Did I mess up, or is it a lost cause?

Question

I met this guy through Discord intending to make friends, but he took it to another level (which I don't necessarily mind). I never dated before, but it genuinely felt like those initial dating stages, not a friendship one at all. I think I might've misplayed the "cat and mouse" sequence. Straight up, he laid out his sexual preferences and desires and asked what were mine during our first convo; definitely not what friends would do, I'm sure haha.

So, I followed along, then he wanted to call me "Mommy". He wanted me to call him "Princess" or something. The whole thing was very strange, because I never called anyone names or even flirted. The convo then later devolved to sexting roleplay, where our texts are written like a smut novel (no pictures or videos were sent). At this point, I was beyond flustered, never sexted in my life. Since he was doing all this, I thought he was genuinely interested in dating me.

So on the second day of our convo, I asked if he would be my boyfriend. He was surprised, and he said it was too soon and we should take it slow? Very confusing. So, what are we then? After that, he stopped flirting as much, and we never sexted again. We still talk every day, but it's very tame. I can't help but feel like he's just taken me seriously as a potential partner, but the other side of my mind thinks he's moved on.

Did I come off as too easy? Did I mess up the initial dating step? How is it supposed to be done?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Don't look at it in a negative way. What you did was a good thing really. Because you put him in a spot . The same spot he was going to take you but then drop you..

So I think it was a good move. No was not a lost cause. If you have not dated. And I'm sure you have had many thoughts about dating and even fantasy about it...

I love to role play and I would make you feel thing you can. You can't. or you want to imagine. And at the same times your going to feel my every word as if that moment is happening for real as you read it

I would take you to every level you have ever want to experience. And beyond.. it's just like real life when you want to take your partner to places they have never been and become one with them.

So if you have never dated before role playing is a good thing because you get to act out Different scenarios. That will Prepare you or is it learning moment. Without going through it Those real moments in time On a date or in a relationship.

But I think by doing what you did might have really saved you from heart ache down the road I think I really hit the brakes on the princess thing. But each to there own.

And if you every get bored and want to role play hit me up

Zack-Bann · Accepted Answer

It’s discord. The odds of him NOT being a weirdo were slim to begin with

Take my advice: stop looking for friends online like this
Go out. Get yourself enrolled in some kind of activity and socialize with people there

And it’s not “dating” if you never went on a date
He wants to call you mommy and be called princess that’s fetishized role play that takes a lot of trauma to come up with

If you’ve never dated before this is a little too much too soon for you

Maybe try dating someone regular first before dating the discord mod with mommy issues