Would you date someone that gets a lot of attention?

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By “gets a lot of attention” I mean someone who naturally attracts people, whether through looks, personality, or social presence (for example, people who naturally get a lot of compliments, DMs, or social attention). Dealbreaker or no? If everyone wants them… would you generally still want them too? 👀

Steak_D_Bone · Accepted Answer

Date to me just means fucking. If considering a relationship, as in committed and making her my one and only, I'd bother to take a real close look at how they value that attention.

If they rely on it for validation, you're walking into trouble. Someone that can't self-validate are always going to be trouble in the long run. They tend to have trouble putting a stop to undue attention instead of recognizing when it's cringe and becoming disrespectful to both themself as well as their partner. That results in it going to far and things happen. Also it's probably going to be their first reason to cheat if they're addicted to it like that. You work too much, got sick, was busy doing something and then they feel neglected and seek out other sources of attention... not good for a committed exclusive relationship... emphasis on "exclusive." They're supposed to be excluding those other people... not including them. Someone that relies on others for validation will feel forced to include them.

Jersey2 · Accepted Answer

I did. when I first saw her the word that came to mind was “gorgeous”. I remember taking a picture of her just to prove that I dated such a hot girl. She was very nice as well.

I guess you don’t have a choice if you like them. Anyway she was hit on a lot of times. One guy paid her toll in the car in front of her and told the toll takers that he said she was beautiful. Another time a guy gave her a gold bracelet at a wedding while I was there and he knew she was with me. I had never met the guy but he was trying to date her.

She never wore it and it was either shortly thrown out or given away as I never saw it again. Even at her bachelorette party at a bar some guy was buying her drinks until he noticed the engagement ring. I wondered about that one as she accepted the drinks but she said she never led him on. I figured that being hit on happened far more than I knew.

It is what it is. I figured if she wanted to go else where then these would be good tests for her.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I’d date someone who gets a lot of attention, as long as their character matches the spotlight they attract.

Attention alone doesn’t threaten anything.

What matters is how they handle it.

*Do they respect the relationship?

*Are they grounded, or do they constantly need validation?

*Do they choose me even when they have unlimited options?

If they’re loyal, self aware, and not addicted to the attention, it’s not a problem.

In fact, it can even make you proud to be with someone others admire.

So no, it’s not a dealbreaker, the real dealbreaker is insecurity or boundary issues, not popularity.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Yes. I dated him. He got tons of attention but it didn't make me feel jealous or like he would cheat on me or anything like that. He was a good guy through and through.

ManOnFire · Answer

I have dated a woman like that before. Them getting a lot of attention is not necessarily the problem, it's what she does with that attention that can be. And it honestly isn't a great relationship when a woman has the attitude that she can always get anyone she wants.

Some guys do like having a woman who gets lots of attention, and it's usually for the reason that they hope it will make other guys jealous, or out of ego where they like being seen with the woman everybody wants and he was the one who got her.

Summeroflove · Answer

Short answer yes. Longer answer, if someone’s going to cheat on you they are going to cheat. A person whose loyal is loyal no matter what happens the worst thing they will do is leave the relationship.

So if some people will only date someone they aren’t attracted to physically or even their personality. Because other people are drawn to it. That’s on them…

If someone has a lot of options but picked you… Well. Take it for what it is. If you’re someone who gets jealous too fast. Why? Maybe some people have a perfectly good reason for feeling jealous if someone isn’t loyal. But some people also simply project themselves. Because they don’t have self control they assume nobody else does.

HawkPerception · Answer

If they're a model or posting on social media, story after story, post after post, then no. I would not. It means they crave that kind of attention and are used to getting it. My attention would never fulfill their needs and they likely have shiny object syndrome, meaning they're more likely to always think they can find someone better than you from all the prospects constantly swarming them.

If it's a girl who's naturally beautiful and doesn't use social media and does not put herself out there as a model. A girl who doesn't go clubbing or tons of nights out with the girls. A girl who dresses conservatively and feminine in elegant dresses, then I would absolutely date her. I can handle her getting attention from other guys in person. As long as she's mine and wants to be mine and doesn't look for attention elsewhere.

MrOracle · Answer

I would not likely be interested in dating them. It's not an absolute "no" but it would have to be an exceptional situation.

So many women want guys that every other woman wants and they don't ever consider what that would be like on an ongoing basis.. Most (though certainly not all) men DO think about that.

I value my privacy and anonymity far too much to be with someone with celebrity, and loyalty is the most important thing in a relationship to me.

DishLady · Answer

Depends on the type of attention. sexual attention, then no. Attention bc he's smart or kind, etc., ok.

drummerdude25 · Answer

I’d want an attractive woman because I want to be with her. Simple… not because anyone else does. To me, relationships aren’t about showing off to the rest of the world. Maybe to some, but I think that’s a pretty flawed way to look at it.

Yes, status is always going to have some influence on things, but when two people are firm in their identities, beliefs, and missions in life, it ought to be just two people coming together, that go together. They deserve to be with each other, point-blank… ya know?

I think for a man, the biggest thing is knowing that you’ve found a solid partner. You can trust her. Because yes, if she’s attractive she’s going to get attention. It’s just what happens. Women are the prettier sex. By nature that’s what happens… but is the woman solid to her moral code, and committed to her partner? That’s one, if not the biggest factor for men. Is she really committed to “us”, right?

