I've noticed some people like to think that looks are everything when they really aren't. Like isn't it better to be valued for your personality rather than your looks?
Because attraction comes from the eye of the beholder , everyone has their own preferences of what they like and don’t like. Just because someone thinks someone is attractive, it doesn’t mean you will think the same thing as they do. People that think looks are the most important thing are sadly in for a rude awakening when they realize it takes more than looks to have a happy relationship with someone. Chemistry and connection is what matters most, if you want a long lasting relationship with someone. If you are only with that person because of their looks , that relationship will more than likely not last the long haul period. when the other person realizes you have nothing really in common with them , just sex , and they will more than likely leave you for someone else that they actually have chemistry and connection with. Me personally doesn’t care how beautiful a girl looks on the outside , because I care more about her personality and her heart and if she has good moral values , that’s a girl I would consider dating and getting into a relationship with , over some girl I wouldn’t mind having sex with but that’s all I would want from her , if her and I really have nothing in common together. I have met girls’ that aren’t considered drop dead gorgeous but her personality and the way she treated me , made her drop dead gorgeous to me. That’s all that matters
In my case, why would a handsome Brady want a fugly broad?
@beefcakebradybatson Simple answer to that is….. sex.
@orange_roach OK, but I'd still have to look at the ugly face after clubbing her.
@beefcakebradybatson Or you can just leave her alone and go for someone that’s attractive. Simple solution.
@beefcakebradybatson unfortunately I can’t just have sex with a girl just for the hell of it , I have to be attracted to her and have some sort of chemistry and connection with her for me to even consider having sex with her , otherwise my penis isn’t getting hard lol
@orange_roach D**N SKIPPY !!!
Why is it so hard for you to accept that the majority of humans value physical attraction? It's human nature. It doesn't mean we do not value other aspects, nor does it mean we're forcing you to date only physically attractive people. Everyone has their own preferences. If you don't mind dating/being with someone you find physically unattractive then by all means, go for it.
It doesn't matter how physically attractive someone is if they have a shitty personality. The majority of people take personality into account and it's usually considered to be the more important factor. The majority of people can agree that they'd rather take an average looking partner with a great personality to a model with a shitty one.
Throughout history, physical attraction has always been a large factor in how people mate.
Pretty privilege is a thing. Have you ever heard of the "halo effect" in psychology? Physically attractive people are perceived as more intelligent, competent, and sociable. They are treated as if they have a higher social status, they make social connections easier, they have more career opportunities, they're more often chosen as leaders, have more dating opportunities, generally have higher self esteem, and are perceived as healthier.
Why would you NOT want your kids to be attractive? That being said, if your kids are not attractive, it doesn't mean a parent will suddenly hate them. To be a parent (a good one anyways) is to love your kids unconditionally and help them get through life the best they can. However, it doesn't mean it's wrong to desire kids that are physically attractive. It's not "weird" as you claim it to be.
Get over it.
It's not valuing physical attraction it just being shallow. It's no wonder why the majority of the people on this site can't keep a partner or even find one.
And dude your a creep for thinking that shit about kids. Any healthy parent would not be thinking about physically attraction and their own kids together. Which also adds up because so many people here are pedos as well that I've noticed from years from being here but that question makes it clear as day. Like go outside and touch some grass. People in relationship and who have kids aren't caring this deeply about physical attraction
You're mentally ill
It's as if logic eludes you. I'm sure if you did an IQ test, you'd fall much lower than the average. Smooth brained woman.
@HawkPerception Out of curiosity, if kids don’t come out attractive, then what? Should they even bother continuing to live?
@orange_roach did you read what I said? Read the last paragraph again. I already answered your question...
@orange_roach to clarify, just because you're unattractive does not mean it's the end nor does it mean you won't find a great partner. I'm just saying that there's nothing wrong with parents desiring physically attractive kids and that there are many benefits in life to being physically attractive.
@HawkPerception What about the cons of being attractive?
@orange_roach like?
@HawkPerception They get harassed and stalked more.
@orange_roach Everyone has to be careful in life. The more attractive you are, the more attention you'll get, even if it's the wrong kind. Depending on what area of the world you live in, you'll have different levels of safety. I have to be careful everywhere I go, especially in poorer neighborhoods that have higher crime rates. The benefits of being attractive far outweigh the negatives.
And if you don't want that kind of attention, you can easily dress to prevent people from noticing you as much. You can dress in baggy clothing at gyms and when going for a solo walk. When going on a date you can dress in a summer dress to be classy and still look attractive. If you dress in yoga pants and a crop top which outline your figure, you're going to get more of the wrong kind of attention no matter where you go. The key is to practice safe habits no matter where you are and always be aware of your surroundings. It's not just a girl thing. Everyone has to do it.
