Men don't want widow with kids, why?

[Anonymous]

[Zack-Bann]

Because a kid is entire person that will come to depend on you to influence them and take care of them, drive them to sports practice or the doctor, get attached to them and then see them off to college and eventually married if so they chose


A kid is a big deal


And a man usually gets the 9 months of pregnancy to prepare for what his life is going to be moving forward
He gives up many things that make him a kid himself in order to pass them on.


But walking into an existing family. With kids that already have a dad that isn’t him and just being expected to pick up on all the responsibilities instantly is just too big of an ask for most men


My advice: if you have kids, find a single father
At least mentally he’s already there.
He’s used to caring for his own kids and with you he would just be expanding the family by merging the two


This can work better than trying to turn a young adult childless man into a dad overnight

[ChicoFromThe305]

Its a turn off to many, this is no offense to any single mothers or offense to anyone's children but the cold reality is that a child of a single mother is a constant reminder to a man that the person they want to get with have been with someone else and have had a whole connection and even a big meaningful history, many things a person might consider life goals or life achievements have lost a specific amount of value, when one of the two has already experienced these things, it can be greatly unmotivating in general to men, one way to think of it is a moment in life that someone looks forward too is taken from them, it can also feel unfair to men that have made the right choices when it comes to how get treat women and respect them, it can be a very long thought process when it comes to incompatibility.

[Vevv123]

You can’t determine all men are like this. I ended up marrying someone who ended up being someone that was a very good father and even wanted to adopt my son and give him his last name. Relationships vary and people vary, coming on the internet and asking won’t really be realistic because no one knows you and everyone is probably going to say of coarse not, because it is a difficult circumstance to be in.

[Apple1996]

Most men don't even like taking responsibility for their own kids so yeah unfortunately they dont wanna take responsibility for someone else's kids either. Its sad but its just how they are. there's good dads (step and biological) out there but they are rare

[Samantha_Stevenson]

Why would anyone want a used toothpaste?

[ohsheeT]

Men our selfish. And are only thinking of themselves. Most don't even know how to love. Its one thing loving a women. It freaks them out if the have to be responsible and be someone that cares for others there brain only goes to me me me. Syndrome

[Anonymous]

For some men, the prospect of entering a relationship with a widow who has children can be intimidating due to the significant responsibilities and emotional dynamics it entails. They may worry about the financial burdens, the difficulties of co-parenting with a partner's late husband's family, and the challenges of integrating into an already established family unit. The man may also feel he would always be a "replacement" or "second fiddle" to the children's biological father, and that the emotional space for him in his partner's heart would be limited. These concerns are not necessarily a rejection of the woman herself, but rather a reflection of the added layers of complexity and commitment they may not feel ready or equipped to handle.

[Asker]

then people should date someone like them. i am sick of modern men complaining about women on youtube on their anti women channel. Men should date their equal, if you are not rich and don't date rich, doesn't mean you have to date someone poorer than you. If men don't want to date widow with kids, then if you have kids, then don't date women without kids. If you sleep around with women, then date women who sleep around. same thing as men not wanting women with kids, women who are looking for husband are not looking for f boys. dont date what you want, date based on your worth

[Asker]

be quiet about women and married what you deserve. then bothe side would stop complaining about each other

[KennethNoisewater]

I don’t think the widow portion of this question is relevant really. I think of someone doesn’t have kids of his own, there is probably a reason for that. I know a lot of guys that just don’t want kids. It’s a lot. It’s a ton of money, a ton of effort, a ton of time. It’s just a lot of responsibility. I think if a guy tells you that early on it’s a great thing. You want somebody who will spend quality time with them. Teach them important things. Some guys just are not into it.

[Nikki1989]

Many men can barely look after themselves, let alone children.

[Seangreen]

@Nikki1989 thats because its your job to take care of the kids

[Berethor]

Why would a man want to raise another man's kids? woman without kids tend to be better.

[slatyb]

Single men without children? They don't want to deal with another man's children.

[jazzy34]

Some men don’t want to take on the responsibility of another man’s children.

[BarryLiverstone]

They would prefer to date someone who has no children

[Alex-Snow]

They may not want the responsibility of kids

[jahaims]

Extra baggage

[In_Trance]

Too much baggage