Is this a red flag?

Question

Is it a red flag if my man used to comment on all his exes posts but rarely comments on mine? He was with his ex last summer, and would legit comment on every single thing she posted on IG, without fail. With me, it’s kind of sporadic. For instance, I posted 17 times since we started dating, and he only commented on 4 things, and didn’t even like two posts (which were literally of me)

TheDraconianJester · Accepted Answer

When did your boyfriend and his ex break up, specifically? Like, how long of a period did he take as a single man before looking into dating again?
If he started dating you the moment they separated, he's likely treating you as a rebound, whether he realizes it or not.

Has he commented on or liked the content of his ex while in this current relationship at all? If so, dump him. Both for your sake and because he seriously needs to heal before getting into any new relationship. If this is the case, he is obviously not over his ex.

If he hasn't commented or liked content his ex posted while in this relationship, he probably is still hurting and doesn't want to do similar things he did from his previous relationship. Maybe it was a habit of his to drown her notifs with support, and now he wants to break that habit in this relationship for a reason that is unclear to us.

I'd ask him about it and see where he stands. Tell him how you feel about this. Of course, he doesn't have to comment under everything you post, but maybe talking about it will have him realize you're not feeling as wanted.
But I'd also look into yourself. Ask yourself: Why do I want him to interact with my posts more? Is it to feel more wanted, maybe to show others that I have a supportive partner, or what?
Besides this one issue, is he truly there for you, and vice versa? Do you feel like other parts of this relationship are lacking for you both?
Just talk about it and see where this leads. Either he's the one, or he isn't. Only time and careful decisions will tell.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Umm. It's more that a red flag.. when you have an ex. It's. For a reason. And when your dating someone new. Why would you even go to your exes page. Let alone comment something

Your words tell me you have a beautiful heart. And you deserve someone that respect you. I'm sorry but your boyfriend. Is not cool i mean, I feel bad for you. As a guy he embarrasses mes.. I think your just the rebound girl. The real question is, what do you think about it and do you think it's right?
For a boyfriend to do that. No it's not right at all