What do you hide on a first date?

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ShrunkenGuy · Accepted Answer

All sensible answers so here I come with a curve ball.

Very little, maybe the most intimidate secret or maybe not even that if you’re autistic (or to be more accurate a specific profile/presentation on the spectrum), on a first date the other person gets a crash course speed dating style in unfiltered, uncensored, detailed breakdown of the person, very little held back, because can’t be bothered with these Neurotypical games/logic, life is short let’s get on with figuring out if we like each other.

Which I guess some would politely excuse themselves, some might just immediately run for the hills or maybe find refreshing and endearing?

Yeah, it’s a spectrum, so you’d also might get the meek, quiet, barely says anything about themselves too shy type as well of course, who hides everything afraid of what the other person would think about any of it.

tulgablake · Accepted Answer

On a first date, most people hide their flaws, insecurities, and anything that might feel “too much” too soon. This could include past relationship baggage, financial struggles, personal fears, or deeply private issues. Some even tone down quirky habits or controversial opinions to avoid scaring the other person off. It’s also common to hold back strong emotions or expectations about the future. Essentially, people present their best version, hoping to create a good first impression while keeping vulnerabilities tucked away until trust builds. What you hide often depends on how much you want the connection to grow.

Beckybooboo · Accepted Answer

If I feel comfortable around him, I'll do my best to hide my talkative nature lol I can talk a lot if I really enjoy someone's company but I always feel like it's kind of offensive when on a date. I know I don't like it when they do all the talking, unless the date is slowly dying, then they can talk all they want 😂

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily hide but omit that I have mental health issues. That's not exactly going to win a person over nor do I think it's really their business to know until after a few dates.

AviatorTom · Answer

I've never hidden anything on a first date. That doesn't mean, though, that she learns everything about me. Not every subject comes up on a first date. Some, in fact, take years.

Summeroflove · Answer

I don’t necessarily hide anything. There are things I don’t feel comfortable discussing with someone I just met but I’m not necessarily hiding anything either

HawkPerception · Answer

Nothing. I'm an open book. I actually prefer if they're interested in things about me.

TrimmedTip · Answer

On a first date, people often hide:

- Heavy emotional baggage
- Strong opinions (politics, exes, etc.)
- Over-eagerness or neediness
- Quirks they’re not sure about yet

It’s less about being fake and more about keeping it light until trust is built. You show the “best version” of yourself first — not the whole encyclopedia. 😄

Clear_Skies10 · Answer

I don't talk about my exes or why the relationships ended. I just say that we weren't right for each other. I don't believe that my past relationships are necessarily people's business, or that I got cheated on either. It doesn't affect my future relationships.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

That I'm glad Trump's team is taking out John Bolton. Fuck around and find out. Oh... he's a republican... I don't like Republican's from his Bush supporting ass and glad he is about to get buck broken.

Other than that... I might hide that I might shove my thumb up her ass while in doggy style... I like it to be a surprise. So I'll hide my mission to do it.

BCRanger10 · Answer

You're just getting comfortable and getting to know someone on the first date. You're not trauma-dumping, revealing your deepest and darkest secrets, or anything like that. You're just building a connection, feeling them out. So you're not "hiding" anything at all really.

MemeSupreme · Answer

politics or trauma dump UNLESS THEY CAN RELATE bc then we can joke about it i just wanna have fun so i avoid stuff like that

Anonymous · Answer

@ironco No disrespect, but if I knew a guy was a widower I would rip my clothes off in the middle of the street for him and let him do anything he wanted to me, and I think most girls would do the same. You cannot make up a hotter situation in a girl's mind than being able to be the comforting angel.

lorenzomichael · Answer

I don’t hide shit I leave it all out there for her to see. And if she has any questions like they always do, Then I entertain them by keeping them laughing as I tell the truth. No need to hide anything it isn’t like I live a strange life with weird people in it.

Abbycado · Answer

Nothing. There are things that I don't really bring up, but I will be honest when talking to a guy on a first date.

Speaking_Frankly · Answer

It's not so much that I hide it, I find it in really poor taste to talk about my exes on a first date. I would get a very poor first impression from my date if she did it of hers as I would get the impression she wasn't over him.

queenofcardio · Answer

Haha my address. I'll give them a closer location to where I live but not the exact street.  I'm pretty open on first dates.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I don't hide anything, but I won't discuss things that are none of your business either.

stratford · Answer

My preference for tiny boobs and large labia lips

acooke-13 · Answer

I wouldn't necessarily hide anything, just be selective of the information I talk about.

Anonymous · Answer

Hide or omit? I don't hide ANYTHING. But I'm not going to volunteer info. If she don't ask, I ain't sayin.

jazzy34 · Answer

Hidden things usually leak out eventually. Therefore, no use in doing that.

jshm2 · Answer

Your genitals. Until they are a requirement, at least...

exitseven · Answer

I hide the fact that I had previous girlfriends.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Serial killer with multiple personalities. I'm kinda sensitive about being judged.

Ironco · Answer

I'm not going to lie... I don't tell them I'm a widower. Women look and act differently when they know you are a widower.  Sad but true.

DishLady · Answer

Nothing. I’m not a hider.

zagor · Answer

My penis, usually, unless it goes really well.

deaddude7734 · Answer

I try to hide the fact that I have chosen to stay childless until the day I die.

Ariesman81 · Answer

Hiding is insecure. Some of us out here being real.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing if he ask I tell best way to see who is into it or not

Pohjolan · Answer

I don't really hide anything specifically but I won't mention certain things if not asked.

shortster · Answer

My phone. I am there to get to meet someone not chat on here.

dragoblack · Answer

Porn and pleasure devices aside from that the rest is just picking up and organizing.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

I never hide anything from anyone. I attach no importance to others opinions of me

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

My money

NoDecision · Answer

What I do for a living.

TrueConfection · Answer

My age.

Rides_Big_Guys · Answer

Hide? What are you talking about

MikeTheBartender · Answer

As much as possible. 😈

Fireguy17 · Answer

Financial information.

OneViewpoint · Answer

The salami.

LiamJHayden · Answer

My income and assets.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

SI Swimsuit Issue !!!

Anonymous · Answer

I've never been on a first date.

Anonymous · Answer

The bodies of my previous dates

NinaDobr12 · Answer

My bad habits lol

Anonymous · Answer

My dating history

Circushowcowboy · Answer

Nothing

JazzieJanna · Answer

What I been through

joshbrown1767 · Answer

nothing

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