Whats the point of dating if there's always going to be someone better/more attractive?

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

[Summeroflove]

Well that’s about building a genuine connection and bond with someone. That’s exactly what I tell SO… many people. In some way or another someone will always have it better. There will be someone prettier then you, have more money then you, taller then you, stronger then you, and the list goes on especially as you age.

If people are getting into superficial or materialistic relationships 9/10 those relationships are going to fail at some point or another. Because eventually once someone finds someone who has it better especially after they have sucked the life out of you. You’re going to be left for dead while they move on to someone else until they do the same thing to that woman or man… the list goes on.

I have told both men and women this SO… many times. If the genuine connection isn’t there no matter if you even are the best person there is. They will never be happy. They will cheat on you and leave you for who they think is better.

It’s about finding someone that you can connect with. Finding your soulmate. Finding a best friend. Two people who are loyal, would die for one another, and will stick together through thick and think. It’s easy for people to make vows as a formality. But when push comes to shove they rarely ever hold their end of the bargain up.

A LOT of people learn this lesson the hard way.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

u can do that with anyone

[Summeroflove]

Well platonically yes. But romantically is very different

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

not really

[Summeroflove]

It’s very different you’re not kissing your best friend. You feel very different around a romantic partner then you do a platonic one

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

sure but its not hard to find a partner. u can find that with anyone.

[Summeroflove]

Well not people who aren’t attracted to you and reject you. But yes you’re right many people build relationships with people they don’t really feel attraction to genuinely. Does it end well? Not usually

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

omfg. as i said. anyone can find u attractive, stop thinking u can only be happy with that one person, bc u won't.

[Summeroflove]

Anyone can…. So like I said. I wasn’t there to know and you still don’t know what a DSN number is…. So obviously you don’t know as much about law enforcement as you think.

It’s a department serial number by the way

[Summeroflove]

By the way. A lot of y’all want to date cops… Until you do. They number one have a lot of trauma so unless you’re ready to deal with that and be a supportive partner forget it.

Two HIGH promiscuity in law enforcement…. So careful who you pick.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

i think u responded to the wrong comment hun, law has nothing to do with our conversation.

[Summeroflove]

Sorry you’re right wrong person

[Summeroflove]

Someone told me that they know more about law enforcement then I do. All because I wouldn’t tell her a cop thinks she’s attractive. But yet she can’t tell me what a DSN number is.

Imagine asking her things like chain of custody or what the difference between probable cause or reasonable suspicion is. She may have a aneurysm

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

okay👌

[ohsheeT]

Most of the time the person we are with is the person we want to be with. Be cause she's smart she wise. . She kind she has a beautiful heart she can speak with her mouth and her eyes

When your with someone and you say I love you it's because you really do.

You like everything anut her
.
It's the person on the inside that I like.

And I have had beautiful girls come in to mylife when I was in a relationship.

There beautiful but then they open there mouth and nothing but ugly comes out. With just about every word..

Some people might jump when this happens just because you think the grass is greener on the other day. But give it a month or 2 and you will realize that grass grows weeds they a selfish and there Goofers.

Sooner or later if someone else comes along. That is every thing you said and you keep up grading as you say beauty is only skin deep

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

anyone can be or do that tho

[Genie23]

Because it doesn't matter whether someone's more attractive than you or smarter than you or better than you in other ways. What matters is how that particular person treats you, makes you feel, understands you.. the way others don't. The kind of bonding you share us unique. You don't want someone better looking or smarter. You are content with that one person because they have other good qualities that you simply admire and other things that makes them "them". Nobody can replace that person in heart or life

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

sure but anyone can do that and anyone can do it better than that person

[Genie23]

No, not anyone can do that. The bonding you share with that person you're with is unique plus there are other more important great qualities they have to offer, not just looks. So, all those good qualities but how they make you feel and gets you. These are the things that makes you want to stay with that person.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

yes anyone could do that. anyone could do all of this💀

[Genie23]

No, you don't get it.. It's something you won't understand until you meet that kind of person and fall in love.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

right, and when i break up with them ill find an exact copy of them in a month

[Genie23]

No, then you never really liked him that much and never fell in love if you're saying all that. I'll share this from my personal experience. I fell in love and I never felt even a bit attracted to any guy no matter how good looking other guys were or smarter. I just wanted to be with him because of the chemistry we had, the way he understood me the way no one could, all the other great things he had to offer.

Breakups happens because of bad timings or people want different things in life and all. Very few people would cheat or leave their partner just because they found someone better looking

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

ok good 4 u

[Nikki1989]

When you find someone you genuinely connect with, whose presence makes your life richer, and with whom you can build a fulfilling life, the hypothetical “someone better/more attractive” becomes irrelevant.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

yet i could find someone exactly like them in a month if we broke up

[D_Bone_Steak]

Hypergamy on a continuous basis is a trap set by women that will end up alone in the long run and also want to share that misery with other women.

I say you should all ask yourselves a basic question and give an honest answer to yourselves... Exactly what, if anything, will ever make you happy enough? I mean in the context of "This is fine, for the rest of my life."

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

money 100%

[D_Bone_Steak]

I think the happiest women I've seen made that choice... even if the relationship doesn't work out, they're still better off after than the ones that chased looks or sentimental feelings alone.

$$$$$ In fact, it not working out becomes a mere stepping stone to even greater cash and prizes. $$$$$

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

money aren't as much drama as men r

[D_Bone_Steak]

I agree with that.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

good

[Zack-Bann]

What’s the point of buying a house if there’s always a bigger and nicer one out there
Or getting a car if there’s a faster sleeker one out there
Or working a certain field if there’s another higher quality one out there.


