Other than “give it a time” any tips to move on?

Question

Please, its been a year. And im still here crying over him. In desperation to meet him, talk to him.. And even the bare min, chatting with him. But i know all of that won't happen.

Please, i feel like im going crazy at this point

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You're not going crazy at all. Everybody has gone through this. Would you have to understand is the pain that you feel

Is the love that you have to offer
You feel as if you've been rejected when all you try to do is love

As time goes by, you're going to ueverything happens for a reason. This guy was not meant for you. That's the bottom line

You you were not meant for him
That is the bottom line

Stop and think about this for more than a few moment. We all have an energy within us. Everybody does every living thing is made of energy
When you love yourself , you become one with yourself when you

When you love others You become one with them And then you become one with this universe
When this happens Everything is beautiful. It's like you're in a zone Everything is just right. Everything is perfect you feel

There is nothing that can take that smile up your face , you are So happy everything is connected

And then when somebody walks away from us we freak. All that happiness is gone you can't feel anything except for hurt and pain.

Understand this. He didn't give you the happiness he didn't give you the joy he didn't give you life. And the beautiful feeling you felt. Cane from you only you

Because you are the only person inside of you. You're the only person that can make you happy. You're the only person that can make you sad. You're the only person that can make you feel the way you're feeling right now. It's energy you have to believe in yourself

The only thing that guy did is. He came into your life and he opened the door Inside of you ,

You were just living like normally

He came into your life.
And you changed You weren't sitting home on the couch anymore. You were doing an experiencing new things you were starting to feel new things experiencing new thing because you allow your self to look at life in new ways and you were love it you were finding yourself you were changing. And you love that feeling you were giving to yourself.

Abd then it stopped you stopped because you think it was him

Take any thing in life that make you feel happy put it in place of him and watch what happen. Focus on it and watch all those beautiful feeling come back.

The only different is the energy that you put out or receive from another human or person. Do you have a pet. Your pet gas energy love your pet if you have one all day and watch what happens you will come back alive

This is a learning experience. Why because if you don't learn from it it will happen again. If you don't learn that you are great and that your positive and that you will be ok because you do know who you are you do know that your goingbto make it through this Because you are confident within and who you are you believe in yourself

You need to understand.
This if you don't you're going to Go to this again And again. And again until you understand what I was trying to say

When things like this happen to us you can take yourself so far down you don't want to get up abd you can lay there as long as you want

Or you can stand back up abd say your going to be ok because you believe in YOU. ITS A MOMENT IN TIME.. THIS MOMENT WILL PASS and you start an new moment

This is not about the guy this is about you who you are and who you choose to be in life don't let Littles things like a guy hold you back

Because it's only you that can hold you back or believe in yourself and keep growing and going forward

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

When people say "give it a time", what they actually mean is:

Cry at will
Let anger out also, if you feel it
Write about what you miss
Use your friends, bother them at will with loss and sorrow
Try reconnecting to what you liked to do, hobbies, interests, just try anything that made you happy prior to breakup
Walk, run, bike, sports, physical activity to vent

If nothing works, if you're still in intense pain after a year, if it prevents you to go to school, to have a job, friends or anything standard like this. Then please consider paying a visit to your general practitioner, it's likely they would prescribe medication, for a limited amount of time. To help you getting back on your feet, it's standard practice, good luck to you 🍀

Finchie40 · Answer

Best thing to do is try to focus on yourself as much as possible, find hobbies or activities to help keep your mind off of him, start dating again without rushing into anything , make male friends’ that will help you keep your mind off of him

sage2021 · Answer

When my husband, who I loved very much abandoned our new little son and myself and stole my car and never paid his child support I was still thinking 🤔 that he would try to come back to us but he didn't.
I felt like what you are describing. I had to completely stop listening 🎧 🎶🎶 to music because the songs just made me feel worse.
I started writing poetry, A LOT!! It's easier to write ✍🏻 poetry when your heart is broken.💔 Maybe you could try that. It does help because it gets your feelings out of you and on paper instead which takes the edge off of the pain your heart is going through.
To be honest, I walked on this earth for 40 years with my heart still broken from what he did. My son grew up without a father just as I did.
It was when I turned 62 years old that I found the love of my life! He was a total surprise. I met him at a mutual friend's house.
We were a couple for six blissful years until he died suddenly 19 months ago.
So here I am again! 💔
I know that this isn't the help you were hoping for but I just wanted to share my life experience with being alive and living with my broken 💔 heart.

HarveyLaw · Answer

Moving on is not the easiest of tasks but it is really needed to keep your sanity and health, sweetheart. Cry your needed tears, all of them... but also invest in yourself: do some physical activities, enjoy a hobby, go out with friends, look for your lost smiles!

You must realize you are already with the most important person ever in your life: yourself! Besides, so many people in the world, some may be good matches to fill your heart and life with joy. Finish this cycle and let it go. Let yourself be happy!

