Are men NOT deserving of ROMANTIC love if they're not financially stable?

[HawkPerception]

Yes

No

[blueonblack22]

Depends on WHY they are financially unstable.

Are they pursuing a dream? Sacrificing to be an entrepreneur and going through early struggles (been there)?

Did they find a higher calling? Looking to serve a spiritual purpose or cause. This can be a two edged sword depending on what it’s for.

Are they going through a major depressive setback? They had past success but were derailed because of something (unexpected job loss, got in a car accident, death in the family, etc?)

Or are they just irresponsible, unmotivated or worse addicted (drugs, alchohol, gambling, etc?).

Really depends on why. And unfortunately most woman won’t take the time to ask why. Young attractive women especially don’t care how (or what it takes) for a man to make money.

But there are rare exceptions but that’s only when the man is exemplary to the woman in some other capacity. Usually gifted entertainers particularly musicians might get some leeway with money if they are already (semi) famous but haven’t made the big buck yet.

[Summeroflove]

I disagree with that…. If someone’s dating you only because of your money you’re in for a life long of MISERY friends.

Someone who supports you at your lowest. Someone who loves you despite having other options because they just genuinely love you. Is much better then being after your wallet.

[DishLady]

Hmm. This is complicated, because "deserve" is a matter of what the person's character is, HOWEVER if a guy isn't financially stable part of him is distracted by that, and so he's not really giving his 100% to the relationship. A few stressed out little cogs in the back of his mind are constantly spinning in their own direction to devise some plan to become financially stable (whatever that looks like in terms of employment, investment, etc.). It takes away from the part of him that wants to just enjoy his life, find love, etc.

[Zack-Bann]

Considering my finances are a bit unstable at the moment I wouldn’t even bother trying to find love.


Not because Im undeserving but because my priority right now is fixing my situation.


I think men who go through life broke and yet constantly chasing relationships that eventually go up in flames do themselves a disservice.


My dad brags about marrying my mom with nothing but 25$ in his pocket and they are still together almost 30 years later.
But in 30 years they never once tasted financial stability.
And I lived my entire life with the looming threat of hunger hanging over my head.
Even though we always found a way the added stress of thinking that it’s even possible is not something anyone should have to deal with

[HawkPerception]

That was deep man. Tough times create strong men.

[Crimsyjo]

Love and money have no bearing on eachother. I care about material things and wealth very little and I've had very little money before too.

The only issue I have with a man without money is if he can't support his own basic needs and chooses to use other people instead or be a criminal when he could just get a job.

[Summeroflove]

That I agree with. Nobody wants someone whose a bum but at the same time. Men who have women with them just for money any romantic interest is probably fake.

Those men need to be VERY careful. Who they date and look out for the disingenuous. Because you will be cheated on horribly

[Crimsyjo]

@Summeroflove I know. I don't even know how women do that? For me there has to be at least attraction and connection to have sex.
And love is even better.

Any woman with a man just for money is probably narcissistic and very poor character traits. Some men like a trophy wife though it seems?

[Summeroflove]

Well you can’t comprehend it because you’re normal. People of dark personalities cannot form genuine connections remember that

[Summeroflove]

Unfortunately many of these dark personalities including narcissists may come off very charming. They know that being honest about their intentions probably will get them rejected by who they want.

They think if you’re dumb enough to fall for it you deserve it

[Summeroflove]

But once people sleep around too much. They just need the next thing that gets them off. Irs a dark rabbit hole.

Things someone at one point was repulsed by they are now into. How many child predators become child predators. It’s just that next thing. That next taboo.

[blackeagle007]

Kinda like trumps wife. You call that ❤️?

[blackeagle007]

It’s rare for someone like you exists. Other women want the man to work, make 6 digits a year while a woman stays at home, go to the spa and watch soap operas

[Crimsyjo]

@blackeagle007 I've heard that but seems more American thing than British.. 6 digit income? That wd be rare here !!

[blackeagle007]

Yea providrship is big here. My sister turned down a construction worker and now she’s married to a mechanical engineer. What happened to desiring for one another for romantic reasons? Many marriages and so on fail because of $. Oh our president demands everyone to work. Look at him, he’s a multibillioner. dosent have to lift a finger since day one. And he’s worried to a trophy wife. His dunbass supporters say they are in love. 😆

[Crimsyjo]

@blackeagle007 haha yh nobody would be with him for any reason other than power or money!!

[Apple1996]

Everyone is deserving of love. I love provider men but that doesn't mean they need money. Being a provider is a mindset. Wanting to pay for dates and treat your woman is a mindset. My husband didn't have money when I met him but he had the plans of wanting to care for me financially in the future and followed through with it. Even if he never followed through with it the fact that he wanted to care for me was enough. I think those guys who are 50/50 hardcore, bitch about gold diggers and being broke just have a nasty energy about them so it's gonna be harder for them to find a woman.

[KittygosMeoWW]

I think everyone deserves love but when two people come together and fall in love a family is created so it’s very important to keep that in mind. For example, I was with someone that I thought would be a responsible adult who would help me take care of the child we created but didn’t. So, if the man isn’t financially able to provide at least 50-50, is it by choice or because of stuff he’s going through. That’s what’s really important.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

It is certainly more advantageous for anyone to pursue romantic endeavors if he or she is financially stable.

Romance is not just for those who can afford to pursue it.

[incorrected]

The phrasing of the question is a little odd. Lack of financial stability in and of itself is not necessarily a reason to rule him out, but it would be a question of WHY.

In any case, a man who doesn't have his financial shit together is always going to have a harder time finding romantic love than one who has his ducks in a row, unless he's attractive with a very winning personality or a bad boy, in which case he's going to get sex and romantic opportunity either way.

[blackeagle007]

Women are big on how much a man makes. They feel they should be taken care of. Still want to live in the 60’s

[msc545]

Nobody should be stuck with a goldigger. Women have no inherent right of support anymore than men do.

[Valdemort]

Not deserving? That's a pretty superficial way of thinking.

[PeachyPie93]

I don't think they are undeserving.. but I think they will have to work harder to prove they are better than a guy who is financially stable..

[Deadpool99]

Somebody call Kanye and cue the dang song ! Seriously tho , money shouldn’t define relationships.

[oldpigg]

I don't care, I won't give my money to women.

[Crazzyyworld]

Well there are lots of bimbos prostitues and sugar babies. They require money so much money

[Billlewis]

Absolutely. If you think about it, there never really is a time when a guy deserves anything whatsoever from a woman, unless she decides that he does.

[LiamJHayden]

No one is deserving of romantic love unless another willingly gives it.

[aquamarine321]

Into society and how people think, if a man can’t provide he shouldn’t receive anything in return

[Smashingdoozy]

Everyone is deserving of love