Please help I lost my job and feel stuck in life?

[Anonymous]

I'm 21 years old and a bodybuilder, I still live with my parents and have never moved out. I’m slightly autistic and have a lot of medical issues, which makes connecting with people pretty challenging. Honestly, I don’t have any friends except for my boyfriend, who I've been with for a year and a half. I love and appreciate him, but I feel incredibly lonely every day.

After high school, I tried going to community college, but it was way too expensive, so I decided to just work for a while. I worked at a café but ended up quitting because I wanted to join the Navy. Unfortunately, I couldn’t get in due to my mental health conditions. After that, I found another job that I had for a year and a half, but I had to quit because of health issues.

Finding a job after that took months, and I finally got one, but I was fired after just a month and a half with no good reason—just “you’re not what we’re looking for.” I’d been searching for another job for months and had one for 2 months and just yesterday, I got fired again for the same vague reason. I can't help but think they’re discriminating against me because of my slight autism.

I really don’t know what to do anymore. I feel so behind in life and constantly bad about myself. It feels like I’ve exhausted all my job options where I live. I want to move out into an apartment with my boyfriend, but we can’t afford it, which is putting a strain on our relationship since we can’t see each other often. I feel like a burden to life, and I’m just so fatigued from being fired for no good reason. I really need some advice or just someone to listen. I feel extremely bad about myself

[SteveSmith1985]

Hey, I would be happy to listen. This is awful. I'm so sorry things have been so terrible with being fired so many times.

I would like to hear all about how you think you might be losing these jobs because you're being discriminated against due to your autism. I would like to dive into that a bit. Because you have had an exceptionally tough go.

It breaks my heart to hear you feeling like a burden to life. I can imagine how you might be getting discouraged being fired for no resason yet another time.

I would love to chat. DM me or, if you prefer we can talk here. Let me know.

🙂

[Asker]

hey im just now seeing this - yes i feel extremely discouraged and fatigued getting a new job

[SteveSmith1985]

Hey, I remember you. I was hoping to hear from you. I don't know that I'm going to be able to help you in terms of the job search aspect. I've had some tough times in the past, where finding a decent job was way way tougher than I would have imagined. I feel for you.

I can listen, and give you advice, but I won't be very good at "practical job search tips." I'm pretty good at listening though.

So tell me about why you suspect you might have been fired because of your autism? I don't know that there's anything I can do about it... but it's upsetting to hear that.

How are you doing otherwise? Essentially the same as you wrote here?

I'm happy to hear that you have a boyfriend, that's

[SteveSmith1985]

Sorry, I hit send too soon.

I was just saying it's good that you have a boyfriend, that's long-distance?

[Shiprex]

Sorry to hear you're going through life like this. Working isn't all it's cracked up to be BUT it does give you purpose.
Do you have any particular interests outside of boyfriend and work that you could use to boost your morale? That way a positive spin on existence can be created and you can build on that with a more upbeat character and something to look forward to. Try clubs or sports teams for example.

I'm about to leave the country I am living in rn to move to a slightly different warmer one on my own. Leave behind all my friends and work colleagues, wife and home. It's something I need to do as this place fukd me over in my job over the last 4 years so I got an out to follow.

Find something to get passion from (me it's sport and fitness) that gives you a boost that doesn't NEED anyone else to provide support for you.

[jahaims]

They are just being nice. You aren't capable of doing most jobs from the sounds of it. Go work at FedEx or something similar. You just have to stack stuff all day.

[Asker]

whos just being nice?

[maj1nall]

If you are disabled and do not live in a third world country, the state has incentive laws. Companies with a certain number of employees must employ disabled personnel.

[Asker]

im not disabled tho i can walk