprised. It happens with both genders all the time. Guys like that have no respect/confidence in themselves and therefore haven't gotten any and are desperate. Just ignore it

[WhitneySnow]

Maybe he’ll get really lucky and get a threesome with those two chicks 😂

[PeachyPie93]

He is a simp.. that is why I would never date a guy with close female friends.. I don't like sluts or drama..

[Billlewis]

I'm more inclined to ask the opposite question -- as a guy, why *wouldn't* I want that?

[Asker]

You would want for your female friend and ex to string you along and use you for attention, and to push other women away?

[Billlewis]

Everything you listed except pushing other women away.

[Asker]

So you would like it if a girl made you think she was interested in you, but she really wasn't (and was actively dating other men as well), and just liked the attention and validation you gave her? I'm genuinely asking, not trying to be a smartass.

[Billlewis]

Yes, except that I prefer that she tell me she's only interested in using me, and lets me pay for her dates with other guys.

[Anonymous]

You posted this same question on SimilarWorlds. How many other sites are you going to post it on? Grow up.

[Asker]

😂 I can post it wherever I want. Struck a nerve I guess?

[Opinion Owner]

Not at all; it's just pathetic. Get a life.

[Asker]

Yep, struck a nerve. 😂

[Opinion Owner]

It seems like I'm the one who did that for you because you can't stop responding, so let me dismiss you right now. DISMISSED, you won't get any more attention from me. Stay dehydrated. 😬

[Asker]

😂😂😂 Nope, you're the only one irrationally pissed that I posted on two different sites as if it's somehow a crime to seek perspectives in two different places. The post definitely struck a nerve. 😂

[Shamalien]

Well these chicks will often put out to these guys when they feel lonely. I don’t support that mating strategy for men but some dudes fall in love with the wrong woman

[beefcakebradybatson]

Some boys are emotionally needy, especially where hot chicks are concerned, and will allow themselves to ne manipulated on the chance they can club these chicks.

[Fireguy17]

because they are idiots, and are probably seeking attention of any kind, good bad or indifferent.

[LiamJHayden]

Some guys are pathetically weak and will sacrifice their self-respect for a chance for sex.

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women are so enamored with men that are obviously playing them and allow them to control their dating lives.

[Asker]

Do you know what that reason would be? Asking because I'm not one of those women, so I don't know 😂

[Opinion Owner]

Stupidity mainly. Guys like attention just as much as women do. And some guys and some women have no shame about saying whatever they got to, using any trick that's in their bag to get what they want.
Young inexperienced guys just like young inexperienced girls do not understand that women who go on the offense and really make a play for a guy do it because that is her whole. She does to to many guys. But these guys take it as genuine interest. Even if things last beyond a one night stand. I almost guarantee you he's one out many 🍆's for this woman. And because women like this sharpen their claws daily. This poor fellow never stood a chance. Men learn to manipulate women when they hit puberty (if they're inclined to do so). Women learn to manipulate men from BIRTH! So a woman always has a 15 year head start on a guy in this game. No guy with a brain in his head ever meets a woman on a level playing field.

[Djaay]

Why are women doing that sh... in the first place. Seems like this artical should be addressed to shitty women. But nope.

[slatyb]

No boundaries, low self-esteem.

[ProbablyClueless]

Because of low self esteem, basically.

[Anonymous]

The same thing happens in reverse.

[Pterodon]

Because some are that lonely

[RedInnocent69]

But they just smell so good! 😂

[CubaPirate]

Lust and immature naivety