@HawkPerception Absolutely!
I’ll admit I’m ugly as sin. When I was younger, guys would like me as a joke even though they found me ugly. Even to this day, they still do. I did have guys ask me out but I knew they didn’t find me attractive. They just wanted sex. I can wear men’s clothing and they still approach me. It’s why I don’t go out very much. Or, if I do, I limit my outings.
There is nothing wrong with being interesting with a great personality and being sexy with good looks. I think most people would like the entire package. It's human nature to be attracted to attractive people.
But if someone is ONLY good looking and dumb as a brick, well they aren't REALLY attractive, except on a physical level. If some one is interesting and not good-looking, that's also not an asset. And sexy. Well sexy can be overt, OR someone's sexiness can grow over time because the more you LIKE them the sexier they become. So there's that.
But, finding someone who hits all the hot spots FOR YOU, is fairly important. And those hot spots are different for everyone.
I've seen photos posted of people someone considers attractive who look bland to me. Everyone's tastes differ. Gotta find what turns you on and hope you get that package more or less intact in your SO.
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@HawkPerception heh heh heh... Youse flatters me!!! kiss kiss!!!
I'm not going to lie and say that I've always thought that "all that matters is what's inside of you". I'm guilty of just going for looks... And then I found out there was no chemistry. It was awkward. Yes he was attractive but I felt I was dating a dull little child. He was nice though, but nice is not going to be enough when you're going through your darkest moments. You need a connection, similar life outlooks, or if they're different, each of you needs to be gracious to each other to allow to for healthy criticism or make up for when the other can't go on. You're not gonna get that with just an attractive shell.
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I Think You're one hundred percent right
But that's just me Personality is one thing.
And if that's part of having a beautiful heart you're the kind person being happy
Give me a self when she sees somebody needs it that's. what I look at first. . Is the person on the inside? That's who I truly want to know... If I'd like that person from the inside then the outside is all just an extra bonus
It's a cocktail of things that make it work. I am of the opinion that shared values may be more critical even than personality. What are your attitudes toward real life events, how do you tend to deal with them? How do you behave toward others that are in your life only for a minute, a waiter, a nurse? I guess you could describe this as an aspect of personality, but either way these things are huge. Do you view your relationship as a partnership or is there one dominant? Looks have a role to play. That's unavoidable. But values are primary
I agree that looks are not everything... but c'mon now. Sex appeal has its place.
Anything that lasts beyond my busted nutt will require a bit more than just looks though.
When I see a beautiful woman, make a profile on a site like this, and uses it for nothing but thrist trapping compliments, it does make me shake my head. If she's as hot as her pics, then she should get enough of that kind of attention, but that's the only positive attention she knows... and that's sort of sad. She should work on more than what she already has.
I think looks are more of a lure, it's why normally average and up have better experience with dating, I'm sure everyone can agree that for the most part sexual intercourse is an important part in a romantic relationship and being emotionally attached to someone will make them sexually attractive even if that wasn't the case at first but most people go for someone that's already sexually attractive to them, I would imagine that's just subconscious and it subconsciously marks sexual attraction off their check box on what to look for in a person, I hope that makes sense
Oh i have always been way more into people's personality rather than their looks alone. I might see someone who is physically attractive but that does nothing for me by itself.
Most of the time, I start to find someone super attractive and sexy after getting to know them.
It requires little social interaction. This is not complementary for either side but we all are guilty. Social interaction requires an investment, a risk, playing emotional high card. Much easier to remain superficial so you don't get hurt? Myself, go ahead mate, nothing gambled, nothing gained.
I guess people value looks because that's the first thing you see when you meet someone. But when you pick looks over personality it leads to terrible relationships. However, there could be a situation where you vibe with someone but just aren't attracted to them and you can't force it.
Boring answer but it's more about finding a balance.
Either they're young either they do not wish to have a serious relationship ad only want fun and if they only want temporary fun then they don't need their partner to have a good personality only looking good majority of men only want to have fun and don't wish to settle down before their 40s so
You're talking about men though. What about women?
@KostasKouvalis They don't care about looks only charms and personality, they're much more tolerant about looks than men except when they're only interested in sex then they only care about looks fall in love with the dude and get their heart broken and keep coming back to the dude crying saying it's the man of their life, continue getting cheated on and cry more.
The charms and personality thing is kind of true, though I think some also care about money.
You seem to care about looks though
Really? Because to me it seems like the opposite. It's men who care less about looks. Or even if they care, a lot of times they'll settle for whatever they can get.
