Why did he (kind of) started ignoring me?

Question

There's this guy and he started texting me two months ago. We got along very well over text, but few days ago, I talked to him in real life for longer than 30 minutes. I'm very confident by nature, well-liked and i think my looks are okay (few men told me that i was beautiful and I'm taking them for their word, i used to be quite 'ugly' as a child so i was never used to this kind of treatment). Anyways, the guy is replying slower and slower, week ago he was making sexual jokes (i was not bothered by it and i played along, because why not). He may be very stressed at the moment because of exams and stuff but i did EVERYTHING to be supportive of him (gave him notes, explained a bunch of stuff). I really don't get why he's giving me this kind of treatment, and i don't want to lose a friend. I'm quite popular but i never had a close friend or someone that would even bother to reach out to me. I'd also be okay with dating him eventually (even though I'm struggling with bipolar and self harm). I was trying to get better for him but now it literally hurts everytime i see that he hadn't texted me. I never told him how much i struggle in my day to day life because i didn't want to bother him. I don't know why this is happening, he always gave me compliments on my personality and was genuinely the first person that seemed like they cared. I really need a second opinion, i don't think I'm capable of thinking rationally at this moment.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

I fear that you potentially scared him off with your attitude of a person that says that it is ok to send sexual stuff. People are very cautious about girls that seem to have light morals and that are readily accepting that men ask for sexual conversations and possibly nudes.

Even if they were only sexual jokes, it nevertheless gives a good idea of what to expect from that person.

He probably did not want to venture further because you seem to do a lot of things just so that you are in his good books. You lowered your self-esteem to agree to be sexual with him.

Perhaps that he saw through you since you were not your usual self by wanting to get better just for him. People realize when someone is doing too much and that may have been something that scared him off.

Chartreux · Accepted Answer

He's being immature, he wants your attention and play games...

KITEinStorm · Accepted Answer

How many days have passed since your last communication? It's not even clear if you've started anything. What's the rush for? Let him breathe a little, maybe he has other problems.