Would you date someone who has never been in a relationship before? Why or why not?

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bellicose · Accepted Answer

Sure, why not? No ex drama/trauma is a positive. It's not like you learn anything about your current relationship with a new person by dealing with a different person that has an entirely different psychology and potentially different cultural background. What you learn in a relationship is how to deal with the person you are currently in a relationship with. You learn how they tick. If you try to apply that to a new person, you're going to fuck up because it's a different person. Why people look for "relationship experience" is beyond me, because it just creates biases to mislead them when they are dealing with an entirely new personality.

Cormac995 · Accepted Answer

Yes, in fact it would be preferable for me in my case. I don't have any experience dating either and I'd be nervous going out with someone who's dated before. I have no idea what I'm doing with this kind of stuff because I never was able to find a relationship. I never really get attention from woman.

If you don't have a lot of experience dating, I think a lot of guys will find that appealing because it means they can kind of show you the ropes which feels kind of special if that makes sense? It's a different kind of bond in those scenarios but I think for a lot of people it's different in a good way.

Booboolove69 · Accepted Answer

Absolutely because I don’t have any baggage or hangups about relationships, you can start fresh and learn together that’s how it’s supposed to be anyway, but if you’ve been in relationships before a lot of times you drag that crap from the past into the present relationship and it ends up being a problem so I would absolutely date someone that has never been in a relationship before I think that would be pretty cool

DishLady · Accepted Answer

At my age? No. That would be odd. *I* am already low on my "body count". The guy should at least have had as many relationships as I have... and tbh the average guy has.

HawkPerception · Answer

I'd be more inclined to date a girl that hasn't dated before than a girl that's been with 20 plus guys in her life. When it comes to women, less is more. That being said, my number is pretty low, so I think it's okay for me to desire a low number myself.

Simslover92 · Answer

Yes I would. That would probably mean I'm dating younger but I don't mind that as long as they were mature.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, if they treated me good and were honest and respectful to me , then why not

OlderAndWiser · Answer

At my age, it would be a girl who just retired from the convent. Probably not.

abc3643 · Answer

Yes. In fact, doing that was arguably my best relationship. Often, best relationships are first relationships because 1) you are both young (and likely grew up in the same community and/or went to the same schools growing up) and 2) you learn together.

I was my second girlfriend's first boyfriend. We had a very good relationship and, in many ways, I regret that I dumped her after 26 months. My own failings were due to that; she was a very nice girl. I often think, had I stayed with her, I might have had a very happy life. I am not certain of that though.

MisterWack · Answer

I don’t think that matters since if you are captivated by their character, hobbies, interests, music playlists, the people that they attract and their overall demeanor then it shouldn’t matter if that person was in a relationship prior or slept with someone or whatever. That is at least my perspective and I’m happy with my girlfriend.

RavVid · Answer

Tricky and it is sort of age dependent. A girl who has never been in a relationship won't have relationship skills.

Conversely a girl who has been, won't have the same unbounded optimism and faith that we all do in our first love.

Maybe she has been so busy running through guys there hasn't been time for one.

If the girl is late 20's or plus than it would cause some doubts in me.

If the girl is 18 to 20 than i wouldn't be concerned because she has had less time.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Yes. I'm in the same boat at 30 - the woman could be in her early 20s or even mid 20s and I'd be very mindful of being myself as much as an ordinary civilised man 😀😁 and have a good enjoyable date. I didn't want to say fun, because that implies fun. And thats not cool to say on just a first date.

After all - equal nervousness surely means sparks for the long race - the never ending race.

MoonFace2 · Answer

At your age? Yes, I would’ve and I’m sure I have. At my current age, dating virgins, I’d be a bit suspicious of why they were still virgins. Are they asexual, are they closet gays, or is there some weird fetish they’ve got and can’t satisfy with me? That’s what I ask myself.

I once cancelled a date with a guy who wanted to wait through a year of dating to have sex. I sensed that something wasn’t right there.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on her age. If she’s in her late teens to mid 20s sure. But if she’s in her 30s. That raises some red flags. Like why haven’t you at least been in one relationship. She ugly? She have a lot of mental health issues. A lot of women who are gorgeous who are still single by their late 20s and up usually have mental health issues. That’s why they have no problem attracting ring men, they just have a problem w getting the man to commit. More than likely she’s got issues.

Lottydotty · Answer

there's plenty of good reasons to give someone a shot at any legal age or level of experience. Why make these invisible walls? Only understandable reason I've seen is if they've been with waaaay over a number of people you're comfortable with. As that could mean diseases and such. But other than that, like there's no real reason to not other than preference which is based on your very small experiences with a very small portion of the world.

