Why do black women shame black men as self hating for dating outside the race when they all they do is fetishize themselves with whites?

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They berate black men for looking at all colors of women label it self hate joke about it tare the man down say he doesn't love his own black mother and his own black skin when any other race of female is bought home. Which is something white men do especially. They go for all women, light women mainly but they brag on wanting white men no other type for this reason. There is a trend of black females posting videos that they scored white men specifically only and as an upgrade. If this were reversed and a black man posted a light woman in that manner it will be a problem. It is comedic irony because white men tend to be more colorist then black men yet that is the apparent problem in their word that black men are too colorist and white men want dark black women more then black men do. You can't look anywhere in the media and see a black woman with anything but a white man to cater to their blunt demand. But at the same time a black man will be ostracized for dating anything lighter than he is no matter how quietly or indifferently he does it. There are black women and sociologists like Cheryl Judice declaring black women need to date outside of the race and go for white specifically when there isn’t a thing a black man has done to black women that white men dont do worst down to the colorism and in a white mans case often abandonment and incompatibility. What is this obvious double standard down to the hate black men get for being more open minded to dark women light woman and all kinds of women while they fetishize white specifically and go as far as to advertise it as something as an upgrade from black men.
Why do black women shame black men as self hating for dating outside the race when they all they do is fetishize themselves with whites?
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