Would it be inappropriate to ask out my dentist's assistant?

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I have a crush on her.

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

If the person in question is not a relative of yours or a minor then it’s no inappropriate

We live in a world where people’s own insecurities lead them to try creating rules and conditions, like many here saying it’s inappropriate because she’s working

She’s human, you’re human

Just be respectful and don’t force her into an uncomfortable situation

Flirt make her laugh and then suggest getting a drink
If she turns you down you can rise above it and say “thanks cool, it was worth a shot”
And leave it there

You can even keep seeing the same dentist and run into her. Just don’t try to push past the rejection and return to just being a friendly patient

Alternatively she says yes and the two of you will tell an interesting story to your kids when they say “dad how did you meet mom”

lightbulb27 · Accepted Answer

yes, but that's life ain't' it.

if it's fun for her, it's ok. if she's on the spot and in fear, it's terrible.

you could ask her if she's ever dated patients, and do they get extra novacane? Or how often patients fall in love with her... ya know, all those bright lights in the eyes, delerious chemicals...

whatever funny goofy stuff you can make up so its cheeky fun. if she bites... no pun intended... then go from there and make suggestion.

if it can't be fun, don't do it.

SnowyOwl · Accepted Answer

You could ask her, "hey, I was wondering if you would like to go out on a date?"

Just don't take it badly if she says no for whatever reason, because you're still her customer.

If she says yes, you have an opportunity!

If she says no, tell her it's alright.

Good luck though!

SecretsofKB · Accepted Answer

Yeah, more often than not that’s inappropriate. Especially in a healthcare setting.  They are more than likely not allowed to start a relationship or date a patient per their policy anyways.

Finchie40 · Answer

Not at all , but understand she is at work doing her job , so her friendliness to you might be job related, so the best thing for you to do , is to write her letter with your phone number , so you aren’t putting her on the spot and give her time to read your letter and to make a decision. If she likes you she will call, if not oh well at least you didn’t embarrass her in front of her co workers

AviatorTom · Answer

I's not inappropriate but it's probably not a good idea, unless you want to change dentists.

Avicenna · Answer

Yes, it would be inappropriate.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn’t do it unless you plan on going to another dentist afterward. The best case scenario is she says yes and you all date for a few weeks and then she checks your file and finds out about your medical history but then you have to go to a different dentist because of the conflict of interest. The worst case scenario is she says no and then records that you asked her out in your permanent file and then every dentist you go to afterwards finds out that you asked out one of the dental assistants.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

As other people have mentioned on this thread, friendliness is part of her job. I wouldn't ask her out but if you are interested, be friendly to her when you go in there and see how she responds. You can look her up on social media if she is on that, and see what you can tell about her life and if she is attached, etc. It might turn out that you aren't a match for her anyway. Or it could be that you might be a good match. But if it were me, I would avoid asking her out.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I’m sure there is a joke here about ‘oral’ hygiene and you liking her but I will just leave that where it is.

I don’t think it would necessarily wrong to ask her out but I’d certainly want to get a true flavor of what her response might be otherwise get ready to change dentist 🦷

molonski2 · Answer

Give her the chance , apologise for asking her out at work and give her your phone number and ask her to send you a text , but YES certainly proceed.

Anonymous · Answer

If you don't mind embarrassing yourself, then go ahead. And nothing is going on there. They tend to act more bubbly around patients. They act like that for customer service reasons they pretend to care what you are talking about and put on a show, but nothing is going on there.

Luopio27 · Answer

On your last visit, leave a note in a small nice envelope with your contact and an invite to your life!

Dont be desperate. Be respecful and give her the time and space to open up to the idea of grabbing a coffee with you outside of work related matters.

If it has hearts and stuff, its going too strong, too fast.

MemeSupreme · Answer

might wanna consider changing dentists just incase lol re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (0, 0, 0), justifyLeft

genericname85 · Answer

i think where ever you're a customer, you don't ask out the staff. that's just weird as heck. they're nice to you, cause you're paying. not cause they like you.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, after your appointment tell her that she did an awesome job and then aske her if she would go out with you/. The worst thing isyou will have to find a new dentist.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

if you only interact with her at her job, yeah, its weird. and guarantee you could come across as creepy enough for her to never see you again

zagor · Answer

It might be better to discreetly find out if she is married or committed first - or gay. Assuming all those pass, it should be OK; just wait til after the exam and ask when no one else is present.

Anonymous · Answer

First make sure you're done with the appointment and have none in the near future.

236color · Answer

No it wouldn't be inappropriate for you to ask. It would be unprofessional for her to accept.

4ngelic · Answer

i dont think it is, just dont do it during your consultation

debtfree_oneyear · Answer

In my department at work almost 90% of my coworkers are woman and one thing give learned is they don't want to be hit on at work

CarolinaGirl5 · Answer

Yes it's harrassment and creepy re-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

Fireguy17 · Answer

if you don't ask her you will never know and from time to time wonder what if?

Anonymous · Answer

If you do it outside of her work, it's not inappropriate, it is if you ask her at work.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

No, it is a completely normal situation.

joehypo1 · Answer

Why not she has already been in your mouth

Anonymous · Answer

That’s totally ok in my opinion.

jojouzumaki · Answer

No it wouldn’t be.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Yes go for it. She is horny too

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I WOULDN'T RECOMMEND IT

Ironic_Method · Answer

Go for it.

AmeerX · Answer

I don't think so

the29thhuman · Answer

😂 🤦‍♀️😂

In_Trance · Answer

Yes..

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