How many dates before you become intimate with the person?

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Just curious.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I don't really date like most people do...

and it can be months even before I get into a relationship...

more than going out, I do hang out with girls... either one-on-one or in a group, but these are very VERY "efficient" hours, lol

for example... hanging out at a party we both went to, could very well be six or eight hours of "chit chat" that do go extremely well, and we end up knowing a lot from one another, and we end up into each other big time so, by the moment the being more than friends... thing happens, a relationship and intimacy is already a given, pretty much a deal, lol

but to give you an answer... it's been as soon as just one month, or as much as four months

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I haven't been on a date for awhile. But I think I'm just about ready to start again. But when I dated most of the time we new each other a little bit before hand.

I will wait until she's ready. But it seems like the moment you start getting romantic it seems to just get so intensely hot. And it just happens

Then it's like. um I'm sorry I don't usually do that this soon.

And then I would say you can be sorry all you want. Because I'm not.. and then something like that you for taking my virginity lol.

So to answer. I think when both are ready to

emmie12 · Accepted Answer

for me personally anything more than kissing another person before marrige is not a good idea. the first reason is because if you have sex and the girl gets pregnant it can lead to the man feeling obligated to get married and cause marital problems long term. option 2 is the man can be a total jerk and just leave the girl with a new child that she has to raise herself and cause the child problems in the long run. and finnally sex is meant to be something special if you have sex with every person you date you likely won't find it as special when you do it with your life partner that and it can also lead to one of the scenarios above causing you problems when you get married to someone else.

KittygosMeoWW · Accepted Answer

I don't know it’s more of when I feel comfortable around the person

Finchie40 · Answer

Depends on the chemistry and connection and attraction we have for each other , sometimes the same night or the 2nd or 3rd night , There is no time limit when you have an amazing connection with someone

DishLady · Answer

Depends on the chemistry -- and with some guys it just won't happen bc lack of chemistry or perhaps excessive awkwardness on one or both sides.

AviatorTom · Answer

It depends. Of the women I've dated, some have had sex on the first date, second date, third date or never.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

for me it's a process... I wouldn't date a total stranger... so there must be time when we get to know each other... for me there is no sex without trust and emotions involved so... it takes time :D

it's also a great way to filter out all impatient and focused only on sex guys :D

Orion84 · Answer

I don't feel like there's any specific number of dates. It's not like date #3 unlocks the "swap fluids" achievement, or anything.

It's just whenever both people feel ready and comfortable, how compatible they are, and if they want to take that step together.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

There was an occasion when the physical attraction was so intense that we didn't go out on that first date anymore and just get screwed each other's brain out.

Sometimes, I'd hold out much longer than I should have because of "values".

Stevepro68 · Answer

After many years and wisdom. I realize it's not up to me. I have never ever had a first time with a girl and Not seen matching bra and panties. Which tells me they knew they were getting naked that night. Because once your together the matchedbsets are only around for going out events. So after much soul searching I realized it's not up to me.

Zack-Bann · Answer

It depends are we talking Barhi dates? Mazafati dates? Dayri dates?

Just kidding

Honestly if the chemistry is there and we confirm that neither of us is carrying diseases I would say right away
It makes absolutely no difference if you get close to someone on date 1 2 or 3 these are arbitrary social guidelines
I prefer to let the feelings guide my decision in the moment

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Well … sometimes the first time we meet which is by chance so it isn’t even a first date. I don’t online date so I never have to deal with the texting, phone calls, and can I see pictures of you bullshit. It is one of the perks of living in a small town that happens to attract a lot of tourist. Also a fresh batch to sift through…

Cormac995 · Answer

if the answer is less than a month it makes me concerned. Sex without love is wrong and it's pretty rare love forms even that fast.

Bricealan · Answer

@simslover92 Have had sex on a first date several times.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

I've never had a rule for when to be intimate. Doesn't make sense to have one. It's when we're bith comfortable, or want to do it with each other.

Jerre · Answer

I am usually intimate on the first date. We have previously sexted and I know she wants to fuck.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Depends. Usually kissing in a month or so, sex maybe 2 months. Although there were times where there was kissing and sex after 3-4 dates.

milknhoneyy · Answer

Sometimes, first date. Other times I have waited longer. Ultimately, I end up liking the people in the latter scenarios more.

MemeSupreme · Answer

minor stuff like kissing just depends on the chemistry but probably around the 3rd date but anything like sex will take a while

frenchgirl123 · Answer

It for sure depends on the chemistry but I think you can tell if you fancy sleeping with them after the first date.

WhitneySnow · Answer

At least a month but other than that it basically depends on the chemistry

lilBigPotato · Answer

Entirely depends on the vibes and feelings. Can be on the first, can be after a few... But not longer than a month

BadApple69 · Answer

Only ones I had sex and under the third date. I don’t rush it. I don’t like to rush it.

Sono83 · Answer

Intimate means "close to>" So, in the context of emotional intimacy, it could be within the first few dates. If you mean sex (which I assume you do) it would be after many, many dates.

Nikki1989 · Answer

When it feels right. It could be within the first hour.  It happens.

Anonymous · Answer

With my current boyfriend we were in bed on our first date. But we'd been out in group settings several times before that.  I have slept with past partners on the first date as well.

RavVid · Answer

As soon as possible. Marriage is not viable any more. So I am not dating for that.

slatyb · Answer

Mostly after three dates women wanted to be intimate with me.

exitseven · Answer

it really depends. Maybe a month? Its a big deal to me.

Date_a_Snob · Answer

Depends With now husband we had sex on our first unofficial date

elizamichale1 · Answer

First date... how else would u know if u need a 2nd date

DrPepper12 · Answer

Do it if it feels right. Life is too damn short!

Anonymous · Answer

I was looking that up and most sites agree on the third date or later.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

It depends on you and him how comfortable you are with him the chemistry you to have and what you and him want. Don't put a time limit on it just go with the flow when the time is right you'll know it

Anonymous · Answer

However many it takes to build a bond of trust.

Cristi019 · Answer

I'll tell you when I'll have one. IF I'll ever have one...

Babygirl_S · Answer

I would take at least one month before my first time. Anything sooner can be a shock

Wiredone · Answer

For me not before 3 months of regular dating

BCRanger10 · Answer

Just one. The wedding date 🙌

Eempriyanka · Answer

If I like the guy, then first date may itself be intimate

Anonymous · Answer

It depends but, so far, I've already done it on the first date.

fuddly · Answer

Depends on age  At my age I'd say second or third

FenixG45 · Answer

Depends on how long we've known each other and the particular circumstances

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a date, and I was never intimate :/

Oldschool1981 · Answer

It took four months before my wife and I had sex for the first time but she had sex with her side guy after knowing him for a couple hours. SMH

sage2021 · Answer

I always waited for several months at least.

chrissykerdock · Answer

soon as he takes it out

kaucky1 · Answer

Gotten intimate with someone who just met less than half hour without even saying much of nothing just happened

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Around 2-3 months… 8-10 dares.

Becky93 · Answer

Depending on Chemistry and trust is formed.

Kelly6 · Answer

@simslover92 depends on chemistry

dragoblack · Answer

Depends on how we vibe and if we feel comfortable.

Sleephazard · Answer

Sometimes one, sometimes more than that.

rebelkid · Answer

The longer the better in my strong opinion.

dinojames22 · Answer

It varies, relationship to relationship

Anonymous · Answer

It is best to wait until the wedding date.

Jennz6 · Answer

Depends

wkhan_87 · Answer

After marriage.

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