It’s not the attention… it’s how she responds to it.

Levin · Answer

I would yes. But you kind of know they're a bit 'dodgy' on the basis of their personality.

Some women get a lot of attention or are very attractive but you know they're 100% loyal. There's some you think, hmm.

All of their personality and subtle little behaviours reveals who they really are. Plus life is really different when you have a glut of choice. They always say that women have mentally already a whole bunch of guys ready when they're ready to break up. Social media changes the game, also.

There's one girl I know who is very attractive and can have pretty much anyone. But I always considered her a good sort despite it. But my mate told me that she told him that she was already lining men up when she was still with her guy.

Miristheiss · Answer

No.

Because I know just an average girl who is pretty will only get so much attention.

If she is getting a lot then there is some deal breaker going on.

She has some job where she out in front of the public, an actress, model, waitrss, some performer.

She may dress immediately. Not wife material if she does that.

She may be flirty with people. That breaks relationship boundaries.

Lots of DMs? Look, if she is in a committed relationship she shouldn't have thirst trap pics on social media or a public page where any man can secretly contact her.

Wise men will avoid these if they want a good woman.

Noredcarpet · Answer

I have dated such yes, and it was my bad because I had no worked out tactic to deal with that type of attention from those type of personalities/girls, that I withdrew myself from it all. Today I know how to deal with it and sort of wish I had a rerun at it, lol.

Purpleronnie · Answer

Depends on how they get “attention “. Some people seem to crave it either negative or positive , some almost demand it whilst some naturally attract it by their personality or physical attributes , natural or otherwise.

I dare say what attracts me to a woman may also attract others , but how much attention they get wouldn’t necessarily be a factor. How they reacted to that attention and or how he hat attention was inspired would be far more important.

Zack-Bann · Answer

If I wanna date someone worth the time and effort she will likely be an attractive person and attention comes with that automatically

I wouldn’t necessarily enjoy all of it

But I’m secure enough not to lose any sleep either

If chose me. She chose ME
And that is enough

RingOfFire · Answer

Yes, I have and I would again.

But if I was a woman I would not.

There is a difference. Just because women get a lot of attention from men doesn't mean they will cheat. In my experience the very attractive women I dated never did. But men who get a lot of attention from women have a very hard time resisting the temptation. It's because men's sex drive is more consistent and stronger than a woman's sex drive. That's just the way nature designed men and women.

FreyaRed · Answer

When the rules are defined, why not?
I'm confident enough to deal with such banalities like DM and compliments on my partner. It's not that I don't get any compliments and unwanted DM, I wouldn't cheat because of that, why should he do?

RandomGirl42 · Answer

Well, sure but it would never be an issue 'cuz all the attention would be on me where it properly belongs.

RavVid · Answer

I would if they didn't revel in the attention and purposely prompt it. In one instance another guy wanted to fight me for her. I can do without that.

HighValue · Answer

DMs= public social media so it is intentional on her part. If she posts provocative/revealing pictures online, she is cheating like the majority of women do.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Of course. Everyone wants to be someone who is popular. To be the opposite would be a huge turn-off.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Yeah, why not... As long as they don't have an ego about it.. I mean I want a nice looking woman, so she'll probably get a decent amount of attention..

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Ooohhh no! Just the thought of another man even thinking about my girl is- That's it which one of you was it?

mysteriousNicholas · Answer

I clearly don't settle for a woman that's less than I can get 🤭😋 I know I can get any woman I want 🙌👐🤫

jkreuger95 · Answer

my girlfriend gets a lot of attention now. but she's humble and sweet so it doesn't bother me at all

Anonymous · Answer

Depends how she treats me.

You have to trust the person you're with. If she treats me well and gives me no reason to doubt her then why wouldn't I date her. It's not her fault people are drawn to her.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Depends on the person, if they were the type to make me insecure.. no..

blondfrog · Answer

Yes I would, as long as she loves me I wouldn't care. My wife is very attractive and she is even famous and I don't get jealous. Cause at the end of the day she loves me and she shows it.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not a deal breaker as long as they’re not full of themselves

genericname85 · Answer

i mean are they loyal? if they are, this doesn't matter.

Anonymous · Answer

It all depends on how they treat me and react to the attention.

Luopio27 · Answer

Anyone who looks above avrage and has a nice body, gets that!

Staximus · Answer

Maybe, but I will definitely not date a woman that seeks attention

Cipher_Ledger · Answer

Yeah as long as I get more than just cameo appearances.

Californiagirl5 · Answer

Sure, if they were nice and if we clicked, and we were good at setting boundaries.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Date one? I am one. But yes. I’m comfortable enough that I want to see you shine too

Sebastian100 · Answer

Depends on how that person reacts to that kind of attention

Awomaninamansbody · Answer

Yes so I can make some money. But not like thugs who are noisy to get it.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

Dated and married one

dudeinohio · Answer

No. Attention seekers or magnets are a turn off.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I have. But we both did

Anonymous · Answer

Sure, if she is hot, yes I would.

robocop666 · Answer

I get a lot of attention.

EmBatman · Answer

As long as they are loyal

Anonymous · Answer

Who doesn’t like attention give it to me!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes.

nik_the_cur · Answer

Yes I would

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Sure why not

Nice222 · Answer

Yes I have.

Anonymous · Answer

No absolutely not.

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