How do I come to term with the fact that I’m most likely going to single for the rest of my life?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never had a boyfriend and I haven’t had a guy ask me on a date before, I’ve asked guys and they’ll tell me I’m pretty but no.

i get that I’m young but i think it’s better that i ready for what’s potentially to come

[ohsheeT]

I dont believe this for a second. I guarantee that you can get a boyfriend. Any time that you need to do is start experiencing new things. I know you're probably shy.
But there's ways to do this, so you're gain the confidence and then you can go out and just introduce yourself to somebody. But there are things you have to do to do to do this.

The first thing is quit saying that you think you're gonna be single forever. Because we are our thoughts whatever you think will happen

Be confident with yourself.
There are so many things. I can for a fact that will get you a guy if you wanted one if you really wouldn't

But there's things you should do in everyday life. Just to prep yourself, so you know how to deal with them. So, you know how to handle it, so you can make it better. So you can get out of it if it gets worse.

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve prepped and prepped and prepped. You can’t guarantee me that I will get a guy, I’m definitely not shy and have gone up to guys myself they just reject.
So obviously I’m coming down to this conclusion, yeah I get that guys do get rejected too by at least every now and then they do get someone yet for the time that I’ve been approaching I’ve not got one yes.

[ohsheeT]

Some things are wrong with this picture. How about this have you ever had an online romance or friend

[Asker]

Of course I’ve had friends, I don’t believe in online romance because I want it to be in person not over the internet

[ohsheeT]

Yes, i agree. I've always been the same way. It's like I won't do dating apps either. But there is a lot you can learn from an online room or friendship. Same with role playing, there is a lot you can learn from in that to.

Now you have me very curious, too.\n Because you seem confident enough.\n You seem very smart, very wise. Like you have a good heart. So I'm curious

And with a relationship I don't think I would give up. Because it's one of the most beautiful things you can have in this woand there's a lot to learn from those two

[ohsheeT]

There is one thing I just noticed is we are all made from energy. Energy is a type of chemistry in a roundabout. Way that I feel to everybody

We have physical energy, and we have spiritual energy. The whole universe is energy. And usually when I communicate with somebody I can feel they're energy

And I really haven't felt your energy now that could be me too. I'm not sure.

And when you're talking with a guy it doesn't matter if you stand and two inches away from you are two hundred feet from you you can usually feel that person's energy

[Zack-Bann]

You can’t come to terms with something that’s false


But you can work on yourself inside and out


Go to the gym, get fit.
Go to the hairdresser, get a hairstyle that fits your face shape
Go to the mall, get a casual but flattering outfit


Pack your schedule with activities that involve social settings with friends


Guys will take turns walking up to you and asking you out


All you have to do is chose wisely to avoid trauma and heartbreak


If you spend your days indoors or isolated within small groups of friends always looking like you just finished cleaning the house you will be single for a long time
And you’ll never truly come to term with it

[Vevv123]

You’re so young… you’re at the age where you need to focus on school and building your career. When I was your age I didn’t even have time to think of relationships with all of my school and work. Make yourself busy and focus on things that will benefit you so that when you finally meet someone you like you will have the financial capacity to have a family, buy a home, etc. together. Believe me, once you get a boyfriend you will probably want to spend all your time with him and will forget about your priorities.

[Asker]

I most likely won’t want to spend all my time with him, because there should still be time to have by yourself. My family/I could not afford for both kids to go to school so unfortunately I was the one who wasn’t able to go to college. I have a good job that I have moved up in a lot since I started.
Which is why now I am asking myself the question that I asked above, because I have enough money put away to buy a house but no one to build a home with.

[Vevv123]

I lived alone, rented a room, and had a child to take care of on my own, I was poor barely making it by. I never asked for financial assistance from my family because they were also struggling. I was not home the entire day and was barely able to eat sometimes, counting pennie’s for gas. Working and going to school non stop. I applied for financial aid and I went to a community college. Where there’s a will there’s a way. The problem with a house is that it comes with its own bigger bills like buying a roof when it’s needed and so on. But anyways, you are young, but people around your age are usually going to school and working on themselves so that’s probably why you can’t find anyone, which is not a bad thing, but you should also work on yourself.

[Asker]

Yeah I’ve worked on myself enough, I’m exactly where I want to be in life. I no longer even view going to school as a goal because I’ve made a good living so far with the path that I am taking. I know exactly what a bigger house comes with, considering my family did not have the financial I was giving every paycheck I had to them to help out from the first job I got at 16 until I turned 19.
And not to seem disrespectful since you mentioned a child, that’s definitely not a route I’m taking especially because I am 23, some people are fit to be parents very young and some know that it’s not there time for that.
But hey you won’t ever see what work I’ve done on myself or where I am in life because this is just the internet, but I spent 20-23 working on myself my main goal was to put enough away for a house (check), travel the US and go to Canada (check), meet my fit goals (check) there’s not much else that I want to do but make a home

[Vevv123]

You’re right, I don’t know you and your situation so you can take the advice that resonates and leave what doesn’t. Since it shows your are around 18-24 this is the best advice I have, as far as finding a relationship, it usually happens naturally and it’s supposed to take time since good things usually take time and patience, it’s too early to tell if you will be single forever.

[Nikki1989]

Don't be like a gray sprinkle on a rainbow cupcake.

You have many years in front of you to find someone.

[Asker]

None if I kms.
Honestly this has started weighing on me the last couple of months that I’ve fallen into depression because of it

[Anonymous]

By understanding how much easier your life becomes when you close the door to being anything other than platonic with the opposite gender. I close that door for 15 years, and what a peaceful 15 years it was. And I saved A LOT of money during that time not trying to date, BONUS!

It's not for everyone. But for some people it IS just the best course of action.👍💯

[Ask105]

If you get on a dating app you’ll get thousands of likes and 100s of boyfriend so i think you’ll be alright lol

[Berethor]

It's too soon for you to give up, how do you look? you can follow me if you want.

[Asker]

Followed you

[Berethor]

Nice, I sended you a message. :)

[Anonymous]

Men are not this important to be getting depressed over.

[Asker]

sounds like you might be one of the pretty privileged

[Danny_dan92]

I reached that point 7 years ago. Welcome to the club

[Awesomesauce2005]

How much do you weigh and how tall are you and ill tell you who the problem is lol

[Asker]

I’m 5’8 and weigh 130lbs

[Awesomesauce2005]

The guys around you are most likely the problem then lol

[Awesomesauce2005]

Also the fact you didn't take offense from me asking height and weight is in your favor lol

[Asker]

All good, I grew up with my brothers so I can’t take everything seriously on some things.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Thats a good trait to have in your arsenal

[Seangreen]

Just do you and if what will be will be

[Anonymous]

It gets easier with time.

[Happty]

I'd date you

[Asker]

You don’t know what I look like :/