Would a stable and sane and accomplished man like and marry a woman who’s not accomplished, mentally/emotionally not super stable?

[Isurjrjrj]

lol I wonder why a man likes me or talks to me online and wants to meet me. I feel like I’m just an idiot. So sometimes I feel like I don’t deserve him even though he’s the kinda man i kinda would dream of. He’s so calm and stable it’s actually insane.

[Zack-Bann]

“I feel I don’t deserve him” is precisely what every woman says before she self-sabotages the relationship by cheating or dumping him out of the blue


I think men get a taste of that only once before saying no thanks


I fell for a girl at one time who was a mental mess
And her career wasn’t going very far


But I didn’t care I enjoyed being with her and that’s all that mattered to me


She would go on to break up with me without warning listing all the things that make me an amazing partner and basically saying she feels like an imposter because she doesn’t deserve that


Later on she became the mistress of a douche bag yoga coach who would kick her out at 3 am in the middle of winter when his baby mama calls


I was beyond disgusted by all that happened
Should I have been less of a good person?
Should I have quit my semi-high paying job?


These questions haunted me until I accepted that she was the problem.


And that example is not an isolated case
Many people go through that


So if you’re willing to truly accept that man who cares about you doesn’t care about your “stability” and doesn’t expect you to be perfect
You can get one.


But if you keep sabotaging yourself you will keep being alone

[ohsheeT]

It just goes to show you just because you feel the things you feel about yourself doesn't mean your that way because other see you in a different light. So just thing what would have if you believe in your self

[Unap0logetic_]

I think so, look at all of the celebrities who marry basket cases.. one of my cousins married someone that fits the way you described. If he’s happy, that’s all that matters. 😂 just do whatever makes you happy. Never settle. That’s what I would tell you. Also, don’t doubt yourself.

[Jessica405]

Sounds like you are a fun person. The sort my brother would go for. Unpredictable and full of surprises.

[Isurjrjrj]

Thank you 😄 maybe some men like that kind of experience in a relationship…

[Jessica405]

For sure!

[HawkPerception]

Men generally don't care about where a female is in life. We're romantic. We just want a partner who is with us through thick and thin, puts effort into the love languages, and gives us peace. It's only really women that judge men based on what they make.

[Isurjrjrj]

Idiotic misogynist answer

[HawkPerception]

@Isurjrjrj Nothing misogynistic about it. There are many women I respect in my life. This is based on simple observations and facts. Try asking a group of men if they care how much a woman makes. Then ask a group of women if they care how much a man makes. Then come back to me with that.

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[StephanieChick111]

A man values kindness over work accomplishments.

[Isurjrjrj]

Thanks I hope so. I’m not the kindest person but I guess he sees kindness in me. I’m just not smart or accomplished.

[StephanieChick111]

I guess just ask him what he likes and how you can be kinder to him. Good luck.

[Nikki1989]

Many would.

[Isurjrjrj]

Why? I feel unworthy.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not usually. Codependencies can be weird things though.

[Isurjrjrj]

You sound a bit rude

[ProbablyClueless]

Ah I can see how that comes across as rude! Especially without any kind of context. My apologies. I wasn’t trying to be rude.