RingOfFire · Answer

There are times in life when you have to make a decision to be either happy or sad. The choice is up to you. When you obsess over things that you cannot change you are choosing to be sad. It's painful, it's lonely, and it's depressing.

You deserve to be happy and you have to make that choice. You are young, this was a learning experience, and you will love again. I can assure you of that. Make the choice to be happy and move on with your life. The sooner you make that choice the sooner you will be able to let go.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

As for the heart the heart wants what the heart wants & unfortunately the heart can’t always have what it truly desires & sometimes hearts do get broken. In life I always say if you never try you will never know & as for me I rather try & fail rather than not try at all. As for me as much as I would love to say time will tell or as much as I would love to tell you to give it time I’m not going to tell you that but when I will tell you is the following. As for you it’s time for you to face the sunshine & let the shadows cast behind you. As for you the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new.

It’s been a year so put your big girl panties on & move forward with you life.

What went wrong?

Zack-Bann · Answer

Giving it time requires having had closure

I struggle for a while after my first breakup

I hooked up with 4 girls and none of them made me forget my ex completely

Then we ran into each other and had a heart to heart conversation that was the most toxic thing ever but it was exactly what I needed

She started telling me about the abusive guy she was now seeing
So I told her about all the girls and how even with them “her face is the only one I see”
And that turned her on in such gross way that I realized: it’s truly over. We can’t unring this bell

And I moved on for good this time

This happened 2 years ago now and I’ve been a healthy functioning adult not hung up on anyone

All this to say: find your closure even if it’s messy and ugly.
You can will yourself back on the horse and things will straighten out along the way

MrChinaski · Answer

I can hear you are distressed. DM me if you wish. I'm not a psych, but have crisis support experience. There is little or no way that people on this site can provide meaningful assistance if you post anonymously.

Anonymous · Answer

If you trust you two should be together or be in each other's lives, let life do its thing.
Don't force energies and circumstances that aren't for you.
Be open to receive to possibility of reuniting and work on being the better version of yourself.

Reem12345reem · Answer

be busy working on YOU , if its been a year , then u definitely stopped working on your goals , trust me it works

Fireguy17 · Answer

Get involved with friends, charity work, a hobby, anything to occupy your time and get out of the house.

Travel, stay busy, get a 2nd job.

You need to get out and about so you aren't just sitting there thinking about it.

SotiCoto · Answer

Sorry. I can't relate.
My first relationship consisted of me going to stay with the other participant for a month... and they dumped me on the second day... and since I couldn't just go home because I couldn't afford to change the tickets, I had to suffer the most awkward month of my life still stuck with them basically low-key hating and tormenting me the entire duration.
I learnt to let go pretty fucking quickly thanks to that.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Just surround yourself with friends and family get back into doing things that you like to do and get back into life and I promise you you'll forget him in no time

WonderingManII · Answer

I understand how you feel, the human heart is not meant to be ripped apart. It becomes glued to another person and that is not meant to be ripped apart. It can take a very long time to heal.

glennos89 · Answer

Go dating and try to find yourself a good men to make you forget him. There are plenty of single guys out there some of them might even have better qualities aswell

blondfrog · Answer

You can get with a rebound. It's a great distraction.

princeofromance · Answer

You need to move on and look for a true gentleman who will treat you like a Queen. He is not worth crying over day in and day out. There are men out there who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

zombiewoof · Answer

Just date someone that you would not normally date,

molonski2 · Answer

Best to just naturally let your tears flow and continue on as best you can , I'm double your age yet I've never felt like you do , so all I can say is everyone copes differently.

Renegade_Sailor · Answer

Go make happy memories. Get out of the house. Get busy, pick up a hobby. Do something with your time so you're too busy to feel bad.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I just focused on my work and now thank to the blessings of the 'tism know an awful lot about this field

MountainMetal · Answer

If you need to talk dm me, I don't think the public forum will be productive for something this personal

Nikki1989 · Answer

You meet someone else, dust yourself off and move on. It is not as hard as you might think.

MasterKS · Answer

you may find it wrong advice but easy one is get a new guy quickly, it heals instantly.

alice55 · Answer

find another guy to crush on, there's many cute guys around everywhere

Jeff51 · Answer

Get over it. Been a long time. Try to find someone new

Lilly1979 · Answer

A threesome with ben and Jerry.

Godihateyou · Answer

Actually move on. Burn everything amd throw away any connection.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

come on. its been a year, dont u have better stuff to do?

Anonymous · Answer

Who’s this person

Abbycado · Answer

Keep yourself busy.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Not good. Therapy helps.

beenherebefore · Answer

Get busy. Go out and have fun.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe meditation can help you...

Jennz6 · Answer

No sex for a while

jahaims · Answer

Go to therapy

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

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