What’s the best way to deal with someone who gaslights you?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

The best thing to do is first of all walk away Resenter yourself find yourself. You're gonna have angry?
Towards them And toward yourself for not seeing it

There's a million things you can do but none of them are good for you

The best thing to do is acknowledge it. Accept it and walk away let it go Find balance again Because if you don't , you're going to allow it to eat you up.. You cannot allow that

Weather you believe in it or not. Consider you let it go and leave it alone. The reproduction just from the words Used on you Are still blowing in the wind They will come back to the person that put them out there

God has is own type of justice. It's call karma. The faster you let it go the faster it will happen

Being angry about it is not getting you anywhere at all as a matter of fact your alowing it to change you now. The long you hold on to it the deeper it will take you down when this happens you lose twice. And then the amount of time it takes to find your way back.

So let karma let the universe handle it. Because I guarantee it's going to

And then for you to get back , take care of yourself get healthy look GOOd. Make money be Happy than you have ever been we he see this. It will break him because he will see everything he lost when he had it all but there will be a time he's going to want you back And when you turn him down it's going to break his soul. Because the person that he's with right now. He's going to do the zach same thing he will be kick to the curb

So don't talk shit about him for get his name work on u and only you start living life again love yourself again this was just a fucked up learning experience I think you have learned what ever you were meant to learn. Now let it go because weather anyone know it yet but if it hasn't Time yet or not hid Experience is going to happen to him when you get it all go and become the best you can become

Maybe_Maybe_not · Accepted Answer

First, talking about  psychobabble : " Some mental health experts have expressed concern that the term has been used too broadly. In 2022, The Washington Post described it as an example of therapy speak, arguing it had become a buzzword improperly used to describe ordinary disagreements." In this context, where psychobabbling is common, adored by gendered press or any social media content inheriting from popular press and the likes, spreading   like crazy then... I assume you're talking about manipulation here, I largely prefer using that word: Manipulation, manipulative and such.  There are two cases I've seen: 1- Someone being  deliberately manipulative  to distort someone else's perceptions. Easy solution: Move away, because it's like trolling, the more we participate, the more we're feeding the beast.  2- Someone not aware of how they proceed in communication,  indirect manipulation . That's more tricky, and in practice I also moved away from such a scene, after trying to explain why, because my explanations didn't work. Someone has to realize how they communicate and it's not for everyone. C'est la vie ! If it isn't possible to quickly move away, like at work, or with family, or in romance. Then I think  moving away is still the best solution.

FreyaRed · Accepted Answer

Cynicism and sarcasm is the best way to make person who try to gaslight you incredible and ridiculous. Undermining credibility of someone who tries to gaslight you is something the person won't handle because they need superiority over you for the sake gaslighting as manipulation tactic works.
Of course there are some people who will try to 'let the fox guard the chicken' like "this is exactly I spoke about" or "I do it for your good" but this is just damage control.
Generally you make it clear, you respect only people who respect you but when they gaslight you they don't respect you and don't need to expect you will respect them.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Cut them out of your life -- the sooner the better. Make sure there's no way for them to reach you.

Summeroflove · Answer

Number one keep respectful distance and set very firm boundaries. Only interact with them when you absolutely have to be civil and respectful (so long as they are) but you’re not obligated to make prolonged conversation or contact with them get whatever formalities need to be taken care of done and move on.

The best thing is repetition calling them out. They will not want to deal with you (unless they’re especially psychotic) if you’re consistent with them. They want someone they can easily control and manipulate. Not someone whose going to call their bullshit.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

You can’t know. The very important difference between gaslighting and straight up lying is that the target doesn’t know the truth. Therefore they are more vulnerable to manipulation by deliberately misleading information.
You CANNOT know that you’re being gaslit.
If you’re being lied to, set a meaningful boundary and enforce it. Most of the time, the trash takes itself out.
If you believe you’re being gaslit, go find someone else who you trust. Preferably someone who the person you think might be gaslighting you would also trust. An unbiased third party will help you connect to a more grounded truth.

HawkPerception · Answer

Silence and walk away. There's a saying.  You can beat 40 scholars with one fact, but you can't beat one idiot with 40 facts. Best to let it go and not let their stupidity affect you

AviatorTom · Answer

Ignore them. If they don't want to have anything to do with you, why would you want to do anything with them?

Finchie40 · Answer

Ignore them and walk the other way and realize they no longer exist to you

Geo1970 · Answer

People who are like this are just not wired up properly!

My opinion is this when they behave like this is just laugh in their faces, turn around and leave. They are just sad, screwed up people It’s a simple as that.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Gaslighters thrive on emotional responses. Remaining calm and ignoring can show them their tactics aren't working.

alli-112 · Answer

Get them gone and get some therapy, even if it's just for a little while. That shit sticks around in your brain in ways you wouldn't predict, even after the person is no longer present.

Zack-Bann · Answer

If you know for a fact they’re doing it. Walk away If you think they’re gaslighting just because you don’t like what they have to say. Find a mirror

Anonymous · Answer

Walk away because they get angry when you call them out. My ex girlfriend was like that and violent at times. She along with a few other girlfriend's is why I only date men now especially my current boyfriend. So much easier.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Remove them ASAP. If they cannot be removed, then their words are no longer valid beyond the act of attempted gaslighting.

NicholasRedone · Answer

@liaraven Well nowadays aren't we moving to cleaner renewable energy?

Anonymous · Answer

First, learn the actual meaning of the word gaslight, because it doesn't mean what you think. The 1944 movie Gaslight, where the word came from, is on TCM right now.

Cormac995 · Answer

Cut them out of your life. I speak from experience.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Details! Making notes and records of specific instances of whatever behavior you're challenging them on.

Anonymous · Answer

If at all possible cut them out of your life completely. I used to know a woman that did this to me. I knew her, and I knew her mind. She wasn't going to change. So I had to eliminate her from life completely.

Shiprex · Answer

Smile, nod then laugh in their face as you turn and walk away.

Anonymous · Answer

If you know they're gaslighting, walk away.  I know I should have.

MangakaJ96 · Answer

Follow your gut, don’t let yout gaslighter know your suspicions amd ignore them if possible.

Godihateyou · Answer

Realize your paid shrink is gaslighting you. There is no such thing

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Get there toxic ass out of your life immediately. If there online block them on everything

NathanDavis · Answer

turn on a lighter...

uncleBobbyb77 · Answer

I can't believe your doing this again.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Don’t talk to them

strateguy632 · Answer

Have self confidence!

slatyb · Answer

To stop dealing with them.

Staximus · Answer

Just don't deal with them

Lilly1979 · Answer

Cut them out of my life. I don't need them.

PrettyCrumblBb · Answer

Gaslight them back.

In_Trance · Answer

Block them and move on

Anonymous · Answer

Gaslight them back, with the lots of gas.

BlondieGirl_ · Answer

Leave

MannMitAntworten · Answer

…switch out to LED.

jahaims · Answer

Cut them off

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Ignore them

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