I'm scared my boyfriend still sees me as just a friend. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

I confessed to my boyfriend maybe a month ago and we have been a couple since then, But nothing much has changed between us and it seems he still see me as just a friend. The only things that have changed is him simply telling me good night and just saying more dirty jokes around me.

I'm honestly just nervous he doesn't see me the same way I see him and we should go back to being friends.

[HawkPerception]

He's likely trying to respect your boundaries and doesn't want to ruin what you have by moving too fast.

My suggestion is rather than question strangers that may give you questionable advice on GaG, talk and communicate with your new partner. Express how you feel. Men aren't mind readers.

If he's agreed to date you, obviously he knows what that implies. Just communicate.

[AviatorTom]

As many have pointed out, we guys do not have the mind-reader gene that girls seem to have... and think that guys do too.

Talk with him, not to him. Tell him how you feel and what you expect from the relationship.

[Anonymous]

hang on, it's only been 1 month... guys are a little slow sometimes, maybe tell him how you feel and maybe he'll put in more effort. he probably has no idea you feel like that.

[Nikki1989]

The time for subtlety is over. You need to initiate actions that only couples do, not just friends. Hopefully he will get the picture.

[Finchie40]

Well your boyfriend should be your best friend but if you want more , then you need to communicate with him and tell him how you feel. He isn’t a mind reader

[jshm2]

Have you tried anal sex?

Joking aside, nothing much has really changed. So why are you expecting different? Was he supposed to grow a beard and become a "lite husband" or something?

He clearly likes you around, and thought keeping your feelings would be enough. It's you that wants more, not him.

[Miristheiss]

Well, all through history, women didn't have sex (because they'd get pregnant) and made a guy marry them and that is how she knew he was serious. I'm going to guess you've already given away the store to him so you'll have a much, much harder time really knowing what he really feels about you.

One tip for life. ALWAYS view their ACTIONS for evidence of how they feel and their intentions. Words are meaningless. View what he does and how he acts.

[heruncommonsense]

Don't worry. Males hate women, so he definitely doesn't see you as a friend.

Males themselves say that if a male is talking to you, he's trying to have sex with you. That's why males shouldn't be allowed near kids.

[Shy_Steve]

Whatever you do, Don't just flat out ask him what he thinks of you because he will think your giving him an ultimatum.

If you really love him just be more sexual with him when your alone together and don't put him on the spot or embarass him in any way when your not alone with him.

If you do that and he still treats you the same or worse then he doesn't like you.

[OneViewpoint]

Wow, you're really overthinking this relationship right into the ground. Exactly what monumental change (s) were you expecting after you agreed to become boyfriend and girlfriend?

[Alex-Snow]

I think you need to ask him what he expects out of your relationship. Are you two sexually involved? If so how is that going? Do you two live together? Message me if u want to chat about it. Hang in there!

[beenherebefore]

This is something you need to communicate. You need to tell him how you've been feeling and clear things up.

[janemarie15]

If me I'm in that situation, I will do a mirroring :) less physical affection or flirting, shorter conversations or less effort, more comfortable, roommate like energy haha I don't want to stress my life lol. I want peace

[Flower7]

Smart.

[Staximus]

Are you showing any signs of attraction besides telling him?

[linguistrosey]

Ask him? If you're scared of speaking your mind then your relationship is doomed from the start

[beefcakebradybatson]

Lay a b. j. on him or let him give you his boy joy.

[WhitneySnow]

Try kissing him

[jahaims]

You don't touch or kiss at all? Cuddle?

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just wants to take it slow.

[MeAndYouRightHere]

Ask him what he thinks

[spartan55]

No sex?