Is it shallow to want to leave a person just because they added on a lot of weight compared to the start of the relationship?

[Anonymous]

[Amy_Mi]

Not shallow, but it depends on what you value and communicate.

Attraction includes physical, emotional, and energy alignment.

If someone no longer aligns with your standards or vision for the relationship, recognizing that is honesty, not cruelty.

The key is awareness and respect leaving for incompatibility is different from leaving from judgment or superficiality alone.

[Nikki1989]

The question of “shallowness” depends heavily on why the weight was gained and how you manage the decision.

[Summeroflove]

If you want to leave no matter how shallow. Leave…. You’re doing them a favor as much as anybody.

[Anonymous]

It depends on exactly why you feel that way. People gain weight for different reasons. I had a massive crush on a girl, and I noticed she gained some weight. I thought I would lose interest, but it didn't have any effect on my desire or feelings for her.

[Zack-Bann]

It’s shallow to drop the bomb on them out of the blue


But pushing them to workout and diet along the way
And then choosing to walk away if they insist on a destructive lifestyle is perfectly fine

[Anonymous]

Is it putting that person in a medically precarious situation? And be honest about that. Because it's shallow, within reason. But people are shallow. It's better to find that out a person early on.

[Danny_dan92]

Did you communicate your dissatisfaction with the fact?

[BarryLiverstone]

Not shallow. If someone chooses to be unhealthy then it could be a reason to leave

[yotaman99]

I mean if that’s how you feel my ex left me b after she changed me.

[Sebastian100]

Yes, that's shallow