How long is too long to wait for a reply to a text before you start writing someone off? Does the context change your answer?

[HawkPerception]

[MicahRaine]

I don’t really write people off for not replying unless it’s a habit and I know there isn’t a legitimate reason.

My best friend has left me on read and never replied multiple times. But I’m fine with that because I know he is constantly busy, and when I call he’ll pick up the phone or call me back ASAP if he can’t.

My “best friend” from middle school also used to leave me on read and not reply. But he was not constantly busy and often was just watching TV. He also generally did not pick up the phone or call me back. Keep in mind this is the same guy I had previously fronted $$ for so he could get a car. So yeah he got cut off.

context babyy

[MJVillarama]

if it’s been a few days with no effort to explain, it’s fair to start moving on. Context matters, busy periods or emergencies can delay replies, but consistent radio silence is a red flag. Learned this from Modern Success

[Summeroflove]

It depends on the situation and there is two extremes. There are people who wait months even years hoping someone will reply and keeps sending them stuff… let them do. Others expect a reply in 5 minutes even if it’s not a emergency and someone’s busy.

If someone tells me they are busy that’s fine. But if you’re going days without someone responding and you know they aren’t busy….. if they got time to be scrolling social media. Then move on.

[AviatorTom]

I don't understand why so many people expect an immediate response to a text. It could be hours or even days. If you write someone off because they are late responding, there are other more serious issues in your relationship.

[HawkPerception]

You're telling me you can take a minute out of your day to respond to someone? Sorry, but if you can't do that, you're not busy. You're just not interested.

[AviatorTom]

@HawkPerception I'm not a slave to my phone. Sometimes, it sits on my home office desk for hours while I do other things. And when I eventually pick up the phone, I don't immediately check what texts I've received.

[HawkPerception]

Lol my mom uses that same phrase "I'm not a slave to my phone." How is checking your phone once in the day to respond to someone which takes less than a minute taking so much out of your day? Sorry man, I'm trying to see it from your side, but I just can't.

[Staximus]

It depends on the circumstances really. If a few different people text you and their text goes down to the bottom of the queue then they might miss it.

[Staximus]

People place way too much importance on texting. If you really want to talk to somebody, call them like an adult

[HawkPerception]

Well, sometimes you don't have their number these days as people usually meet on social media or dating apps. And most people aren't receptive to phone calls if you've never went out with them in person these days.

Just speaking from my own experience

[Staximus]

Well messaging on social media is even more meaningless. What I meant to say was let's say you get a text from somebody when you're busy, and then you get a few more texts before you look at your phone. Then it would be easy to miss that text

[Jennz6]

A few minutes maybe more. You can always say wait a sec.

[HawkPerception]

A few minutes... damn lol

[Zionne]

Usually, if someone consistently takes 12–24 hours to reply with no context, it’s a sign they’re not prioritizing you, but yes, context matters (work, emergencies, energy levels). What matters more is pattern, not one slow reply. If you want to learn how high-value people communicate and avoid guessing games, a dating coach for men in Modern Success can teach you exactly how to handle texting dynamics.

[queenofcardio]

I'd give it a few days if I'm interested.. I'd be busy doing my own stuff

[itsannalee]

I won’t text someone again before they reply my previous messages no matter what.

[abc3643]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uXH7ZSlNG0

[melanieeeB]

With strangers? After a day. Like if you text a woman on a dating app etc and she doesn't reply in a day, then move on and don't double text or something

[melanieeeB]

Oh and if she texts like 2-3 days later, that she forgot to text you back, i would believe it the first time and give it a chance and see, some people are really slow texters

[Dina88]

probably two days.

[Raydergman26]

A little bit