In dating, is it ultra competitive for men?

[Anonymous]

I think so.

Like I get people shocked all the time that I’m single. It is partly through choice but also a lot of the time I will match with loads of girls and they won’t respond, ghost….. they still looking for more when I already check every box. Like I can’t believe my fortunes in life. Yet still, not enough.

But also I never get to meet new girls in person. I am not complaining at all - I am just highlighting.

It’s easy if you have nil standards as a guy and undersell yourself.

Dating is ultra competitive for men

I disagree

[Anonymous]

No. That's the illusion.

You ever seen the movie "The Island"? Where people stay in this facility. And routinely a person is chosen by lottery to go to the Island which is supposed to be a paradise so it's viewed as this great thing that everyone wants. But the REALITY is this. They're being removed from the facility and being slaughtered and their organs are being harvested.

So, dating (like The Island). The guy who wins a great majority of the time is actually losing. Dating Is competitive, but the winners of those competitions are actually Generally the losers overall much of the time. Because the women they "win" are the worst people most of the time.

In short, stop worrying about competing. Be you! Be genuine! Be a good person! For God sakes, BE VISIBLE! Know your boundaries. Know your values and morals (and do not compromise them for ANYONE). Know where you're going in life (as best you can. No should expect you to have it all figured out). And then just live life and don't worry about it.

Remember you're ONLY one half the equation. Succes is only 50% in your control.

[sportsman_MD]

It is. That's what makes it fun and also good for our species.

[Asker]

The problem is women don’t often pick good traits that actually make a good man

[sportsman_MD]

Are you considering a "good man" one who is more likely to stay with her loyally long-term or one who has the best genetics for the species?

[DishLady]

Meh. I think it's equally competitive for men and women. The same small pool of HIGHLY DESIRABLE men and women are chased by everyone. It's always been this way.

[Nikki1989]

Not for any of the men I know. Almost all are married now.

[InknKink]

As a guy you ether struggle to tread water or your drowning in women. There really isn't a middle ground. 10% of the men get 90% of the women and all that cliche; which is honestly rings true, especially when it comes to online dating.

[genericname85]

it's ultra competitive for everyone. cause everyone is trying to get with the best partner they can find but one can only be with one partner at a time so yeah. lot's of competition.

[Alex-Snow]

Not ultra competitive. But at times maybe challenging. I bet some girls feel the same way.

[ABC1x1x]

I dont know. Im funny as fuck.