I (m18) wanna message this girl (f18-19) I havnt seen in years who I think I was in love with as a child, what to do?

[Jjuunnio12]

I recently found her tiktok after years of not seeing her and its like the feelings I had for her all of the sudden came back. Not really in an obsessive way but in a good calming fuzzy feeling, thing is tho im FUCKED up rn with my life and situation so I kinda dont wanna hhu in my situation until im a little better.

i still wanna hit her up tho, when we were little she also had feelings for me but we never were anything because of the sercomstances in the situation, she moved or stopped coming around to the b&g club and never saw her again also went to different schools.

I swear im not even joking I'm not sure if this is limerence or not ( i hope its not) but i genuinely feel way more "feelings" in a way with her just by looking at her social medias and seeing how beautiful she is then girls I've been with and kinda dated years since her. Pls lmk what to do

[Finchie40]

Just reach out to her in a friendly way and try to start talking to her again , if the conversation goes well continue taking steps to being closer to her again when you feel ready to do so. I ran into a child hood crush that I was friends’ with when we were kids’ and when I saw her my mouth dropped on how beautiful she still looked , when she saw me she immediately wrapped her arms around me and we talked and reminisced and caught up on each others’ lives , before I knew it we were in bed
Together and screwing each others brains out. So don’t go on with the intentions of fucking her immediately , go on as friends’ and take it from there

[SueShe]

Could it be that your feeling of being "f****d up" is dictating your thoughts.

You saw her last when you were kids and now, you are both (hopefully) adults and your testosterone is doing the work for you telling you "hey Jjunnio12, how about seeing if I can fornicate with that girl? What do I have to lose since my life is f****d up?"

That is how I understand your question and personally, I would not try to contact her if this is what is going in your mind. Why revive something that is best left sleeping after so many years.

I think that you should work on your life first before attempting to get into the pants of a girl you once knew as a child.

[Jjuunnio12]

Bro i had wrote a whole ass paragraph but it deleted. Basically those are not my intentions I DO NOT wanna fuck her, I dont see her in a lustful way how ur thinking I am. Its rare for me to feel like this for girls its deeper then that I wouldn't want to "just get in her pants"😂 I see her the exact opposite if anything i have nothing but pure and innocent eyes for her literally nothing sexual. And it wouldn't change

[Genie23]

Focus on fixing your life. Once things in your life starts getting better you can message and see how it goes. I don't think it's a good idea to message her in case she doesn't feel the same way it will leave you heartbroken as you're already dealing with other things in life. Once your life is back on track, your mind will be in a better space.

[Jjuunnio12]

Im sure she'd wanna re connect, I doubt she still feels the same way especially since she probably hasn't even thoutg about me in years most likely. Only reason thus whole thing came up was because I found her tiktok, before I couldve cared less. But hopefully if I do decide to message her it goes good

[Genie23]

That's why I suggested you to wait until you're in a better space as if I put myself in your shoes, rejection will hurt 100x more for me if I'm already going through hardship in life but if I'm doing well in life and my old crush says she doesn't feel the same way, I'd recover much sooner.

But it's upto you. Do what you feel is right. If contacting her will give you peace regardless of the outcome, then do it

[Arcadian222]

NGL, I think she won't resonate. Dont go all in. Just message, check and ask if she wants to catchup. Assess in 1st meeting. You'd know way forward.

[Jjuunnio12]

Yeah ik

[AI Opinion]

Ah, those feels of nostalgia and love can hit hard, can't they? 😍 Here's the deal: it's completely normal to have old feelings resurface. Before hitting her up, make sure you're in a good mental space. You don’t want any personal chaos to mess up a potentially great reconnection. When you’re ready, slide into her DMs with genuine curiosity. Keep it casual and light, just like catching up with an old friend. Remember, confidence and authenticity go a long way. You got this, love warrior! 💪✨

[Staximus]

Are you a drug addict? Like on meth, heroin, fentanyl, smoke crack, etc

[Jjuunnio12]

Get a life😂

[Staximus]

Well are you or not, smart guy? You're the one who said your life situation is fucked up right now

[Jjuunnio12]

Ohhhh bro my bad, I misinterpreted it no im not a drug addict but dealing with a bad situation rn in a dysfunctional household so im plamning on leaving and getting into a homeless shelter also leaving for the military soon in like 3-4 months

[theionano3]

When did u first know/like each other?

[Jjuunnio12]

9 or 10 to like 13 I think

[theionano3]

Just be careful it’s not just nostalgia because people can change

[katiesmuff]

Can't hurt anything to just message her!

[Anonymous]

Your definition of "love" needs some attention.

[Jjuunnio12]

😂your miserable

[Opinion Owner]

Good advice is not always what you want to hear.

[Jjuunnio12]

You internet bums think your smart, its not that hard to answer a simple question with a simple ish answer. You dont have to think too deep into it thinking you know everything

[Opinion Owner]

So you only want to hear what you only want to hear. You should specify that when you post your question: "Please only tell me that it's really love and that I can win her heart. I'm only 18 and I don't want to hear the truth."

[Wise4myage]

What do you have to lose by trying?

[Jjuunnio12]

I don't know, I wanna message her but at the same time wanna wait until im in a better place in life

[Wise4myage]

Well, that make sense, but don't wait forever.

[Jjuunnio12]

I know