Hmmmmmm
@KostasKouvalis In France nearly none the one that care about money leave to live in Dubai they don't stay in France as we're poor, our wage is shitty and generally if you want someone rich in France you need to be in St Tropez anywhere else and you'll only find people living on minimum wage, it's not the USA here nobody have a good pay wage.
Also we don't need a lot go money to live well, we don't live badly with the minimum wage many people also live on RSA which is about 600 euros with free house and free food. Those who care about having luxury bag though just date drugs dealer as they're the only one with money but it's generally women who grew up poor having to put water into their cheap orange juice to share with their sibling and who grew up in shitty aappartment in Banlieue.
France is truly not the country a gold digger will live in as our wage is just the lowest of all.
I do I mean I look good and I have no wrinkles and then everyday I see guys that are 22 who have wrinkles around the eyes and mouth when they smile and start to become bald its crazy.
Well they settle for what they can get but don't love the woman and once they can get better or cheat on her they will.
Young women under 25 care about looks over 25 they don't really care, I would say the only real criteria they have in France in general is being tall but average height in France is around 178 cm for men so the average is tall enough to be enough so it's not so much of a criteria.
I would say men are more realistic in what they can get and what they can't get women like to be in their head dreaming and even twisting the red flag into green flag to stay in their illusion.
Yeah, I figured you were talking about France
I know XD
Well I mean, just to survive, sure
Well there are places with lower wages, but I get your point.
Oh 22, yeah! That's not normal😂
You're over 25 ^^
Yeah.
Maybe generally speaking, yes. But I've seen persistence pay off.
Oh, I get what you're saying. That's actually kind of true.
Did you ever read my love note or the last PMs I sent you?
Love the quote :) Being "interesting" is key!
I'm physically attracted to a wide range of "looks" but that's an attribute far down the list for me when it comes to a relationship. Gotta be mentally attracted. A good personality has to be there - fun, smart, kind, active, conversational, non-judgmental, etc - plus being sexually compatible is important too :)
Because some people are very superficial and their self image is more important that anything else in their life. Heaven forbid they be seen with anything less then a beautiful woman. It doesn't matter how interesting, cultured, or how good a person is but how they're appearance is seen by others in public and private gatherings. I'm sure you know people like this.
I'm a man speaking... The female body turns me on sexually. That is why looks are important to me. But that in of it's self is not enough because a friendship and love is built on the personalities of the two people. When you get old and lose your looks, personality should remain to hold things together. Cause as you age you should be losing some of your sexual desire too.
Looks change and fade as time goes on, gotta have a deeper connection than looks for it to last
Because after 10 years and you know everything there is to know about your partner they become boring.. so the only thing that keeps the show running is the want to still fuck them because you are attracted lol. Now if they are ugly and boring well then there isn't much to hold on to lol.
Nah I knew my ex inside and out after 10 years and he became boring and he thought the same of me.. the beginning is where things are new, fun, and exciting.. if you are aren't attracted you just lose interest in wanting to be with them. We were so bored of each other we would joke about killing each other and burying each other in the back yard lol.
We changed but not such big changes that it matters we are still the same people.. you can't stay with someone you are physically not attracted to.. it just won't happen at least I can't lol. Love is what bonds you to someone for the long term but you need to like their looks and personality to want to keep trying for them or what is the point.
Looks are the easiest thing to assess. You can do it from across a room. Personality assessment takes getting to know someone and an investment of time and effort to understand their values.
Ergo, looks are the first thing people use to discriminate. The risk is that the super hot woman you just scoped out could be brainless or a total scam artist.
No you don't. You delude yourself into thinking you can read someone in a moment in time in one circumstance in certain interactions with a limited number of people.
So I guess you're creeping on them from across the room.
You wouldn't even know they were noticing you.
And by the way, what do you do when you're having a drink in a bar. Sit there with your eyes closed the entire time so no one will think you're a creep? Yeah, they definitely won't think you're creepy.
You seem to have a LOT of hangups about men. Men you haven't even met. Mutilating yourself to repulse men. Calling any guy who notices you a creep. Sound pretty normal when you put it all together, doesn't it?
At least you realize it's weird. The guys aren't the creepy ones.
You are awesome. But you gotta admit, looks is how you get in the door
Personality is great, and it's definitely an important quality to look for.. But, most of us also want to like to look at who we are with.. Especially if we are gonna commit to them.. I work pretty hard on my physical appearance, mainly because I want to get the best looking woman I can.. Or at least half way there..
It's not about staring at them like an accessory, but fueling those sexual and romantic feelings.. If you just like they're personality, but not how they look at leasts omewhat, it probably won't last.. Especially for men who are very visually stimulated.. I want to love a woman for her personality, but I also want to slap her on the butt, and smile when I look at her..
