Does he want to end things but scared to admit it?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend did he want to go ahead and be single because of the way he’s acting he read it yesterday and said nothing

[Flower7]

It depends on how he’s been acting. This is not enough information to know what’s going on with him.

[Anonymous]

Hi wincx3d. You've asked this like a dozen times this week. Stop spamming us PLEASE

[ProbablyClueless]

I wouldn't assume that. He probably just needs a little bit of space to clear his head.

[Asker]

Why not say that then? He didn’t say anything no response

[ProbablyClueless]

He might just be overwhelmed by the whole situation and not want to deal with it. I've noticed that a lot of people (both men and women) have a really tough time managing their emotions. And it can be easier to simply disconnect for a moment than risk saying something that gets taken the wrong way.

[Asker]

He replied later to me

[ProbablyClueless]

Good news or bad news?

[Asker]

He said he basically didn’t want to break up but wants to wait until something’s get sorted to communicate

[ProbablyClueless]

That seems like a pretty good outcome.

[Asker]

You think so?

[ProbablyClueless]

Sure... He wants the relationship to continue and wants the communication with you to be clear. That's a good sign.

[Asker]

But he isn’t replying to my messages

[ProbablyClueless]

Yeah. Because he's sick of communicating through text when it's clearly leading to miscommunications. He's told you that he wants to talk with you in person. Please respect the boundary he has set with you.

[Asker]

If he wants to talk in person why hasn’t he asked me to come over

[Asker]

We haven’t had much communication since his phones been broke and I’ve reached out to him through Facebook but he barely replies which caused me to ask did he want to end things

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course he barely replies: everything about his behavior is all but screaming that he wants space, but you keep trying to force communication with him.

Please just give him some time to think

[Asker]

Ok gotcha how much space before i decide the relationship is going nowhere or to cut ties

[ProbablyClueless]

Eh... If you don't hear anything from him after 3 weeks, I think it's safe to assume the relationship is over.

[Asker]

That’s along time to not communicate

[ProbablyClueless]

It certainly would be. Three weeks is probably overkill but it'll more than enough time for him to process his feelings, sort through any life insanity, start to miss you, and reach back out.

I figure that 1 week will probably be more than enough time to cool off. But he might be super mad or need a little extra time so I just automatically give 2 weeks, just to be generous because I can tell he's pretty peeved with you. Sometimes life insanity also comes up, so that 2 weeks is most likely more than enough breathing room.

[Asker]

You thinks he’s mad at me? He told me last Friday he missed me so I’m not sure what i did

[ProbablyClueless]

I don't know whether he's mad at you specifically or just overwhelmed by life in general. The point is that you just need to give him some breathing room. When he's ready to talk with you, he'll reach out.

[Asker]

Ok thanks his phone is broke he said he’d have a new one Monday but Monday is passed

[MasterKS]

kicked him out!