Sweet and kind, for sure. The whole sarcasm and being abrasive thing used to be fun and camaraderie building, but I find that it goes too far too often.
I neither need nor want yet one more person to take the piss out of me when something has gone well in life.
I like a good mix of both to be honest. Someone who has a good sense of humor and can good heartedly give me crap (and be able to take it too) and is sarcastic sometimes I like it. As long as itās not too much or sheās just bitchy without a reason donāt like that. At the same time she is sweet and kind has a good heart.
But if I could pick only one or the other? Sweet and kind. If someone wasnāt sweet and kind but were teasing as well as sarcastic all the time it may not be in the most good hearted manner.
I'm a little of both. Often times I'll lead with some teasing (nothing mean) to see how a guy responds to my fun/honest side. If I see he's sweet, smart and good humored then I let out my sweeter side. But if we're on the same wavelength we're able to maintain that balance between the teasing and the sweet/kind stuff.
Why does it have to be one or the other? She's either like a lovely milk chocolate, that melts in your mouth, or she's a zesty strawberry that makes your face pucker? A woman who is eternally sweet feels like a dainty flower that I have to tiptoe around, so as not to make her wilt, while a snippy tease is perpetually trying to push my buttons. The optimal choice is some variation of bothāpreferably where she knows (without having to be prompted) whether to be sweet or sour. It should go without saying that this is not exclusive to women, but women are the focus of this question.
I suppose, if I had to choose, it would be "tease". Why? Because, a sweet person is kind, in a way that conveys warmth, but not necessarily steam. Given the right circumstances, a spicy woman has propensity to be sweet, either by accident or on purpose, because the candle that burns twice as bright burns half as long. Additionally, sarcasm indicates an innate desire to challenge people and not simply placate a crowd, but just like with humor, you have to know when to put on the brakes. It's basically impossible to be too kind, but it's very easy to be too abrasive. Therefore, a woman who is lollipop gumdrops has to build "up to" the capacity to say "no", in order to be more saucy, while a woman who is already like that needs to learn temperanceāwhen and how to STFU, gracefully.
I guess the more important question, then, is "what do you want to start with first? Submissiveness or resilience? Does she even want to learn or is self-improvement beneath her?"
Having a sense of humor is good and being able to playfully tease can also be good. Being sweet and kind is good in a different way. Best would be to have a bit of both sides and being able to switch depending on situation, mood and such.
But if I have to pick one or the other, I go with sweet and kind. If she has to be sarcastic and teasing all the time, that is more likely to get tiresome and annoying then someone who is sweet all the time.
Having different sides to your personality is good (as long as their not toxic).
Can't I pick both? One for spare days, the other for even.
Jokes aside, as of late I tend to pick A. I know that in 2025 expressing this opinion will get me crucified and damnatio memoriae'd, but what I need as of now is someone who'll help me unwind and spend leisure time with, without arguing or challenging me.
Thankfully enough the person I spend the most time with is something of a B in public but a complete A at home, which is a most welcome compromise.
The result don't surprise me but in France it's the reverse especially among young people tons of young guys prefer a girls that tease them (not necessarily sarcastic but they much prefer teasing to kindness).
In France guys that prefer sweet women are more introvert / shy type or more sensible type of guys but on average teasing / funny type of women are preferred here.
I'm sarcastic and tease.. tho I can be sweet and kind too when I really like a guy. But that is probably why dudes don't like me that much, I'm too tomboyish and not as feminine.
Interesting results that show guys prefer one type but girls seem to think the other.
Men don't generally seek chaos and confrontation. They LIKE the feminine but a little bit of cheeky is inspiring and keeping on our toes BUT we're on our toes ALL DAY LONG EVERY DAY and want the respite from that when we're with those we love.
Those two optional really don't give enough leeway cos I think you can be sweet and kind but also banter and tease. Which is fun. I'm not a big fan of sarcasm tho. I think that could get annoying.
You can definitely be a bit of both. But I'm asking it in the context of one or the other. And technically you can't always be sweet and kind if you're sometimes sarcastic and teasing.
@HawkPerception sweet and kind, always - and hands down 👇🏻👎🏻 (pun intended) - I don't mean that in a dirty way lol you folks lol I love a woman who is sweet and kind versus a rude biatch 😆😄🫠
None. I don't trust women, and I'm not interested in therapy. I don't need it. I've already visualized myself living alone my whole life, and I don't believe in this right or wrong as long as I'm okay with myself. Besides, it saves me trouble.
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