What's your thoughts on being asked who the better lover is?

[Brokenheartedx]

I was asked that and I didn't know how to answer.

i don't compare men that way, why do people ask inappropriate questions like that on exes?

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I say I was asked I was held down and tickled first time I said don't ask me that second time I said him unconvincingly to get him to stop.

I'd never ask a man who was better in bed, what if he said other person? it hurt my feelings obviously..

[ohsheeT]

Well first if all if a man has to feed his ego that way
You should say the other ex was better

If a man has to feed his ego that way
I would say it's not the guy who asked
Because he has no confidence with in himself and it's a trick fake question because he knows your with him right now so he thinks you would say his name in stead of the other ex to me that is so week. And tells you what kinda guy he is . To even put that out there for you to make a choice is totally wrong.

You should of said his grandpa. Something ridiculous so he got the point it's just not right to even put you in that Position

[Brokenheartedx]

When we are together he brings the ex up quite a lot. They were best friends at one time, he also boasts, relies to heavy on drink and drugs and an absolute mess of a man..
To me it reeks jealousy of the ex for whatever reason, I can't be bothered with that crap

[ohsheeT]

Yeah, I wouldn't think you could either. I would think he would know your Wishing something completely different, I would think .. I mean, he should be able to see it in your eyes the moment he says something. I would say you're so right when you say mess of a person damn I almost feel bad for him for not looking at you deep enough yo feel or understand that or even you

[Brokenheartedx]

He held me down and looked at me and said has he ever hit you? I never replied he asked me 3 or 4 times, tears were welling up but I didn't reply to it.

[ohsheeT]

Wtf. Your husband past right. And he's almost doing to you what he asking you to answer

[ohsheeT]

What's he thinking no matter your answer he can't do anything about. Except since your husband did it. So what now he thinks he gets to do it. That's bull shit

[ohsheeT]

I can't tell you what to do.. but I can tell you. you can get any guy you want. And you don't need this crap in your life

[ohsheeT]

And if that is his way of kink, it's one thing, but leave your husband out of it

[Brokenheartedx]

He deleted my ex from his contacts when he added me. That puzzled me as they were close years ago.. whatever it is I'm being used as some kind of 1 sided grudge and I feel it

[ohsheeT]

I believe you're 100 % right. I feel the same thing from here, and I'm on the west coast

[Shiprex]

I wouldn't take it too well if I were asked because it's not the act itself that one can compare but the sense of being in that moment with the person is what ought to be important and to compare it's like comparing different mouthfuls of food.

[bowenw]

The way you explained it that you don’t compare men is the best way to respond. It is a red flag if some one asks that kind of question in my opinion as they are probably insecure and revealing the tip of the iceberg.

[Brokenheartedx]

He was holding me down tickling me.. He knows my ex they were friends to me it sparks jealousy because he asked a few more questions that were inappropriate like has he ever hit you

[bowenw]

That is a very strange question to ask someone you are supposedly trying to impress.

[Brokenheartedx]

he boasts about how he has bought his house outright, he's heavy on drink and drugs, he brags about his job he's a mechanic, brags about his daughter, it's like he's comparing what I had with my ex who owns his own business, also has his own home, our daughter is a straight A student.. It's ridiculous.. They were best friends along time ago so I don't know what's went down with them think they grew apart

[Brokenheartedx]

I'm thinking there is some jealousy there and it's childish. exes should be out of bounds esp when we share children

[bowenw]

He has some serious issues including what seems to be a need to continually convince himself that he's better than everyone else and want to hear people validate that.

[zagor]

That is pretty weak. Did a guy ask you this?

[Anonymous]

It's a question that deserves no answer.

[yotaman99]

Yes I like being told in the worst

[eagle1951]

does it matter

[Jay-_-]

That's weird.