Situation-ship? advice please?

[Anonymous]

So I have been seeing this guy for about 4 months now. Both of our schedules have been very busy from the beginning and he had always been very persistent in wanting to hang out with me so even though I didn’t make much time , he stuck around waiting. We’ve hung out about 5 times in 4 months and I liked him from the beginning and I feel like he really likes me too. The thing is, we only hang out and each others homes and we only communicate through Snapchat and that really bothers me and makes me feel like he’s not taking me serious. He tries to have conversations with me everyday but I don’t reply much back because I don’t like feeling like a friends with benefits. He does try to hang out weekly but only asks me over to his place. When we are together, we talk about our values and goal and that we both want to get married and have kids eventually, still neither one of us has brought up the “what are we conversation”. As a women, I expect the man to lead and purse me and show me he’s serious about me. If I am the one that has to ask where things are heading, or that I want dates etc, it just kills the romance for me and makes me feel like I'm making someone do something they don’t want to.

[ohsheeT]

Well see that's the thing is he's in la la land and if he wanted to be serious with you get serious with you for a serious reason he would has already make a move are started let's see if he just lets it go like this then he's not pursuing you you're pursuing him so that way if something was to happen down the road he could just walk away and what I mean

And you did you described it perfect on you pushing him into something because you want this you know you like him you want this so you're telling him quit messing around let's do this LOL you're the one that's going to wear the pants in the family if he says yes that's for sure you either have to just wait for him you know let him make his move if he's ever going to or you make your move you kno

He might not even want a relationship he just might want to be friends or friends with benefits.
But yeah you're motivated he's kind of wherever he is so if you push too hard he'll get scared

[Asker]

So you agree that I shouldn’t ask or be the one to bring it up right? Wait for him to do it and if he takes long enough, then drop him?

[ohsheeT]

No. Im not. Sure.
I just read your question again this time I heard you and told you. Everything you said that you wanted to do I mean you sound like you need answers and you want answers now LOL.. that was meant to be funny but it's not because somewhere in the future you see something else are you being prepared for it or you're getting paid prepared for it and you're just trying to pre plan or do something I'm not sure but I feel you and if everything you say is what you feel and I would so you probably have to do something but it just depends on how you do it I guess and really don't listen to me I mean like I said I felt you and you need to just worry about what you think don't worry what anybody else thinks you have to do what you have to do or what makes you feel good because I can say two different things I don't want to do that because I don't want you to put it in the back of your head and go off my decision any other time I would answer this in a heartbeat but I can't now I mean I felt your voice I felt everything and you're looking for something you want to know something and you have that right so I say go for it do whatever you want but I'd be curious on what it is

[itsannalee]

I wouldn’t like if a men never really take me on the date. Like hangout, go to restaurants or watch movies in the cinema. etc.


Just visit and hangout each other house is just like fuck friend, and feel like he hides you from people. I would prefer to move on and looking someone else who can make me feel secure in the relationship. Not hang like this.

[NewWaves]

Stop this nonsense. If you want a relationship, say so. You don't have to wait for him to do or say anything about it. It's exactly this beating around the bush that will put you in an indefinite "situantionship". If it's not what you want, don't behave like you're in one.