Why is it considered self hate if a black woman dates outside her race but when black guys do the same it’s totally normal?

[Anonymous]

[avery58]

Black guys get criticized a lot for dating out, especially if they date white women. I think everyone should be able to date and marry whoever they want. My boyfriend also has a different background from me (neither of us are black) and many people disliked it, mostly our families. But it's the decision of both people, other opinions don't matter.

[Anonymous]

It’s not every black woman it’s YOU and this fixation you have with dating a white man or specifically non-black men.

[Asker]

Huh what are you talking about?

[Asker]

Seriously its not me because look at Doja cat (Mixed black girl) got hate for only dating men. And other black women too.

[Asker]

I never mentioned white men 😭

[Opinion Owner]

“OR specifically non-black men”, I said that as well. Using Doja Cat, one of the most publicly known self-hating black women next to Tracy Barbie, as a reference point for “gettting hate” doesn’t help your case. You do know she was in an all white male chat room spewing slurs just because she thought it made her more acceptable to the suprematists she was talking to, right?

[Asker]

That was lies and a black guy said he lied on Doja cat because she didn’t want to date him and yes doja cat has dated black men before

[Opinion Owner]

How was it a lie you can literally go watch the chat room livestream online, she let the hard “ER” fly multiple times just to be performative for the laughing white men in the room.

[Asker]

Again it’s on red lipstick a black admits he was upset doja cat didn’t want to date him and he lied on her

[Asker]

And it’s on Reddit

[Opinion Owner]

You said I’m lying about her livestream so are you taking that back or pivoting?

[Opinion Owner]

“A black” LMAOO wow!

[Opinion Owner]

And why the hell are we talking about Doja Cat anyway? I said YOU are the one who aims to specifically not date black men as a black woman.

[Asker]

Because it’s lie and it was a guy named Kane or whatever and I hate liars by the way

[Asker]

Thank you for bringing this back to light. If anyone is unfamiliar with who Kane is , he is literally the person that started the whole " Doja Cat in racists chatrooms " BS 😒. I don't know if he's still active on twitter , but I remember seeing his account and him confessing to everything being a lie back in 2020 . He confessed hours later after he got all the attention and engagements saying he just said it because Doja rejected him 😑 . THIS ALL STARTED BECAUSE OF A FUCKING REJECTION Y'ALL ❗ SMH. He tried telling people that what he said wasn't the but by then it was too late and all these rumors and her started piling up 🙄 I will forever hate him for this 😤 . Now fast forward to 2025 and it's still hundreds of Mfs running with these narratives about Doja saying " BUt tHErE's pRoOF " even tho this " PROOF " has been debunked and explained countless times 🤦

[Asker]

I didn’t say you was lying I’m saying a black dude lied on doja cat

[Asker]

Is there something wrong with a black girl having a preference?

[RavVid]

Women have a delusion that biology should be equal and it clearly isn't.

I don't know anything on this topic, not being an American, but I would think it does in fact come down to basic biology. Women bear children so different behavior is intuitively expected of them.

[Summeroflove]

It’s not hate LMAO… I would say very few people except racists say this. If someone’s shaming someone else’s relationship chances are that they envious as well as unhappy in their own lives.

[Jackblue]

Welcome to the world of jealousy. When people say they disapprove of interracial relationships what they are really saying is they are jealous when they see someone of the other gender and their race date someone of another race but their gender.

[genericname85]

It's not considered self hate. That's just some irrelevant idiots saying that.

[zagor]

I don't think most people think that. Maybe a few black men who want to control black women.

[dudeinohio]

Dont pay attention to what they haters say.