My girlfriend has many guys on snap chat?

[Anonymous]

I feel very uncomfortable with this. I am fine with her talking to guys in a group setting but not privately. It feels very disrespectful to me. Being so available to other guys feels uneasy. If she wouldn’t stop this It would strengthen so me that she is commited to me. If I am going to marry her I could not imagine this being an ongoing thing. How can I tell her this. I don’t want to sound controlling. I honestly have so much anxiety because of it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Man, that would totally bug me too if my girl was chatting up dudes like that. Here's what I'd do:

First off, don't say anything when you're feeling anxious or angry. Wait til you're calm to talk.

Then when you're both chill, have an honest convo about boundaries. Say how much Snapchatting other guys privately makes you uncomfortable.

Emphasize it's not about controlling her, but about respecting each other's feelings in the relationship. Ask how she'd feel if you did the same with other girls.

If she cares about you, she'll understand where you're coming from. Compromise by saying group chats are fine, but one on one snaps with other dudes should stop out of respect.

If she keeps dismissing your feelings, that's a red flag. You deserve a girl who makes you her priority, not some backup option while she's chatting up every guy.

Just be calm and confident bringing it up. She'll see you're worth listening to if you handle it the right way, bro. Your feelings matter here too.

[Anonymous]

"I want to be controlling without sounding controlling"

[Asker]

I want to feel respected and safe. Being available like this makes me feel like she needs validation and attention from other guys. I feel like taking distance from the opposite gender when in a relationship is the right thing to do. Same for me.

[Asker]

If your partner made you feel uncomfortable you would want your partner to understand right? Or would you not say anything and keep feeling terrible.