Have you ever been sexual with or started dating someone that a friend had a crush on at the same time?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

This actually did happen to me once. We were both interested in the same girl, but she was more into me than she was into him, and so we started dating.

Would you have done the same if in the same situation?

[WhiteSteve]

Yes, or more like a friendly acquaintance. I had a roommate one year who I didn’t really know other than a couple meetings before. Partnership of convenience and necessity, haha. And he had a friend named Chaz who would hang out and smoke blunts with us, pretty cool kid, but just a guy I’d kick it with a couple times a week for a few months.

So, along came these two girls to the bar I bounced at. They were IMMEDIATE stars, haha. Both were real easy to look at, they had great personalities and were very outgoing, and the two of them were best friends since childhood and were just a great duet.

They would come on a Trivia Night, and the owner would emcee the first half, but he had this gravelly voice that would give out by halftime, and he’d usually have his favorite off-duty waitress or female bartender who was hanging around read the second half of questions. But within a couple of weeks, these gals were doing it. Turned out they were both still under 21 too, lmfao, only by a few months, but still😂

Anyway, we all get to talking over the course of a couple weeks, and I think I might have a shot with one or both of them. But these are the type of girls who have a guy sweating them every minute of every day, lmao, so I had to move quickly, and didn’t have a ton of time to further read the situation.

So, the reason I’m going into all this detail is to loop Chaz into it. Chaz was at the bar one night when the girls were. I forget exactly what our conversation was, but when they were off somewhere, he was like “I see you talking to Dena and Kenya. You should probably go for Dena. You know…just to give you a nudge in the right direction.”

And I of course couldn’t just take that at face value, even though he seemed pretty earnest😂 I was like “can I trust him? I don’t really know him like that. And pretty much everybody likes these girls, he surely does too, at least one of them. Is he trying to sabotage me? Send me in the wrong direction, get me off the trail of the one he wants? Should I make a play on Kenya instead?”

I spent the entire rest of my shift trying to read it and decide what I should do. And these girls lived in the dorms, we’re at a huge state university…. the iron was hot, and I needed to strike, because these girls might both be off the market by tomorrow, competition was STIFF.

So I came to a rational, clear-headed, safe decision where I picked the girl I liked best and just kidding my reckless ass gave both of them my number right in front of each other🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️😂😂😂 But yo…. I said some kind of faux-smooth shit as I handed each of them a slip of paper with my number, said to give me a call but left it up in the air, and I COULD. NOT. BELIEVE IT when, as the door to the outdoor deck they were on was closing behind me, and the “what the hell did I just do?” of it all was sinking in, I hear one say to the other, “we’re gonna have to talk about this….”

I was stunned, lmao. I think in my mind I was playing it off as, “oh, I was just giving you both my number so we can all hang out sometime”, because they liked weed, and I was slangin’ at the time. But I think that was about the coolest I ever felt, that they were like “we need to decide who gets him.” Probably aggrandizing it a bit in my head, haha, I think Dena, who ultimately called me, was who said it, so maybe Kenya was like “uhhhh, ALL YOURS, dude…. you’ve always had the weirdest taste.”😂

Holy shit, I wish I knew how to tell stories shorter lmfao….

So anyway, she and I get to hooking up, and we went to a party one night that Chaz was also at (Chaz either lived in her dorm or nearby, and had mutual friends, he would see her more than I saw her at first. Maybe that’s why he thought I should go for her, he might’ve known something I didn’t.). This was probably the first week or so, when we were still pretty all over each other, haha, but I remember we were hanging out and she said to me “I really want to kiss you, but I think Chaz gets bummed out.” I didn’t know he was into her like that, or that she knew he was into her like that. I mean, “total package” kind of woman, I get it, but I didn’t know he was specifically into her to that degree.

So, mercifully, I’ll summit “Mt. What’s-Your-Point?” now….

Turns out, Chaz was a solid kid. It sounds like he was actively crushing on this girl, saw I was too, plus her friend. He apparently had some sort of knowledge that my better chance was with Dena, and, against his own interests (or at least, against his own emotional interests, if he already knew his feelings were unrequited), he attempted to point me in the right direction and help me get a girl who he also liked. And we weren’t even that tight.

That was some stand-up shit on his end, I respect that, even more so as I get older. Most people are way too petty to help someone else win if they’ve already lost, haha

[MrBramski]

Yes, i met a friend that i didn't saw for a few years, and i was in a bad situation, and i stayed with him for a while, and 1 day, he told me (after that girl visited with her then boyfriend) that he had a serious crush on this girl and he was hoping that her relationship with that dude ended fast so he could have a shot with her. After a couple of weeks, this girl was indeed single again. But, this girl wasn't into him, she was into me though, so, he invited this girl and her friend over, he thought that by her bringing a friend, me and the girl's friend could meet up, i said sure, why not? So, we all get together at my friends place, he was going to ask her to be his date. One thing you have to know, this girl was a cutie, slim, long brown hair, green eyes, she was beautiful, she never told me she liked me, so i was completely caught off guard when he shoot his shot with her, and she just said "no, you are not my type, but he is" . . . And there we were, all went quiet, he looked at me, looked at her, i was just looking at the ceiling. All eyes were on me, i just said "i am going outside to smoke a cig, come join me Richard". I explained him that i never spoke to her (the truth), and he saw that i meant it, he just said "it's ok, life is weird, go for it" . . . So i dated this chick, but never did any kissing or something before my friend, but yeah, i felt kinda bad for him, but i looked through my friendlist and hooked him up with a girl that i knew. So good ending i suppose? i dated that chick for about half a year, but she was very selfish, and 1 day, i just had enough and i left her.

