She told me because I have manners I’m soft?

[Anonymous]

I was recently dating someone and was told that how I interact with strangers is a turn off and that she thinks it’s because I’m soft. When I order food I always say may I have etc. I say thank you I appreciate it. If I’m leaving the store and they tell me have a good day I reply with have a great day. It’s just how I am. I treat people nice because my grandparents when I was little told me you treat people how you want to be treated. I wasn’t even offended when she said it. It was honestly so dumb to me that the more she spoke the more and more she began to be unattractive to me. Oh side note another reason why I’m nice is because my mom as a kid was really snappy and my dad and I would joke After we seen the movie waiting that my moms food definitely has been played with. So because of that and watching movie I’m extra nice. I don’t even order food if it’s 45 mins or less to closing because I know that the cooks want to go home as soon as possible. I don't know just wanted to hear some of you guys thoughts

[PrettyBarbieDoll]

I really just think you two are not a match. She likes rude men wich she refers to as tough. But tough has nothing to do with that. Tough is when a man can protect his woman, that is a huge turn on for me. I wish you a lot of luck and i hope you find a good woman that matches you.

[ProbablyClueless]

People are so strange sometimes.

She might have been the one to end things, but I think you're the one who dodged the bullet. Do you really want someone in your life who prefers to treat people abrasively?

[ViaOlivetree]

Sometimes when women are a bit immature, they confuse kindness with weakness or lack of assertion. It's something a lot of women sadly go through. Immature women confuse disobedience and aggression with independence and strength. I'd say you need to find a woman with a better head on her shoulders.