Would you go on a first date with someone who wanted to bring their friend along?

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OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I've never had that request. If it did happen, I would want to know WHY she wanted to bring along a friend, and especially if it was a male friend. If it was a matter of nervous about a first date with a stranger, I would suggest that we simply meet at our destination (most likely the restaurant) and we could each arrive and depart in our own cars. I would also suggest a daytime date in a public place, such as a coffee shop.

Assuming the friend is also a female, I might jokingly ask if her friend was more interested in me and which of the two I should give the most attention.

I might agree to this ONCE if a girl seemed particularly shy, but it would be with the understanding that our second date would not be chaperoned.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

I'm not going to go on a date with the girl I'm interested in and her friend that's not happening.

If she's nervous or something then we could just have a date during the day in a public place and we could each drive our own vehicles there if it's that much of a problem.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I don't date, nor do I have intentions to date but if I was forced to have to do it, then an assistant would be welcome, just for my security and as long as that person is a heterosexual person that could watch my back.

First dates are always a potential problem with people you don't know since a few years.

I place a great importance on my security and having someone that can help you, just in case something does not go according to the standard morals, then it is an added security.

Account · Accepted Answer

Nope that makes no sense. In that case I would bring my friend too and I would make it clear that it would no longer be a date, just a meet up of people who check if they would be compatible as friends and nothing more to avoid further confusion.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

it would be like friend-zoning, so I wouldn't have any problem with that if this guy could bear the consequences... dates have their own rules, and bringing a friend isn't part of it... so if we bring friends, we become friends...

paledreams · Answer

No that stupid hahaha 🤣😂 that's why they say meet in well busy public eateries or some place public with lots of cameras - duh 😜🙄 no advice each to their own ; I'd find the tag along friend a weird third a crowd

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I actually did have that happen before. I think the lady was just kind of nervous and having her friend there was calming to her. It was OK. Her friend was pretty cool.

fantasticass · Answer

When I started dating again, I would always pick the same restaurant and I always had friends already sitting in the restaurant. So, my answer is Yes, however you don't need to know.😎

WhitneySnow · Answer

I have never had anyone ask me this, but I would probably say yes if it made them feel more comfortable. Only on the first date though.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. That sounds like a , "My other friends are there, let's all sit together." followed by ""All on same check." followed by "The man is supposed to pay." scam.

boggboss · Answer

Nope I would see it as already being suspected of doing somthing I shouldn't do and only acting right because their is a friend to stop me

Billlewis · Answer

Not only have I done this, I've even paid for their dinner, as well.

exitseven · Answer

I would do this. If it became a habit I might have second thoughts. My wife used to drag her little sister with us on dates.

Mountains4You · Answer

I did it once. The girl invited friends. All she did was make fun of me the whole time. I ghosted her. Her friends were cooler than her tho.

blueonblack22 · Answer

That’s would be uncomfortable and not really a date.

DrPepper12 · Answer

My concern is only a woman could broach this topic. If a man had said can I bring my friend then there won't be a date.

SweetPi · Answer

Did this for a 3rd date was not feeling like traveling the 1 hours alone so brought a friend to tag along. He was not worth the gas! ⛽ Just told 3 some jokes the whole time.

Shamalien · Answer

I mean we can hang out but I won’t be paying for anyone or calling it a date.  A date is me and my lady, and I’ll arrange and pay for everything

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Generally no. But there are certain contexts where I would be okay with it.

worldscolide · Answer

I'd immediately leave. Not interested in that kind of nonsense

Radiate143 · Answer

No, that means that the friends will be making his relationship decisions for him. Wack. Spineless.

Vegasrunner · Answer

I did it one times years ago, and only went along w/ it because the girl was a model. Learned my lesson though, any other time a woman has tried this I ended the date immediately.

Belgie · Answer

So long as they are paying, and I am not, sure.

genericname85 · Answer

hell no. i may wanna get to know your friends after i decided i wanna let you into my life. not before that.

dragoblack · Answer

It's different if their friend was there to shadow from another table, separate from the date, But bringing a friend to the date is a major red flag.

JesseP1nk · Answer

Whaaat? You wanna bring your mom on the first date to hold your hand? - honetly get the fuck out of here

ABC29 · Answer

If someone brings friends along on a "romantic" date, that person doesn't want to get to know you romantically. If that is your intuition, then stop seeing that person.

Pete671 · Answer

Yes that would be fine with me, and meet in a public place,,,

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

If it's a double date, that's one thing. A friend just because... Hell no

NathanDavis · Answer

I've done it before, yes... no problem

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

No, that's very disrespectful.

Nonamez · Answer

I would go , see no problem here 🤔🤓

Starrrboy · Answer

No, that would be awkward as hell..

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Yes, if my broad were hot.

SmileyLady · Answer

Probably not.

justabuddy · Answer

I have... usually not the best sign.

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