[PeachyPie93]

Nope.. Since if me and my friend liked the same guy I would let her go for it since I wasn't going to. Only time I didn't like if that happened is if I liked the guy first and then after I told her I liked him then she started liking him and going for him.. I hate those kind of girls. Plus none of my friends knew the guys I dated.

[northerngal]

No. I would consider that a betrayal. I would totally talk that one out with my friend first.

[Finchie40]

Yes, I have experienced this a few times , and it is what it is. Your friend can either accept it or not. If it was a close friend , then I wouldn’t pursue the girl but a not so close friend , they are shit out of luck

[D_Bone_Steak]

Not really... I look at a woman any of my friends have touched as damaged goods.

One of my friends and I have swapped girls or banged the girl at the same time like a total of like 5 times. But that was just fucking girls... we don't love these hoes. But we do love fucking women. We'd pick up a couple of random girls and basically just swap them back and fourth... a couple of Vietnamese girls we picked up in Australia for instance... it was a good time. Just a couple of tight pussies and I share them with my bro.

[Cormac995]

I had this happen to me and if fucked with my head ruined the friendship and the girl got used like a sex toy by him and he dumped her when she stopped putting out because she was tired of getting no attention from him other than him pawing at her. This is a shitty idea all around and it always ends bad for someone.

[Anonymous]

My best friend’s girlfriend had a thing for me when we first met her (he and I met her at a party at the same time)
But she wasn’t my type and as soon as he wanted to go for her I instantly became the wingman


But he actually once hooked up with the fiance of another one of our friends before they started dating (but our friend was already crushing hard on her)

[Sunrising]

Let's have this right, we're talking females here ! Obviously I have female friends, but I can't say we've liked the same female at the same time. I might elevate a friendship under the right situation, your situation was right for you.

[HungTexan]

Yes. It’s kind of complicated when it happens. I had sex with a girl my friend was hot on, but he hadn’t had sex with her. I didn’t tell - but she did.

[Anonymous]

I had a male friend who had developed a friendship with an attractive girl who lived in the same apt bldg. He introduced me to her, and she started to develop a strong liking for me. After a month or two, she called me up to get together, just the two of us, and we quickly started a sexual relationship with each other. I can't thank that male friend enough for his introduction to her. (He never came close to a having sex with her anyway)

[JackBlackHeartAttack]

No, but I had a huge crush on this girl and highschool and I was hanging out with her and my friend tagged along. Well long story short she fell for him and it absolutely crushed my soul. I wouldn’t wish that feeling on my worst enemy.

[Agape93]

I'd see what they wanted to do but I'd likely do what you did if I'm preferred

[Nikki1989]

Nah, I try to avoid those situations.

[WhitneySnow]

No. I’ve always stayed clear of that situation.

[Anonymous]

My husband. My sister and some of my friends liked him too. I'm always surprised we ended up together because my sister could honestly be a model and is a barrister.

[exitseven]

Never, my social life was pretty weird and very compartmentalized. It was not something I looked for but it is how it turned out.

[Jennz6]

I didn’t date but I did get together with him and found out that someone else had a crush over him

[fish5505_87]

Yes, but I was unaware at the time the relations began. I did not learn until a month or so later that a guy I played a hockey with had a crush on the girl.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope there was always respect for who likes who in my circles, it's a bro code thing

[monkeynutts]

Yeah, me and my mate tag teamed one of his girlfriends. I also was shagging her regularly for a while.

[blackeagle007]

Happened once. It’s been a real headache. Two friends fighting over someone is unfortunate

[Professor-college]

I have never been involved in something like that but I must say it sounds very exciting

[DrPepper12]

Describes my entire HS dating arc

[Wise4myage]

No, but that’s gotta suck.

[Gymrat01]

An Acquaintance: I don't 💩 where I eat.

[MikeRJ]

I can't say that I have.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope never I wouldn't do that to my friends

[CubaPirate]

The short answer is yes

[CaitlinSims25]

Yep and I 💬 is was while I was at college.

[gangster123]

And does your guy friend still good with you?

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

I dont talk to either of them anymore, this was back in high school but we still remained friends after it happened

[KatieK92]

Nope never

[Anonymous]

Nope, I actually never had a date.

[Smf1989]

No I have not