Should I ghost or dump a man IMMEDIATELY once he shows ONE red flag?

[Jekdnnf]

I be hearing these stories of girls who go on dates or talk to guys and as I’m listening I’m learning one red flag after another. Like a guy randomly defending cheating, or a guy saying other ridiculous things that show he’s not serious or he’s just trying to get it in… and I’m thinking “girl, you could have ended that date or ended talking to that man after the first red flag but instead you let it go on and on until you have a whole damn bucket of red flags and now you’re sitting in front of me or the video camera or Reddit presenting this whole string of red flags and you want us to sympathize.” At that point I can only laugh and yeah I sympathize but I’m like damn this must be how dumb I look when I go on Reddit asking for advice about yet another guy and I start listing all the shitty things he said or did, and then act surprised pikachu face when he’s on the tenth ridiculous thing. Like no, I should have left the SECOND he did the FIRST red flag. I felt a shift in myself but ignored it. Sometimes I even feel something is off but I don’t necessarily have a red flag in my face, or maybe I just became oblivious to it but my body knew it was there or my intuition because I FELT Sum thing WAS OFF. but yet I persisted talking to that idiot.

[ohsheeT]

Ok so first of all you are at an age to be teaching us. For get about the new word red flag. That word was invented for the Generation After yours because they didn't understand the word Common sense. ..


And we both know if we are more Quiet and listen people will tell us exactly who they are and almost one breath. Eyes and ears. Will tell you every thing... and watch how they interact. With other people or friends and family. Because how they talk to them or treat them is how they will treat. You... if they talk bad about anyone they will talk about you ...

[Avicenna]

It would depend on what that red flag is

[Jekdnnf]

For example if a guy says he’s a corn addict? Or he says “Beyoncé went back to Jays after he cheated so cheating is ok right?”

[Avicenna]

The attitude about cheating should be a complete dealbreaker. Addictions usually are too

[Jekdnnf]

The funny part is him being addicted to corn wasn’t the only red flag. Everything about him was. So if you have one red flag there’s usually a billion more to come.

[Avicenna]

That’s usually true

[FreyaRed]

Yes. Disqualification

[Zack-Bann]

Ngl picturing an 89 year old talking about ghosting and red flags and reddit is hilarious


But I know you’re not that old obviously


I would say it depends on the flag in question


If you can live with it then no biggie
But if it’s a deal breaker don’t stay in hopes he changes. He won’t
By then it’s time to move on

[Jekdnnf]

lol… I think if I start feeling uncomfortable then it’s a deal breaker. I’m not dating to be someone’s slave I’m there to be made happy.

[Zack-Bann]

Naturally

But there is a difference in comfort levels too

No one will ever make you comfortable 100% of the time

Dating is human interaction. And humans are messy and imperfect.

I say this because my ex used to make a big deal out of every slight inconvenience.
We could have the perfect weeks and if something even slightly bothersome happened she would get overwhelmed and question the relationship.

Don’t be like that.
Definitely don’t be anyone’s “slave”
But do try to have patience and a thick skin in the face of small inconveniences
As long as your partner is always doing his best to make you happy

[Cormac995]

Everyone has at least a few red flags because nobody is perfect. The key is figuring out which ones are safe to look passed and which should be immediate nopes.

[Anonymous]

Do not dump , you could not find another man in this age

[Jekdnnf]

You’re an incel fuckwad. Nobody values a word you have to say.

[Jekdnnf]

And your pussy ass went on anon to say that. What a loser.

[Avicenna]

She’s not actually 89, you know

[Jekdnnf]

@Avicenna thank you kind Sir.

[Avicenna]

You’re welcome….

[qwerty2469]

Only if you love cats and masterbating

[Jekdnnf]

Suck my dick ugly incel

[qwerty2469]

Im married for 20 years have several children and still have sex every other night. I just told my wife im to tired to have sex, but im going to wake up and have it tomorrow morning. Sorry you are so miserable and have to project

[Jekdnnf]

My interested creep.

[Jekdnnf]

Not interested creep

[qwerty2469]

Nobody is interested in you. Thats why you are miserable and alone. Your shit attitude will see that you never change. Congratulations, you played your

[Jekdnnf]

Not reading and don’t care incel loser.

[qwerty2469]

You care so much I can taste it. Your lonely tears of rage. Your impotent insult of incel to a man that lost his virginity at 15 and has had sex more than 4 times a week for the last 29 years amd has 3 legitimate daughters and a few bastards.