You're like most women where you'll become more attracted to somebody based on their personality.. And yes visual is deeper.. A man can wanna devote his whole life to a woman based off the fact that he think she's beautiful and pleasant to be around.. Not usually true for women.. Women find men handsome all the time, but it hardly compels them to do much.. Personality comes later on, but especially as a man, you have to want a reason to find out about their personality.. Meaning you have to like how they look.. I'm sure your husband liked how you looked and vice versa..
Damn, that's a crazy statement coming from your husband.. LOL.. "Oh, baby I kinda thought you were ugly, but now you're gettin kinda fine, that really threw me off".. 😂😂..
Hey whatever works for y'all.. I'm sure you both found each other physically attractive, otherwise that's what friends are for.. When you like somebody's personality, but are not attracted to them.. I'm guessing you guys started off as friends and just got with each other over time..
Okay so either you both dated out of convenience, or you liked something about each other that turned you both on enough to start dating and then get married outside of looks..
Because they lost their awareness. They dont want to discover hıman soul, understand the feelings. They just live like animals. Only appreance can affect their mind. They lost their depth.
I think there is a difference between personality and character. I may really enjoy someone’s personality, but that dims if they are shown to have a poor character.
I have not clue why some people value looks so much when both are equally important. Physical beauty is what gets us attracted, and mental beauty aka personality is what not only keeps us attracted, but makes us attracted more then if it was just physical beauty. To quote Married with children theme, "You can't have one without the other".
Some? The numbers are astronomically high which is why women get plastic surgeries and improve makeup skills. They deserve to be tricked.
@Apple1996 guys get turned on by our beauty not by our personality.
on street no one knows others personality
But we do get turned on my personality. Physical beauty gets us attracted, and mental beauty (personality) not only keeps us attracted, but enhances her beauty.
Your half right, but looks play a factor to women. Why did that movie “magic mike” do so well with the female audience? Women go Gaga over male eye candy
@blackeagle007 that's a bit different than wanting a serious relationship. Most guys aren't wanting pornstars for girlfriends but they're still watching them
And women are still seeing magic mike. What’s the difference?
@blackeagle007 those women aren't wanting a relationship with magic Mike
Guys don’t want a relationship with gorgeous women. We aren’t as visual
looks to me are only important in the absolute beginning when you have nothing else to go on for attraction, but personality is what will be vital for most people to want to stick around. i always like to say looks draw a person in, personality is what makes them stay.
yeah it usually doesn't work like that in the very very beginning for me and also in settings where you don't or can't get to know each other first.
Now in settings where i do get to know them more yeah i can get attracted that way.
so it depends for me.
well i can meet you there with if an attractive looking person has a terrible personality it can somhow make how they look way less attractive to me. so there's that.
Hot is a matter of opinion... what one person finds hot visually another might not... same goes with personality
they are superficial, and all they want is someone that looks good.
I have figured out over the years that I really need to like the person I am with.
Personality, character, hobbies, interests, creativity, and self expression mean so much more than looks alone.
Looks are over rated and have only superficial value (surprise surprise). I've always found the character and personality to be the preferred source for seeking romance.
Because they are superficial and their ego is big while their penis is small….
Appearance actually changes brain chemistry temporarily in some observers.
I agree personality is really important, and intelligence is sexy. However, there needs to be a physical attraction as well.
Really as far as most men are considered a woman just doesn't have to be a boner killer as far as looks go.
However American women are increasingly not taking care of themselves. What would have been average in the 70:s is now pretty as the average has fallen so much.
Not settling for someone who doesn't care about their health and looks even a little isn't being looks focused.
Fat positive women lying to each other about their looks doesn't actually change their looks.
@Apple1996
Yeah well this is obviously more a case of culture. Its not like the DNA of Americans living in the US during the 50:s differed that much from today.
Trump is trying to make it, white only
You have the right of it. And yet, I still struggle being drawn in by great beauty.
Ultimately, I think the answer is that we were made for both
I dunno how you look in recent days
But still I love you because of your personality.
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Be a mother of my kids & owner of my properties & money. 🥰
Aw wifey I want to gift you something... You like jewellery?
Wifey necklace? 🥰
Because for most men, looks are the most important thing. But for women, they tend to be more attracted to a man based on his confidence, his personality, his sense of humour, how he makes the woman feel. Men and women are different when it comes to attraction.
That's your choice. You can't change the way men and women are hard wired
But men are hard wired to see attractiveness as the most important thing.
Ok I think we're done here because clearly you're a ignorant moron, or a troll.