People make their choices and live with them


You don’t HAVE to have a the best option


The culture of “more” and “better” is what’s killing true relationships.


Being happy with your lot isn’t as bad as modern culture wants us to think

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

thats called settling for the next best.

[Zack-Bann]

No it it’s not
It’s realizing that the “best” doesn’t exist
People are not quantifiable and rankable

The next best thing implies there is an absolute best. But who is that? How does one person earn that title?

You see how the logic itself is flawed

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

you’ll always find someone better

[Zack-Bann]

So what do you propose doing?
Upgrading every time?
Or giving up on searching all together because perfection doesn’t exist?

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

id propose giving up, thats what ill do atleast🤷‍♀️

[Zack-Bann]

You’re entirely free to do that.
But you should know that you’re choosing not to eat the steak that’s already on your plate just because “maybe” someone will offer you smoked salmon instead

In the end you go hungry.

Me personally I’m incapable of giving up. No matter what tbs situation may be. And this specific situation is not even that dramatic. If having too many choices is my biggest problem then all is well in the world

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

its not only about me, what about the one im dating? men are famous for leaving women for better women all the time. id rather be single and happy than taken and worried ab him cheating on me🤷‍♀️

[Zack-Bann]

Well that’s unfortunately something that can happen
Especially if you chose poorly

Because people with good values and real moral compasses don’t cheat. No matter what.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

doesn't really say ”cheater” on their forehead does it?

[Zack-Bann]

No it doesn’t
That’s sad
And it goes both ways

But that’s why people skills are important

It’s not perfect but it’s an imperfect world so might as well

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

well i dont date women🤷‍♀️

im not gna learn how to read everyone i see and get heartbroken js to find someone that maybe won't break my heart🤷‍♀️

[Zack-Bann]

I’ll say again. You don’t have to
But you will 100% be alone.

That’s not something everyone wants

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

then id rather be alone, men r so much drama

[FunkyMonkee]

THAT'S the point of dating!! Dating means, you're playing the field, dating a number of people at the same time trying to find the right one for you. A lot of times, you can narrow the field drastically after just one date and then you get it down to 3 or 4 people. Eventually you get it down to 1 and stick with them or, if you find others you wanna audition, you can add them to the list. Going steady, is when you've supposedly made up your mind on just 1 to stick with. At that point, you SHOULDN'T be dating others and, if you are then, maybe number 1 really isn't number 1.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

thats js cheating

[FunkyMonkee]

It's ONLY cheating if you've already settled on one person.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

no its not, being with more than one person is cheating.

[FunkyMonkee]

No, it's not! It's called, "dating"!

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

right

[FunkyMonkee]

See? You agree.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

no i js said right

[Levin]

Dating is not an objective exercise. It is subjective, often based on love, soul connection, and interaction of respective karma (eg often women with no boundaries will date men who trample over boundaries).

[Billlewis]

Honestly, I think you should give yourself more credit. Having read some of your posts, questions and red hot comments, I'd gladly ask you out if we were closer in age.

[Sonorous]

Spoken like a true young person 🤣 dw when you're old & have less options, you'll feel very differently.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

not really, men r desperate asf

[Sonorous]

I will say that most people seem to be able to discern fairly well between the nuances of others. This is how they're able to choose so conclusively.

There are no solutions, only trade offs. People are no different. Sometimes the best looking person isn't always the best solution to what would make us happier long term since they have certain things about them that are too much of a tradeoff to tolerate. Then sometimes someone can find someone closer to ideal of looks, personality, etc. It's all a timed game of chance. Rigged but we don't see the blueprints. We're just here for the feels.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

everyone is the same so who cares?

[alice55]

There's always going to be someone worse too so xD

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

what does that have to do with my question?

[Anonymous]

It's to find someone you can't live without if you think the other way then you will never be happy don't get me wrong th3re are some good looking guys out there but I couldn't imagine a life without my husband

[Berethor]

It not means that you can get someone better, also loyalty is important.

[hello4433]

It's not about better or attractive. It's about whom you are comfortable with and whom you love

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

u can love and be comfortable with anyone.

[hello4433]

Not true. You'll realise that as you date and have experience

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

not really

[Anonymous]

For every person it's important to find someone they find attractive enough to be with them.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

sure but there's always gonna be someone more attractive

[Opinion Owner]

True, but if you're with the right person, you won't cheat on them.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

obviously, im js saying there's always smth better

[Opinion Owner]

True, but that better is probably meant for someone else.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

we can't know that

[Opinion Owner]

Sure, but we can use logic.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

how?

[Opinion Owner]

Think about it... it's not that difficult to assume.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

we can't know whos meant to be with someone. answer the question.

[Opinion Owner]

We can't know, but we can assume.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

how exactly? r u talking ab looks? personality? specify.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I'm talking about combination of looks and personality.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

okay

[Anonymous]

I would like to say that
No matter how beautiful is a girl out side , but all girls are same disgusting 🤢 down there.

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

same goes for men🤷‍♀️

[Opinion Owner]

Men are less disgusting down there lol 😆

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

not really

[In_Trance]

There isn't always

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

yeah there is

[In_Trance]

That's a you problem.
If you're happy with where you are in life, you're not constantly looking for something else.
You probably have an Iphone; you'd never dream of anything but. You're happy with it.

That logic applies to all facets of life

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

thats called settling.

[In_Trance]

Not if you're happy it isn't

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

u can always be happier, no?

[In_Trance]

Not true.
You need to move past this illlusion of lack.
It only creates a scarcity mindset. You'll never be happy that way

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

too bad, its the truth. the truth hurts.