Men who take advantage of women?

[Anonymous]

Yet the men who keep approaching me are never together when they do approach me? They have commitment issues , fears , or past baggage.. the same guys get online complaining about women yet don't appreciate the women when they have access to them - they expect these same women to treat them nice when they DON'T value them in the first place. I see any red flags I'm gone for good - the likelihood of a second chance will never happen...

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Why are men never together when approaching women?

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I've lost interest in a guy when I see red flags...

[Shiprex]

Why aren't men together when approaching women? Because women are not worth the effort when they are this disjointed.

If a single thing (red flag without context could be he eats using his fork in the right hand not left so be specific) gets you triggered from potential relationships then perhaps you're not mature enough to have a relationship OR need to work on yourself like men are being told to do while women are encouraged to "not settle", "be who YOU want to be", "are perfect just the way they are" etc. ALL. THE: TIME

[Asker]

I wish you American men the best because y'all need it especially if y'all are in women's faces. Honestly stay away from women of today - most of you are disappointments and red flags 🚩🚩

[Asker]

I'm not giving up my single life and freedom for you men never again

[Asker]

Yet you men keep approaching women that you don't like nor want as you say. Red flags are issues that I'm not going to deal with why are you deflecting and using the fork situation as an example? Those are not red flags.. I'm sorry , but you American men are ruined

[Shiprex]

I'm not American. But nice try and perhaps the problem is YOU if they aren't performing for you.

[Shiprex]

Will men notice or care? You're doing it for your own losses. Humans are a social species and thrive more with community and taking yourself out of that or taking yourself too seriously is self inflicted harm.

[Shiprex]

I used the "fork thing" as an example of something lame that women claim is a red flag. You've said nothing about what a red flag is. Is height, income, size, fitness, ambition, education, aspiration, etc. RED flag matters or is that just a preference that's been drummed into women who want a male companion, servant, girlfriend, lover, chef, manager, therapist, domestic help?
whether preference is a red flag

[Asker]

I wish you men the best the issue is global

[Asker]

So why are men in my face? Red flags 🚩 things not tolerable for relationships cheating, manipulation, lies, etc

[Asker]

I know men don't care this is why are opting out

[Asker]

Women *

[Asker]

There's no evolvement going on

[Asker]

I don't want anything from men - I can't get human decency

[Shiprex]

No it's not. It's very American and barely noticed in Europe where women aren't so up tight and sad they aren't being glorified as they have been brought up to believe they deserve.
WHAT is the red flags you're talking about? Men TALKING to you? Asking you out? Wanting to get to know you?
I don't know because you're giving nothing to work with.

[Asker]

American men are red 💊 and full of MISGONY and sexism

[Asker]

It's terrible here

[Asker]

I've been single 17 years dating is trash 🗑️

[Asker]

I don't go out on dates with men nothing

[Shiprex]

Manipulation is something women are experts at, "can you get me %%%?", "I need ###" and when men see this they walk because they aren't being respected,
Cheating is something no one should be doing and that women are now more and more promiscuous (because they can be and choose to be) they aren't the thing men will want to glorify and commit to.

[Asker]

What women are promiscuous? I've been celibate 17 years... not every woman is sleeping around I'm asexual

[Asker]

That's great when men pass me up it's a good thing I don't want anything to do with the dating market anymore

[Asker]

I'm fine single and focusing on my career

[Shiprex]

That's unfortunate that you're having no success with men but it's because the dating scam is not about meeting someone right. It's wholly about hooking up and that's why men will do it.
17 years is pretty long and I sympathise if you've been seeking someone. Broaden your horizons. America is a pretty religiously puritanical or outrageously hedonistic place depending on where you are.
Europe or NZ/Australia are more mellow and chilled about things so maybe get off to visit and change the scenery for yourself

[Asker]

I'll consider other countries here soon.. America is too patriarchal and religious

[Asker]

Yeah I'm just celibate and single

[Shiprex]

You don't sound asexual, you sound pissed that there aren't men you desire around you. THAT says you're not being honest with yourself. If you want to find a PERSON to be with and around you have to let them in to your circle of interest. Get to know them, don't be harsh about them be compassionate. This is something the hardness of US rat race for all has done to women, turned them into hard unfeminine women. That is not attractive to men
There are a lot of women in western cultures who see their "emancipation" (I say servitude to the ruling classes and capitalist ideologues) into the workforce see this power trip as a means to go out an screw anyone they like and when the players are out they get used and discarded which creates negative self images for a lot of women and that puts them off men so they get all toxic and misandrist about men

[Asker]

I'm asexual and don't care about sex

[Asker]

I'm irritated with how many in America are

[Asker]

I don't hate men I wish they would evolve and treat women better

[Shiprex]

I think you're kidding yourself. I sense you're passionate about the POTENTIAL for a romance and would thrive immensely IF one arrived but are afraid if it isn't PERFECT then it's not worth even trying.
YOU are cowardly about taking a chance here, in my opinion.

