Is it possible to fall for someone you haven't met in person?

[Nonamegiven]

[Finchie40]

In a way you can, but it’s more infatuation and excitement over anything else , the true test is if you feel that way about them when you officially meet each other in person , why it’s best to video chat with them before you’re your plans to meet them

[Nonamegiven]

maybe it could even be falling in love with the infatuation and excitement? i think both together are powerful. i love those feelings!

[Finchie40]

Yea nothing wrong with it whatsoever, your feelings are your feelings , and if they feel the same way about you , even better 😊

[Bonnie2025]

Yes, without a single doubt 😊my situation for example, I was best friends with a girl for years before I found out she had a brother. The brother popped up one day on Facebook & I fell in love with him the second I saw his picture. Yeah that’s pretty weird if you ask me, because we had never spoke let alone met in real life. I can’t explain it but I fell hard & fast for that man. I remember getting a friend request from him & almost lost my mind. One message from him & the rest is history (we met & got together all in the same night) he moved in with me a week later, 6 weeks later we were engaged, 8 weeks after that we were married. Been together 15yrs I still feel the same way about him today as I did back then. So yes it’s possible ❤️❤️❤️

[beenherebefore]

If you ask this question to a Gen Z they'll say Yes. As a millennial, I always saw people falling in love with someone they never met childish and delusional. Falling in with someone is something deep. If you fall for someone you haven't met that's more infatuation and not Love in its true form and meaning.

[Chazmatazz269]

No, but a lot of people “fall for” an idea or fantasy of someone or something in their imagination that makes it very difficult to objectively assess another person’s character. The entire internet dating complex preys on that tendency in people. It’s not at all different from the way casinos prey on people’s fantasies about “winning”.

[HawkPerception]

I believe so. I'd say physical needs eventually need to be met, otherwise there's going to be a growing desire that can ultimately become toxic. But other than that, you can definitely connect pretty well online. As long as it's not just phone calls, but seeing their faces and talking with them. Really knowing their character and being extremely compatible. Definitely possible.

[Summeroflove]

It’s possible yes but it’s also possible that someone’s pretending to be someone they’re not. Irs much easier online and over the phone and through the mail.

[AviatorTom]

It's possible to THINK you've fallen for someone you haven't met, but realistically, falling for someone requires at least one in-person meeting.

[Avicenna]

Yeah, but it’s not a good thing to do

[melanieeeB]

I mean you can sure build an emotional connection and probably fall in love with a version of someone that you have created in your head or with just a piece of them.

One thing is for sure tho you only know the person through the internet and not in person, you don't know their smell, how they feel, how they act when they get mad or whatever other triggers someone may have. You don't know how they react or act or whatever to any given situation happening in the second and so on.

[alli-112]

Pretty sure the existence of romance novels kind of operate on this concept.

So basically yes, though it might be different from how you fall for someone that you have met and you might not have fallen for them had you met them, since what you're really falling in love with is that part of themselves that they're showing you. (It's harder to hide parts of yourself when interacting in person.)

[DJB72]

I did. We had 23 years together, 21 married before she died last year. I proposed the day we met in person for the first time and aside from a week when she took her mum on a cruise and three months while I was in a coma we spoke every day, even when we had a few weeks apart because of mental health issues.

So yes, it's absolutely possible.

[ilistengood]

10 years ago id have said no, but I had a virtual affair a couple years back and it was intense, felt real, and hurt just as bad when it ended. I assu. e your question was more about a person you only new visually but i would guess that's just as likely..

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Since this is a returning topic on G@G, answer is usually:

• Yes, for those who experienced it
• No, for those who did not experience it

Plus this usual confusion due to how people define love differently, plus this tendency to lecture people about what love should be.

[Karl877]

It’s not impossible, but you have to be aware that you lack a lot of information. You can only fall in love so much while lacking information.
Your mind usually fills in the rest with your imagination or expectations. You’re lucky if your expectations are matched in real life or even exceeded, but you have to remember that you are missing a lot of information.
Your ability to love someone is directly proportional to how much you know about them, and the connection that you have. You can only have so much of a connection having not met them in person.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Yeah, and I actually sort of have in the past, though you have to be EXTREEEEEEEMELY careful with this sort of thing! On the internet literally ANYONE can lie, pretend to be someone they're not, etc. So it takes a while to find out if the person is genuine or not.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Anything is possible & when it comes to matters of the heart it certainly is possible for you to fall for someone you haven’t met. You can fall in love with them the way they write or even a photo, video or something like that.

[DangerouslyCute]

most people fall for the minds not appearances... so it's possible... but risky...

