Why does dating a man feels like an endurance test?

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t know what it is, but sometimes it feels as if you have to stick with them for all of this stuff that comes with wanting to be in a relationship. That means lying manipulation, begging borrow, some women have children by them, cheating, not trusting you all of these things and by the end of it, you feel worn out as a woman And then they think you’re not enough and you start slowly feeling like you’re not worthy of love

And at the end of the day, all you really do want is love and to give love, not quite so fairytale, but it’s in there

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Listen, listen listen I’m not choosing these men. I’m trying to give an open mind to the men that come up to me.

[lightbulb27]

that can happen, I see it going on.

you really gotta manage yourself and communicate. Some guys are raised wrong for you... and you picked them... due to your limited criteria and options.

So there is some training required.

You do not want to try to do everything yourself...

it's work... you have to pickup the pieces from where mommy left off.

[AviatorTom]

Relationships are not easy, for the man... or the woman. Sometimes you have to out up with things... for the good of the relationship.

If you're looking for the perfect relationship, you're going to be very disappointed.

[Justneedtokno]

I know that it’s not going to be all sunshine and rainbows. I’m realistic, but if I’m going to stick around, I don’t want it to totally be me putting in a bunch of effort and that person is not there mentally physically.

[hahahmm]

Because either you pick the wrong men or you are a contrary type person who will say the sky is green just because the guy said the sky is blue.

[Justneedtokno]

Technically, not all of us choose them when they come up to us. We’re just trying to be open minded like y’all say we’re not accessible. We’re not trying, but we do and this heartbreak shit happens.

[hahahmm]

@Justneedtokno Either you choose guys or you let every random guy choose you. In both cases you cannot claim not to be responsible for who you're with. I get it tho, you feel that you have been used/abused. And that's quite possible but the best person to change that is YOU

[Justneedtokno]

Look, I know that there’s a lot of things that I need to work on as an individual. I’m very self-critical and I’m very self-aware.

But a lot of guys even on this app say that women aren’t being open minded, which is giving a person a chance that you normally don’t even go for or you know you want a certain thing and we understand that Love 🖤 don’t always come in the perfect package
Accepting the person who they are given all the factors I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with me not wanting to stay in a situation where the person doesn’t even want to be there either

[Anonymous]

I would never tolerate manipulation or lying (within reason). And I would have zero tolerance for cheating.

Sounds to me like you have problem with boundaries. My boundaries are rock solid. I'd rather never date ever again then to compromise them. Does that lose me a lot of women? You better believe it! But it won't lose the right one.

[Justneedtokno]

OK, Naruto. I have had a problem with boundaries, but also I was trying to be open-minded for the last people that I’ve due to the fact that I wasn’t giving anybody a chance always waiting for the other shoe to drop

[Opinion Owner]

I don't get the reference.

[Justneedtokno]

It’s OK it’s anime

[MicahRaine]

That's how I felt with my ex. I eventually told her I was done begging for her love, and she left me soon after.

[EmmaMary]

@Justneedtokno

It would seem apparent that your choice of men is something to be desired... Sorry.

[Justneedtokno]

Why do people feel like it? My choice when I was doing the thing that everybody says supposed to do with dating being open minded.

The question is how long would you stay with someone?

[EmmaMary]

@Justneedtokno

In answer to your question... With my woman's intuition screaming, not very long at all.

[slatyb]

If that's how it feels, you are dating the wrong men.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

You're finding out people and being in a relationship is draining at times.

People are just like even the best of them can feel draining.

[msc545]

Feels the same being a man with a woman. Miserable.

[Justneedtokno]

Wait, I never said I was miserable. I only faded. I don’t know what the limit is.

[Staximus]

Because you don't know how to pick a good guy

[Anonymous]

Damn woman, are you incapable of attracting a man better than that?

[Justneedtokno]

lol more like I just push them away and I didn’t give anybody a chance before I get hurt

[RedInnocent69]

It’s always an endurance test. I’m insatiable 😉😂

[Slim57]

Because you're dating the wrong men? Good men don't do that shit

[boggboss]

Because the men you have picked are shitty

[Justneedtokno]

Technically, not all of us choose them when they come up to us. We’re just trying to be open minded like y’all say we’re not accessible.

The question is how long do we stay until you see our worth

[NathanDavis]

you made the wrong choices

[zagor]

Maybe your quality control is lacking.

[Justneedtokno]

There’s no men to really choose so from my area I feel like I need to move

[Dongie]

So you think it's any different from our side?

[Justneedtokno]

No, the question is how long do we wait and stand with a man after being cheated on after being taken advantage? When is it ever enough for you to see us as somebody you want to be with?

[Dongie]

2 questions.
Cheated on it's over.
That's got to be different for everybody. Everyone is different. How can one answer the second question seriously?
As for being cheated on, it's over.

[Justneedtokno]

That’s true, but think about isn’t that what they do back in the day stay no matter what isn’t that the work that it takes to be in a real relationship

[Dongie]

No. The saying goes,"Once a cheater, always a cheater." I've seen it first hand. Especially when she, the cheated on, let's it go it just enboldens the cheater.

[Dongie]

*embolden

[Justneedtokno]

I’m with you

[Dongie]

Are you?
Right now, the earth could explode and hear me laugh.

[Justneedtokno]

I’m with you in the fact of your mindset of cheating. I’ll smile and grin to the end.

[jahaims]

That is only with a low quality partner

[noohair]

Well, you believe life is a fairytale?