Help how do u deal with a controlling toxic mom?

[Anonymous]

I’m 27 and she uses since u aren’t married excuse of me not able to move out n live my life. I got bad luck n everyone in my life got marriage and I didn’t.
wen I say I’m saving money she gets jealous. Wen i tell parents I got second job they get jelaous n say oh me too I’m going to get a second job.

they supsoivly want me to grow foward in life but treat me bad when I try do better.

they see to love me when im

broke no place to live and would be happy I lose my job so Im forced live with them forever at thier senior apt in a far city I hate and control me.

when I moved out at 23 they would stalk my address and be mad I drove my car independent and would talk to my owners to ask if I’m bringing a boyfriend home as they don’t want me hav sex never. It’s ridiculous.

im 27 and want move out and start my life. I just work sleep and drive 2 hours away from home to work and depresed at thier far city.
i want live 10 min away from job, have more time to rest drive less, learn to cook, decorate my studio home, peaceful nights cleaning how I want, resume my online store I had as my hobby, go to school soon too.
but they get mad when I mention I want do all this. 😓

[ohsheeT]

I feel bad for you. Does you mom get along with your dad. Do they have good communication or does your mom wait for you to arrive before she starts talking...

I know it's hard to fo but you have not not tell them so much.

I moved out when I was 16 1/2. And every thing you said you wanted to experience i remember thinking the same thing but being able to do it.

You need to make a plan. But it's your plan no one's else needs to know about. But you need to do better with money. You have been with them this long. You should have 5 to $10000 saved up by now. I don't mean to sound mean or rude. But this is the truth

You are right where you want to be.. because if you didn't want to be there. You wouldn't be. That's the truth. Now I know things happen and blah blah. But I don't care who it is in this world. They do what it takes to do what they or need to do to have that freedom away from family. Just make a goal stay focus.
stay happy make your time there with your parents a good time. Don't fight with them. Don't argue make a conscious decision to focus on what you want and get it... don't them or anyone else what your doing.. they dint think you can do it so you don't do it. If they no nothing then you can do anything


I think your parents love you. And they don't want to see you hurt.

So in their head and heart they're trying to protect you..

And maybe irmts because they are lonely


An online store is cool , but you have to make it work every day to keep up your clientele. Especially if you know what to sell...

I'm curious. What kind of things do you sell?

Look at everything you want to do right it down. And then tell your self your going to donit now materbwhatvandbwhen inhavevsave blank amount of money that's the day it will have. And every day until then in your head you have a dream and every day until that your preparing yourself so you can make sure you do everything right.. and learn when you don't do them right. And if things do work out that way. The next step is to sound proof your room i said you can get a guy over there once in a while lol that has to be driving you crazy to

[Zack-Bann]

Just look for an apartment without saying anything


When you find one pack your bags on a day they’re not home and leave


When they call tell them it’s over, you’re an adult and it’s long past time you lived as such.
Your marital status is none of their business and never will be and if they ever wanna see you again they will accept that

[dudeinohio]

You are an adult. Assert yourself. Move out and call police if they harass you. You do not have to take that abuse.

[Anonymous]

Don't tell them shit anymore. They seem jealous and has resentment over your freedom. Move far away

[Asker]

If I don’t tell them my plans they get mad say what I’m doing with my life once I’m home trying to rest in bed lol

[Anonymous]

I’d be moving to a different country at that point and getting a restraining order