[SotiCoto]

Seen it, been there, done that, grown out of it.
Generally speaking if you've fallen for someone you haven't met, what you've technically fallen for is an idealised version of them that your mind constructed. Reality tends to underperform by comparison.

[slatyb]

I'm there now. I commented on a post from a woman in Europe, and we began a long correspondence. I'm married in North America, so nothing is going to happen but still I'm quite in love with her.

[Anonymous]

Well there's a guy on the news now who says he's in love with the AI chick on his phone, and his human wife doesn't understand it. I think it's all phony and he's trying to be famous.

[4ngelic]

when i was younger i would get crushes pretty often on dudes i talked to online. some i didn't even know what they looked like

[Zack-Bann]

Not really.


You can start liking someone build the foundations of what can become a relationship


But “love” cannot truly develop
Only the illusion of love


And we humans are quick to embrace that illusion

[avery58]

Yeah, it happened to me. And I really was in love.

[Sam1133]

What happened after that?

[dustybiker2]

I am madly in love with two book characters. My man is secure with this as they do not exist. He enjoys the challenge.

[EmmaMary]

@Nonamegiven

For the life of me I simply cannot see how that can be remotely possible... At best it would only ever be an infatuation.

[blackeagle007]

True

[genericname85]

you can sure have a cursh. like puppy love. but it's not gonna be love before you met them.

[Unap0logetic_]

It happened to me once, when I was in my teens. I built an emotional attachment to a person. Now that I am older, I doubt that I could experience it again.

[Kaneki05]

Yup and Yep. Though if you think so and it hasn't been a year yet you are likely going through limerence, or just crushing.

[AngryCarl2]

Absolutely. Parasocial relationships are at an all time high, it seems. The brain doesn't register whether the object of your affections is in front of you or on a screen, it just sees the person.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, there are a lot of way to fall for someone.

[Notherndude84]

I think so, especially if there is honestly between them

[bddddd]

Until you spend time with someone, in person, you will never know them well enough to love them, in my opinion. Yes you can definitely form a strong attraction to them.

[Brandi555]

Yes it is. Because you know the person for who they are and not what they look like. I feel like you kinda create your own idea of what they look like from the information you know about them.

[Twalli]

I don't believe that some people can. However, judging by Catfish, people do. I can't, even if a girl is checking all my boxes, until I see her in person, I won't pursue anything more than a passing relationship with her.

[Nikki1989]

I can't see how. There can be interest but nothing beyond that.

[lightbulb27]

yes in fact maybe more likely. it's false projection as well until meet and know them.

[midnightmoon05]

Many “have”. To me it’s not real. Waste of time.

[Communicationisking]

happens all the time unfortunately. Sometimes it works out ok but often it doesn't

[Sirenboobzilla]

That's just falling for the idea of whatever person they're portraying. It's incredibly risky

[bddddd]

It's not incredibly risky. You can definitely build trust by exchanging things that are important to each of you. But as I posted earlier in the thread, I don't think there can be love until you spend time together in person.

[Shiprex]

It's possible but very likely to be fleeting

[RedInnocent69]

Not truly. You can certainly have a connection, but be in love? I don’t buy it. I think it’s just desperation

[RedInnocent69]

@Dykei1989 I get that. Very well, actually. But I’ve also seen many “in love” with strangers on line that turned out to be scammers. Being in love is a lot like being in a cult

[RHK36]

Sure, but it could fade just as quick if you aren't compatible physically.

[WonderingManII]

I think because it is an emotional response to something.

[douride2]

For myself I doubt very much it could happen.

[SkimmingDetective]

But if you haven't met, it means you don't really know them, and could be in love with only the 'idea' of them

[vj0090]

Absolutely .. it happened with me just now haha

[Nonamegiven]

Ok sure

[vj0090]

Followed your profile.. I think u got to follow back then we will be able to text

[Account]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

No, for me there is only love at first sight.

[PeachyPie93]

Yes, for sure..

[exitseven]

I used to think no but maybe it could happen

[Nonamegiven]

what has changed your mind? a new experience?

[Dnice1]

Been there done that before so yes

[tzdc21]

Possible? Yes. Smart? No.

[wkhan_87]

Possibility for some emotionally attachment

[nl171]

Yes I’ve done it lol

[Nonamegiven]

can you tell me about it?

[theionano3]

I guess like online

[Babygirl_S]

He who saves me from pain. He is the miracle.

[Staximus]

If you're an A-1 dumbass

[beefcakebradybatson]

If she's got big boobs !!!

[Jeff51]

Yes. I have too

[SuperZonicGUY1992]

If they're a racist maga cult , No!

[Sam1133]

Yes people do believe in stupidity called love

[loveyouoak]

Yes, it is.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Yes that definitely possible

[ambitious_male]

Yes, there is.