Josey29 · Answer

I wouldn't.  I would feel guilty for dating a virgin, a younger man and anyone naive.  I want a level playing field.

Sugar100 · Answer

I’ve never had a relationship before cuz all guys I’ve liked reject me. No one gives me a chance. No one wants to meet family be with me daily nothing this is why I’m alone. No one is proud call me his girlfriend.

Purpleronnie · Answer

This is how all of us started right? If I wasn’t I’d be a hypocrite. I would be however be more sensitive and curious as to the reason (s) for them not dating before

Anonymous · Answer

Unless she gave me some glaring reason not to. Why would never having been in a relationship be a deal breaker.

Some people make to much of this. I mean I get people saying why. And some people will say, "well they won't have dating experience" and to that I say, "yeah and they won't have dating trauma either". It's silly to think just cause someone has dated that the don't understand how to interact with people.

exitseven · Answer

yes, Everyone has different life experiences and just because someone has not been in a relationship before does not mean there is something wrong with them.

I really did not date anyone until I went away to college.

molonski2 · Answer

If I was in my 20s I couldn't care less.. Considering that I'd like them to be 35 plus however it may be pretty dam strange for certain.

Will_Allard · Answer

I would have no issue with it, I've not really been in a relationahip before and don't have a great deal of experience though

MemeSupreme · Answer

probably not you learn so many lessons in your first major one that helps set you up for later relationships

Babygirl_S · Answer

Sure ! If it was his choice just like a virgin like me who decided to wait for a husband even when many men tried to get with me in a much better city. Too bad they’re so subpar that I want to stay a virgin.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depends on the person. If he is emotionally intelligent sure, if not then no.

Shiprex · Answer

Yes absolutely like being able to discover someone untainted and work on making them the best they want to become.

lilBigPotato · Answer

Yes but the older the person is the more it would raise questions

sawno · Answer

Yes, but i'd be weary because I'd worry she does not know what she wants and is love blind.

Berethor · Answer

Yea, I am not looking for used goods so I consider that a good thing.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, I would.. I've hardly been in any relationships, I'd say it's closer to a green flag, but that would depend on why..

HaveNoName · Answer

Both myself and my wife married each other without having anybhistory of dating; not even each other. That was more than 25 years back. Still going on strong..

WilliamPamer446 · Answer

Yes, then there more fresh. I can be there first love, and treat them right.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I have always sought experience even when I had no relationship experience myself.

Coden7 · Answer

If she was a bit younger sure. If she’s my age, I’d be sniffing for some red flags before moving towards a relationship

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

I dated and regretted it, experienced men are better

fish5505_87 · Answer

I have and would date anyone who I find attractive for whatever the reason. I am not inquiring about their dating past form the onset.

shortster · Answer

Yes, I don't see why her making previous poor relationship decisions needs to be a prerequisite for dating me, a good relationship decision.

Yannae · Answer

It's not because they never loved that they suck at loving.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm already looking for a man who has never been in a relationship before, but finding one is like looking for a needle in a haystack.

aquamarine321 · Answer

For me personally I would, guys prefer virgins or a female with as little past as possible

Uglygaypoorcoward94 · Answer

No way if other women wouldn't want me why would she? Need exp to have sex

molly_dolly885 · Answer

No, they won’t know how relationships work and probably be emotionally unintelligent

Martha79 · Answer

sure especially as gay person could be where they was married but first time dating a woman/man.

Manuelwe · Answer

Technical that is me. I would date but most women fear that as I am so popular would cause them problems

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

i'm sure it makes sense for men to ask a question like this more than vice versa

hello4433 · Answer

As long as that person is good and doesn't do porn or OF I'm fine

mlbreezy · Answer

Of course yes because we all where was not dating before getting in to any relationship that’s how we all started

Anonymous · Answer

Sure as long they are kind and able hold a conversation. Especially if she hasn’t dated another woman before.

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, if I'm interested. I don't care if she's been in a relationship or not.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I've never been in a relationship :(

Anonymous · Answer

Id definitely be okay with that. lower body count = better.

Professor-college · Answer

I'd be okay with that. It doesn't really mean anything

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Yea that would be better for me actually

Pet68 · Answer

Of course I would. Why wouldn't I?

KostasKouvalis · Answer

I would. No particular reason.

ColHathi · Answer

Currently am. There's a first for everything.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe but only if I really liked them

Staximus · Answer

If she wasn't crazy

msg321 · Answer

I think this shouldn't be a criteria.

robocop666 · Answer

this is normal these days

Thecubs22 · Answer

Yeah. I would say she deserves a shot

DrPepper12 · Answer

Possibly

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Yes why not!

Pterodon · Answer

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