[Asker]

American men have turned me off to them

[Asker]

I'm well content single and in my home - I have friends and travel asexual is a low sex drive

[Asker]

Can I get the bare minimum from men of today I can't...

[Shiprex]

Go to somewhere else and meet other men from different places who have different life experiences and MAYBE you'll have your eyes opened (your heart too if you win)

[Asker]

For sex I take care of myself and when I want companionship I go out with my gfs

[Asker]

I'll consider other men overseas later after I move again

[Shiprex]

Good for you. I am pretty sure you'd prefer an actual person there to experience the pleasure you give yourself and that it's likely something you'd pine for else you wouldn't be here complaining about men not matching up to whatever you use.

It's perhaps one of the follies of artificial stimulation (men use porn women vibrators that are wholly unnaturally powerful at stimulation and provide a cheat for women to get their erotic kicks without the emotional element and make them spoiled for arousal and gratification).

Are you planning to move? good luck when you do.
LOL SNAP I'm departing Scandinavia for the Iberian peninsula in August. New start, new climate and culture. Better job being the reason

[Asker]

Same networking opportunities as I'm self employed...

[Shiprex]

Ahha,
Get on the plane lass, you won't regret it.

[Asker]

I can't sleep around and wouldn't sleep with someone who is hypersexual

[Shiprex]

I don't blame you. It would be wise to be at least curious though so you show an interest otherwise people will think you don't care.
You sound sensitive and loyal and that's something that is valued.

[Asker]

I'm glad you see it 😊

[Shiprex]

It's not that hard because you can communicate things well and I'm ancient and wise ,)

[Shiprex]

I am also up really late so hitting the sack now
Good night and buy that plane ticket.
One thing I heard about my new destination is that it's a Mecca for digital nomad who run online businesses which is nothing to do with me but something to do with there. So even at my life stage, new horizons spring up without too much difficulty.
Carpe Diem

[Shiprex]

Thanks for the MHO!
Nice chat

[natured]

I honestly am a little tired of generalizations when it comes to these topics, yes there are Men that carry TONS of red flags, but there are also amazing Men that deserve an actual crown for the kings they are.
Let's not dramatize these situations because it's normal; we only have to be able to communicate better, see better, and stop painting those red flags GREEN...
Other than that, if you are at peace with yourself, you will attract a Man with the same values because trust me, Men who protect their peace don't want chaotic WOmen in their lives and vice versa. The only key is to be amazing to yourself and love yourself first before you decide to share that love with someone else.

[Asker]

These amazing men are far and few in between trust me I've been single 15 years and have yet to meet a man whose together who has approached me.. either they're coming with red flags or something... I don't have time for it anymore... I find I'm content single nowadays than to settle for some man who hasn't worked on himself

[Asker]

I wish American men the best , but most are doing the bare minimum- MISGONY, SEXISM or coming with baggage from past relationships etc.. red flags 🚩

[natured]

Looks like you are looking at the wrong places with a wrong mindset, I'm eastern European and my man is American and honestly he's the best I've ever had and he deserves a crown.
So I would not really make this about a "COUNTRY" but make it about yourself first and the people you're surrounded with.
15 years single? There must be a valid reason behind it unless you LOVED being on your own I don't see any other explanation unless you're in need of help as in Therapy

[Asker]

I'm not looking for men at all and have been single by choice since 2014.. I will tell you I gave up on American men especially after the 2024 elections even beyond that most American men hate American women and are full of misogyny, sexism, and right wingers.. I don't date right wing men. I will most likely stick to foreign men who aren't consumed by red pill rhetoric

[Asker]

You're not from the USA , but you're telling me about American men whom I don't want - yes they should date you foreign women.. American men aren't right here most of them

[natured]

I don't know where you live ma'am, but my American King is one of the finest, he treats me with respect, lifts me up, loves me and adores my family as well... he's nothing but a BIG BAG OF GREEN FLAGS. It has nothing to do with me being a foreigner... My character is very nurturing and he loves it, and we get along...
I guess it's just a character thing. Love doesn't know any race religion and political directions. I understand how frustrated you must be with the elections , trust me, he is also very frustrated we're planing to move to the US after some years and it does scare me a little... BUT, keep your mind positive and don't even bother your head with these things... love yourself protect your peace.

