Why would a non black guy date a black girl then ask to call her the n word?

[Anonymous]

[texascollegegirl]

He probably got really hurt bya white girlfriend who got hooked on big Black dick, so he wants to take it out on someone who didn't do that to him. Some kinks are because of all the racism out there in the world. I'm sorry that happened to you. I admit I grew up saying that word, and now the only time it's a temptation is when a Black wants me to say it as part of a kink while we are having sex. They only ever ask when they know about my racist past. Maybe it's something like that. Either way it's not something any white should do unless the Black they are with has a reason and wants it, and even then, maybe not. The only reason I ever did it since I stopped is because I can't say no to those BBC guys when I'm having sex. They tell me it's part of their racial healing and I admit it drives them a little crazy. Obviously it doesn't work for you. I did have one Black girlfriend who likes white guys to say that because she's a sub. I'm not sure it's good for her. It's different than a Black guy who's wanting it because he can assert sexual dominance and fight racism. Anyway probably a good reason not to keep dating him unless he can explain.

[Asker]

He’s Asian

[Asker]

I think he only dated Asian girls

[texascollegegirl]

Sorry I made stupid assumptions because of all the racists here, and maybe because I haven't completely overcome my own racism. Just because I have sex with Blacks doesn't mean they have taught me everything I need to know. Sorry again.

I still think it is similar but it is weird, isn't it? There is a strong history of anti-Black racism in some Asian cultures. We had it in our small town. Almost all the whites are super racist, and my family the most of all, but my parents have Asian friends who are almost as racist. They couldn't join the Klan like my Daddy supposably did but they would if they could. I have to be honest with you a whole lot of the racism is sexual. I'm guessing he feels completely inadequate about his dick, especially given you are so tall and have a great body. I admit I'm all twisted up in my sexuality because of racism. I still enjoy when smaller dick whites and Asians and even Blacks get all jealous and turned on about my liking well endowed Blacks or cheating on my boyfriend. I've had them try to get me to use the n word too once they know I used it all the time growing up.

[texascollegegirl]

I see. I still suspect it's about one or more of his girlfriends fucking Blacks. I have seen that before way more than once with my friends and their boyfriends. They get so insecure about girls nights out and their being friends with me, knowing how I am. I don't blame them, but I see the insecurity and they are right to feel insecure tbh.

I'm so sorry if I added any offense. I am trying to answer your question honestly. A lot of racism is sexual anxiety and wanting to reassert dominance or hierarchy. It's fucked up. I know I probably still have some in me but the Blacks I have sex with often enjoy it because it gives them some kind of racial healing to do that with a little white girl like me. At least that's what they say. Maybe they just say it so I won't be embarrassed or so I will give them more sex. I don't know. I am just saying with those examples, it's a sexual anxiety and kink driving the racism. It doesn't make it not racist, but maybe it makes it worth finding out why. It took me the longest time to figure out why a Black would want so badly for me to call him the n word, but I finally understood - it's because of the racism and the need to fight back. This guy is different, maybe, because he is trying to fight back on his sexual insecurities and doing it wrong. Either way I will pray for you. I hope you don't mind. I don't want to lift people up in prayer if they don't want, because I don't want to tarnish their relationship with God if they have one. All the best.

[texascollegegirl]

Or maybe I'm stupid. I made a connection between this post and another. Sorry I am out of it with some things I did today meaning I am so exhausted. I will pray for you if you don't mind. So sorry if I offended in any way.

[Asker]

It’s okay i should have been more direct it’s my fault :)

[WhitneySnow]

Yuck!!! Dump that guy and never look back.

[slatyb]

Wow, that's really strange and seems very disrespectful. Why? I have no idea. This would be a deal breaker for me. Why is not important. Your feelings are important.

[beefcakebradybatson]

The white chap may have heard rap where the "n" word predominates and/or the black broad uses it among her family and friends.

[Asker]

He’s not white

[beefcakebradybatson]

But my theory holds. (I guess.)

[Asker]

:) yep

[alice55]

He like roleplay or he have a fetish

[LeatherDame]

Run.

[Dan290290]

He's a scumbag, leave him

[Anonymous]

What's the "n" word?

[Asker]

Racist slur to blacks

[Opinion Owner]

Why is it called the n word then? Not a single one of those words you listed even begin with or have the letter "n" in them.

[Asker]

Because I didn’t use the slur

[Asker]

Because it’s offensive to say actual slurs it can upset someone