I mean, personality matters just as much as looks for me, but I wouldn’t want my kids to be ugly or be with someone I’m not sexually attracted to.
She doesn't want her kids to struggle in life because theyre unattractive
bullying, poverty, lack of love from others, loneliness to name a few
Your opportunities in life are less than attractive this is common knowledge, everyone treats you better if your appealing to the senses
lol no fr though I’ve seen people get with ugly partners and their kids end up looking like the ugly parent. You wouldn’t be mad if your sons got together with someone that looks like ash trevino? My answer to the question was of course looks matter, but they’re just as important as personality.
yes if you're hot its hard to find the needle in the haystack if you're ugly you have few and far between
most guys want a pretty girl to marry with a attitude and personality you can live with, hot girls are great for sex but theyre such headaches
You’re wild lmao she definitely is, we’ll agree to disagree
You want your kids to be with someone you have attraction towards? 🤨
True, personality is so important, but how much better it would be if an awesome personality is also physically attractive?
These kind of question seem to suggest that hot or attractive girls have awful personalities. While that might be true sometimes, there are plenty of ordinary or even unattractive women who also have in addition an awful personality.
people should to accept that both are important.
@ngs54 Ever thought it's only superficial people who believe that.
Because you are thinking dishonestly...
You wouldn't date an ugly guy with a good personality, would you? I doubt it... Nobody would believe you either...
The guy needs to be good looking at least too...
The bar is just a lot higher on women because most women have shit personalities to the point where all they can offer is their bodies...
Meeks could wake up with the personality of spongebob square pants & still be famous because he's attractive
I was told we all have been to school, so we're all educated, and have a personality. So if a person is more attractive, is it not perceivable they will be desired more?
This is cap, I bet your boyfriend is hot and has a huge cock
Because there needs to be attraction to have romance and passion.
If you are not attracted to someone then their good personality makes them your friend.
I went to school with 2 brothers. They were the best looking guys in the school but women hated them as they were idiots. Women were ashamed of themselves for fancying them. This is a true story.
Because we live in a society that favors appearance over everything else. Looks fade but personality & values remains. I wouldn’t be with my boyfriend if I only valued appearance.
"I've noticed some people like to think that looks are everything when they really aren't."
Is that so? Who says? You? So you're the one who determines what's most important to everyone else?
Well you stated as if it's a fact. It may be true for you but that doesn't mean it's true for everyone. Obviously there are people who think looks one of the most important things.
No the wording you used in the question has the same problem. You state as if it's a fact.
If you are looking for an opinion you would ask the question like this:
Which is more important to you personality or looks?
Instead you stated that looks are more important in your question.
And you repeated that same thing in the post. So you wrote it as if you were stating a fact that everyone has to agree with when in fact it is only your opinion.
I don't only value looks but that a part of it because I have to at least be attracted to her. But I look for a great personality intelligence loyalty and a great sense humor
Being attractive physically gets your foot in the door, having good personality keeps people around.
You need both, if your intention is a relationship.
Looks is what people see first, once they approach the other person or that person talks it's not about looks anymore nut about what's more valuable... Personality, Manners, and attitude.
they all want their cocks sucked
it all depends how hard they get for us
better us than anything
Can't see the personality I mean it takes a while to get to know someone's personality but it takes 2 seconds to see if someone's good looking or not
Exactly, I've dated two women who were leagues above me even back then at my best
It worked because I was interested in them as people so they made their moves on me because I wouldn't have done it because I didn't see them that way
People who value looks over character or personality are in it for themselves.
Tell that to someone who's ugly, but has a great personality. I think many would have a different perspective.
Looks are more important than personality in many ways. I will give you one, in that no man wants to be caught dead in public with an ugly looking woman.
The majority of men do care about looks, considering looks are the first point of attraction in any relationship.
Because it’s the initial attraction that gets them noticed, once you’ve with them and get to know their personality that’s what keeps them and then the looks don’t matter as much anymore
Looks are only good for attracting.. This goes for men and women both.. You gotta have more than looks to keep someone..
it is a balance I think. What you lack in looks you can make up for being interesting.
Like it or not. Your appearance is an indicator of your personality.
How we present ourselves is an inside look to what we value.
I would disagree. A woman wearing a midi floral dress is 100× more likely to identify as Trad over a woman with a septim piercing.
Can be many things. Could be an insight to a true free thinker. People make intuitive judgements of each other all the time.
Personality over anything don't get me wrong i want me a cute looking gym woman, but if that personality a no no then it's a no go 🤷🏽♂️
Because personality is hard to quantify, but we all know a pretty face when we see them.
Its first impressions, youn woint want to get to know someone that is ugly.
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