[Asker]

Good for you and your American king I hear a lot of these American men are getting their passports maybe a good and only option as American women are opting out from even dealing with them. A recent article just came out here where American women are opting out of marriage with them.. I am no longer interested in marriage with men of today less more marriage. Most of them are immature, man children, broke, and full of issues. I've been single for 16 years, own a home , and I'm a business owner.. my journey is over with these men ( Been there , done that) I wish them the best

[Asker]

Good luck to American men ! I'm not missing anything not dating out here! Finding men on my level is becoming a challenge as most of the men here are broke and the women out earn them education and financial wise.

[Asker]

I am no longer interested in dating or marriage with men of today especially in America

[Nikki1989]

As anyone can see from what the clueless insecure anons post on here, some men are total dead ends. They try their hardest to prove otherwise but end up only making themselves look even more unfamiliar with any sense of reality.

[Asker]

Yep they're lost af and the more they speak the more aggravated I get. I'm so glad I gave up on them a decade ago - I went to bed and got up in peace.. I knew this wouldn't age well

[ohsheeT]

Well you can't look at it as a negative.

Because it not it is 100 % positive. Thing
Because some men don't know it but it's a man's way of saying you really don't want me because of this ________ ?

The men who take advantage know they don't have it together and they lie or Manipulate.. the situation

No matter if it's man or woman everyone has flaws
Some are deeper than others

[Asker]

I know I'm so tired of these men... right now I'm just cautious who I deal with and that's nobody these days... people's intentions aren't pure enough for me

[Asker]

I find I'm better off single and would appreciate it if these men approach me have you together because any red flag 🚩 I'm gone

[Asker]

I am open to meeting men overseas now

[Anonymous]

Oh, so we're playing this game. What about the women who take advantage of men? They get online complaining about how men don't approach them. Then later on is the post they revise it with "the guys they want to approach them"😆 These women expect guys online to help them. Yet these are the same men these women would not cross the street to spit on. Yet she expects these guys to feel sorry for her.😆 These women do not respect these men, nor treat them nice.

[Asker]

I don't want men approaching me romantically - I don't need mens money

[Asker]

I'm very content single as I have been a decade now !

[Asker]

Men aren't together approaching women - thought men were providers!

[Opinion Owner]

OK, and? I don't want women flirting with me for thier own ego's sake. I don't need anything from them period.

[Asker]

Ok 👌🏾 no loss here ! Enjoy 😊

[Asker]

WTF is happening with men of today !

[Opinion Owner]

The same thing that is happening with women. You get what you give. You don't want to give then you don't. You think equality means you can dictate how things are going to be now? Think again!👍

[Asker]

I don't give men anything nor expect anything- men aren't in my life at all unless we're conducting business

[Opinion Owner]

As long as you keep thinking you're life is a movie, you're the main character, and every guy that comes into it are role players. Then you're probably going to keep having problems.

[Asker]

Or I'm paying for a service.. romantic wise I expect 0

[Asker]

I don't play games with men - men never get far

[Opinion Owner]

Good keep it that way. Everyone m's happy.👍

[Opinion Owner]

Nor do I. But that doesn't stop women from playing games, now does it.

[Asker]

I'm not out here and can't speak for women who are on the board game it's not me

[Opinion Owner]

Well why would you think all men have to answer for every man you've encountered. We're not responsible for thier actions either.

[Asker]

For sex I take care of me

[Asker]

I don't meet these men... nor look for them.. I wish the majority would go away

[Asker]

Stop approaching women when you are not ready

[Opinion Owner]

I don't approach women period.

[Asker]

I don't approach men I'm content single

[Asker]

I love my peace and freedom

[Asker]

I lay in my bed in peace 🕊️

[Opinion Owner]

Cool, everyone's happy then.👍

[fish5505_87]

Not sure I understand the question.

[Asker]

You're probably this guy

[fish5505_87]

I asked a question to try and better understand your problem? You seem a bit defensive, maybe this comes through when you meet people. That said, it's obvious anything I say is moot. I wish you well and sincerely hope things get better!

[Asker]

Things are better when I don't have these types of guys approaching on some prefatory stuff.. I'm in isolation now to preserve my energy

[fish5505_87]

That doesn't sound healthy! Please go out and get some stress relief, Gym, bike ride, walk, run! Good Luck!

[Asker]

I'm not stressed I'm tired of you men honestly - I wish the majority would stay away from women.. I deal with enough stress in my practice and home life

[fish5505_87]

Well, you have nothing to worry about from me, I will steer the circumference of the earth around you. I wish you well in your journey. Live your best life!