Would you rather date someone who is perfectly content and stable in a simple life, or someone who is very ambitious but constantly stressed and busy?

[HawkPerception]

[Piercejeans1]

Personally I would go for a girl who is stable in a simple life. I think for myself... because I grew up in a household that was the other type. It was a living hell. My father was a Lutheran minister of a very large church and never had any time for anything or anyone other than work. Everyone around them inevitably gets sucked up into being an assistant. The kids take phone calls all day because some of them are emergencies and voicemail and answering machines won't cut it. The office secretary also takes calls and schedules things, but the work spills over. The wife... my mother... was his support team in charge of laundry, shopping, meals on demand when and if, in charge of women's church organizations, hostess for events in and out of our home involving cake, coffee, etc. The kids also were expected to uphold a certain image, go to choir... all of them per our age... Luther League (social)... boy scouts, explorers, and to not get caught dating any hookers. Just kidding. Who had money for hookers?

I imagine a life with a simple woman with simple desires would be relaxing... and much less stress. She would probably be a great cook, and we would have time for good sex... not a quickie. Imagine giving each other massages at night after a day of doing your simple... work or play. I imagine she would be great at decorating the home and garden with natural things... candles, flowers, and you know the old school hippie things. And when you are not rushed and pressed on a schedule, you have time to really think about work and plans for where the two of you would want to live and prosper. Too much stress and yelling and schedules when I was growing up. No thank you. Been there, done that. I never knew my father. He was the guy who paid bills and yelled at us when we were noisy. He was in his home office a lot and it always looked like an office depot blew up in there. Family time was running down to McDonald's together. He had a cottage in the mountains but really did not spend a lot of time there.

When he picked up lyme disease from the ticks outdoors, ironically, my brother the doctor was too busy with his practice to properly diagnose it. A whole team of doctors gave him tests and no one thought of the lyme disease. They blamed the heart, lack of exercise, diabetes type two, etc. No one thought that all the symptoms were Lyme disease as it trekked through its phases of mimicking other diseases. No one understood the irregular heart pattern as the disease interfered with his neural network... his nervous system. When he went into stage four... psychosis induced by the sack around the brain becoming inflated and pressing on the brain... no one thought of a simple three week course of doxycycline which would knock the (bacteria?) out. Borrelia burgdorferi. The slow insidious killer.

The doctors were too busy to really think it out. The family were all busy with their own lives. When asked if they needed me up here when I was in Florida, they all said no, no, he is coming about and doing fine. For three years. When my mother heard the thud downstairs in the bedroom when he dropped dead in the middle of the night, she was too busy to come downstairs to investigate immediately. She waited a half hour. Her female doctor friend down the road was not too busy in the early morning to come to the house before they called an ambulance and pronounce my father dead. When the ambulance came, they did not hurry, because a doctor with some time made time to legally pronounce him dead. So they could not touch him and try to revive him.

Isn't modern hurried life wonderful?

[ABC1x1x]

Option 1. Life is for living, not for missing it working for inflated useless USD where nobody would miss you if you died so your kids can miss you while your working for nothing

[DishLady]

If they're constantly stressed and busy then how are they dating?

The important thing is to have "quality time" for a date.

Having said that, i think you know the answer... I'm a busy gal and so i want to be with a guy who understands that. The sort that has an overly-simple life and nothing to do isn't able to keep up with my lifestyle.

[Summeroflove]

Well some people who are stressed need a partner the most. But that depends on the person.

[HawkPerception]

But who would YOU rather date of the 2

[Summeroflove]

I would go with the first one.

[Piercejeans1]

How true. My brothers... a developer in Florida and a dermatologist are both highly scheduled and appointment run. Their wives... both of them... are their main office managers and or exec vice presidents. The wives fit in perfectly because the one loves running all the numbers and handling the money at the office.. the developer. The doctor's wife loves being around him and is his personal cheerleader. Sickening to watch, actually. She deals with all the health insurance and tax paperwork and definitely neither of them are the simple life type. They are both rather the "lets build an empire" type. They understand what they are in the cogs of the business. Without them neither brother could or would function. Yeah... they must be the same type or it will never work out. The husband who is a top salesman in a corporation who comes home late and the wife is with the kids and shopping for food etc... have a lot of problems.

[Finchie40]

Someone that is perfectly content , because I want the same things

[Staximus]

The hell with ambitious, stressed, and busy.

[spartan55]

I don't keep people in my life who are in a perpetual state of stress

[AngryCarl2]

Ideally I'd like to date someone who knows what they want out of life and isn't afraid to go out and get it.

[Drumlin2001]

I'm OK with a simple life

[chucktheduck]

Simple and stable